how would you feel when a guy serenades you

Philippines
July 6, 2011 10:40pm CST
this question is for all the ladies and also for you guys if you have something to share. I wanted to serenade a beautiful lady, i know her and she knows me but we are not close. but i like her and i don't what to do or what would be my first move. I am little shy to come to her and tell her how are you when we are not close to each other. I am planing to serenade her but i don't know what would she feel and her parents because i am closed with her parents. what would you feel if you like the guy who is serenading you in your home? and what if you don't like the guy who is doing it?
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@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Hi! Well if someone would serenade me, how I react would depend who that person is in my life. If he is someone I've know for a long time already and I really know him, I think I can still be uncomfortable with him. But if he's not that person, well it really depends. Honestly, when somebody tried to serenade me, I was scared at that person and all I wanted was to not see him again (although I'm a little flattered). It depends on the girl and the person who will serenade her. You should observe her from a distance and then think of what to do next. I think if someone serenades a girl in her home, that would show respect, maturity, and seriousness. And that's good.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Hi! I think if you really like her, make her feel it in a comfortable way. Do it by doing good things for her, even small things. Girls fall in love with such actions. You don't need to tell her yet, but it would be better if she sees how good you are. But make sure you're showing her the real you and not just because you're planning to court her. Make her feel comfortable with you and be comfortable with her. Love takes time and give her that time. But while waiting for that time, make sure you do steps to make her fall in love.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
what a wonderful advice. but this is not easy thing for me to do, i find it hard even just to look at her eyes directly. i can't look at her eyes for long. how much more to ask her for a snack.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thanks, it really depends on whom you are serenading with. you are right i still need to know more about her in order to have a glance would would happen next. will it be a success or a failure. if i will miss the opportunity to court her and to serenade her, i don't know what to do next. she is like the apple of my eye and i find it hard to get closer to her because i don't want to let her know yet that i like her.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
I also want to know the answer to this question. But regarding you serenading the girl I would advise you not to abruptly do it. At least you should be able to get closer first to her before serenading her. With the details you gave in here, I think both of your comfort levels are not that high yet for serenading to have a good effect. Serenading at a low comfort level relation will only produce awkwardness and uneasiness for both parties. At least try to increase your level of comfortability with one another. Then after you do that go on with the serenading. I'm sure it will produce a nice, romantic effect if done at the right time. Good luck on you leon!
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thanks, you have a good advice, i am planning carefully that i might have her in my life. there's none like her on earth so i need to to make sure that everything would work well. it's true that i still need to build friend relationship with her and i don't want to so it abruptly. I wanted to be more romantic and you and our fellow mylotters are so helpful as i am pursuing to have a relationship with her in the future.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Wow! Good to know that you are in love! Just go on getting to know her first and deepening your closeness and relationship with her. That's the best way you will know if she'll dig you into serenading here! Of course, all girls would love to be romantically serenaded you just have to find the right timing to do so. Anyway, good luck on your pursuance of her. Planning to do such a romantic act is just the start! Go, go, go!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thanks, you encourage me a lot. I don't know how to move on in building friendship with her since i find it hard to come near to her because i don't want that she may know that i like her. i think this will be my first time to court a girl whom i like. most of the girls i courted before is just for the sake to have a girlfriend to let my friends know i have a girlfriend. now this is a true feelings and i find it difficult to make a move when you like her.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hello leon, My partner did serenade me and it his is Barry Manilow sounds like voice that I feel in love with (hahaha) It's kind of romantic ya know I am sure every girls would like to experienced this,not all girls are being serenaded right. I really like,and i feel so special that time.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Of course he did it when he is courting me eh (hehehe)
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
i believe. but it's good to experience it. if it's romantic when your husband serenades you, how much more romantic it is when he did it when you are still boyfriend and girlfriend. wow, i think it is really good to make someone you like special. wow, i really appreciate what your husband did to you. what a wonderful feeling.
