Telling your child that he/she is adopted at an early stage?

How early is early stage? I first found out that I'm an adopted child when I was in 6th grade and I calmly accepted it. I think telling the truth at an early stage would help the child to cope in the future. Of course, the parents should be consistent on telling him/her that they love and care for the foster child and learn how to ignore ridicules. I think telling the truth at an early age give the child some sort of preparation for the future.

I think that if an adopted child hears this too late then it will affect him or her negatively. It could give this adopted child problems and emotional upset. A much better way of handling things would tell the adopted child using language he or she would understand at a young age. The best idea would be mommy chose that child. Then the adopted child would feel worth something. When the adopted child gets older it would be sensible to use language that is suitable for him or her. One of my friends found out her birth mom was very irresponsible. She found what her adoptive parents said about her biological mom harsh. In my opinion they should have told her she was adopted at around 4 years old and they should have toned down what they said about her biological mom.

If I ever adopted a child I would let them know in a loving way that they were adopted. I feel that secrets should never be kept between family members. By hiding that they are adopted it may cause more problems down the line. I think that being honest is always the best thing to do especially in situations like this one.

I think this is a tough one. I think if i adopted a child it would depend on my child at what age I would discuss his or her age. If there is an obvious difference I could see talking about this at an early age. If a child is loved and he or she feels that I think the adoption discussion can be positive.