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
wow, really great. you must be awesome.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Hi leon, if I like the guy then I would definitely be very happy if he'd serenade me. But if I don't like the guy then I'd be very embarrassed. I'm pretty sure that its really romantic to serenade a lady in her house, especially that it's not that common these days. But I'd like to suggest that you should make sure first that this lady of yours likes you. Well not necessarily like LIKE but you know, just find out first, make sure, that she doesn't "unlike" you. Are you friends? How long has it been? It's a good thing that you both are not close, because you don't wanna be in the "friend zone". It's just gonna be awkward for her if you two are very close friends.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
I think it's good that you're not close because it's kinda weird when someone who's a close friend of yours would suddenly court you. I think your odds are really good -- both your parents are close but you two are not, you know each other for 3 years, and you're school mates. I think it's worth the try, take your chance! And don't be afraid if she would think that you like her, after all, she'll eventually find out anyway when you serenade her . It's safer if she knows, so that when you serenade her, there wouldn't be any surprises
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• Philippines
9 Jul 11
i don't know why we are not close. it maybe because everytime i go to their home, her parents would entertain and when i am in their home i cannot talk to her or just greet her because her parents is there to be with me. so when i saw her, i'll smile at her and then that's it. my friends are close to her but her friends are not close to me. i never expected this that i will become interested in her. i plan to share this feelings to my close friends and i am little hesitant because they are close to her. there's a possiblity the she would know that i like her through my friends, so i'll just keep it in secret. just me and myfellow mylotters.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
you are right. my close friends are also close with her but we are not close. we just know each other and see each other sometimes and just say hi. me and her parents are close. we've known for more than 3 years already. we only see each other like once or twice in a month. we are school mate and when she has no class she is in the foodcart in our school selling foods. i will not come to her foodcart since i will not anything. i wanted to just to see her and say hi but maybe she would think i am interested in her so i didn't. but i like to see her everyday. i am already happy when i see her.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hi Leon, No offense meant if she is not beautiful will you still serenade her? For me this courting way like serenading is getting vanished now a days so if a guy will serenade me it's really flattering I will be impress and who knows maybe I will fall for him . If I don't like the guy I will still feel the same I mean he put an effort on it besides i find it sweet. Best of luck happy mylotting
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
wow, how amazing. if she isn't but beautiful but i like her, of course i will still serenade. i would like to experience it but i am thinking that maybe they will laugh at me and also their neighbors. serenading is already gone, and i am thinking, how sweet it is. i think i still need to ask permission from her parents or i will do it by surprise. I wanted to ask my friends to help me in serenading because i need someone to play a guitar for me and i also need back ups.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
bhaby, This reminds me when we spend 3 hours waiting for the singer to join us and settle things with "serenade plans"
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
@ jaiho, i will not ever forget that I mean we put an effort on it then it did not happened maybe next time it will
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
I'll blush FOR sure, whether i like the guy or not, you know the world is old but it's practices are new, different from before, I am a filipina, so i will love it if someone will do it for me, well if i don't like the guy, it's awkward but for sure i'll give you a smile, that's unique style of courting and through that, i know you're feelings are true because i know you won't risk your self from being the talk of the town after your intermission number in front of my house. And If i don't like you, i might like you after that, :)... My boyfriend always sings for me,posted a dedicated song for me, composed a song for me arranged a song for me,so i fall in love with him everytime he makes me so special...
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
go for it!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
wow, it's really nice. thanks, i hope she will feel the same way as you will feel it to make an additional points. i feel that she also like me because she can't look directly to my eyes everytime i shake hands with her. i find her looking at my hands than to my eyes.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Go for it, prepare well make it perfect, add some food for the parents, and to the gate man as well if any, for them to let you in.:)
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• United States
7 Jul 11
If you are nervous and scared about what others will think then try talking to her first. See if she acts like she likes you when you talk to her and then maybe that will make you more at ease when you serenade her. I am married but would like for my husband to do that to me (or maybe not) lol. I do think that's very sweet of you to do though!
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
yeah, i think it is still a romantic thing to do for your husband. you are right, i need to talk to her first and i get a positive response that would be a go for me.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Lol someone did this to me. He was decent, but we never talked and he just dropped by our home and his friends started singing for him. It looked awful I was about to throw him gallons of water, or point the garden hose at him and just drive them off. I think it's cool, but if the girl doesn't like the guy, it looks disgusting. I think a guy should ask the girl if its okay with her first. lol.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
hahaha. its good that you didn't do it. that's what i am also thinking, what if the girl doesn't like me so maybe she would also do the same like what you did. it's not really a sweet thing to do if the girl doesn't like you. you are right but i can't tell her of it's okay with her to be serenaded. It would not be a surprise anymore. maybe i'll find other ways to know if she will like it.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
It depends on the sincerity of the one serenading. If a man sings from his heart then it might work out well. I have been serenaded before but I was sound asleep and only my mom and housekeepers heard it. I wasn't even close to the guy. But I still think a serenade is pretty romantic.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
i think you are right, i feel that serenading is a romantic thing to do. it's good you experienced it, because serenades is losing its place as the tradition of filipinos.
• United States
7 Jul 11
Being serenaded makes me feel very special. My husband use to serenade me but not anymore. I think it is a sweet thing you are thinking of doing. Just make sure you do not over do it. If she seems to not be getting in to it just back off. Have a blessed day!
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
what do you mean by "do not over do it"? does it mean i should not do it many times over? maybe i will ask her this question, " how would you feel when a guy whom you know serenades you"? if i can get a postive answer maybe i could go for it.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
How cute your plan, that would be really nice if the girl likes you. If in my case and I don't like the guy I will appreciate it I wont love it, just a friends respect and smile to it. But if he's the guy of my dreams I will surely float in happiness and kiss him! lol :)
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
yeah you're right. i think i still need to find out if she likes me, so that it would be so wonderful. I don't know how to determine if she likes me or not. I wanted to do it more courageously if she likes me as well. we are studying in the same school, she is a college and i am in the graduate. every time i see her, i will smile at her and say hi and just pass her by. i don't know what to say if i will come to her.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
That is so sweet for a guy to serenade a lady. I find it uncomfortable at first if I do not like the guy. I would be bothered if he would be exerting an effort but then I can't reciprocate his feelings for me. If you would be serenading the girl, she may find it strange but cute at the same time. It is quite traditional but who cares, if you can approach her through serenading then just go for it.
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
yeah, i think it would be uncomfortable for her and her parents since they are not used of it and serenading loses its place in our time but yes, i think serenading cute thing to do. but it would be much better if i could determine if she likes me as well.