Can you be totaly honest to your bf/gf?

hi there jdex. i'm sorry to hear about this but are you guys ok now? remember me and zar? we just celebrated our 5th year anniversary on the 12th of july. we had the same monthsary date right? ^^ five years is such a long time, if i really think about it. and your post makes me think, did i ever lie to him during those years? and him to me? i admit there are things that i don't share to him, do you think non-disclosure of those situation or events can be considered lying? i believe everything boils down to INTENTION. there are things that i would rather keep to myself if i know they really don't matter or doesn't pose any risk to our relationship. now if it's something that would hurt or offend my partner, i will think twice before telling him. would it hurt him? sometimes, we do things we deem right but our partners see it in a different perspective. but that's one of the secrets of a lasting relationship. to make one understand what you think is "right for you" which is "wrong for them". sound unclear because of my english construction, haha. that's my honest personal opinion. what do you think? - kat

It sounds like the trust is gone. If the trust goes , the love will soon follow. Once I catch Anyone in a lie , I assume that Everything they say from then on Is a lie!To answer your question, Yes I can be honest with my guy and he is honest with me. We started out as friends so we are used to talking about Everything.If that Ever stopped , the love and the close friendship we share would disappear.

Sad to hear that your bf seems to cheat you. He maybe don't have any more special relationship with his ex,but why do he needs to hide it from you and even changing the name so that you will not find it out. I guess you need to think twice about it now. Try to check more things and try to see how true/honest your bf before it is too late. welcome to mylot

yeah. I can say.. sometimes I lie to my boyfriend. hmm.. Not really lie, but just not tell him. but it happened only once. but I dont have any plans of doing it again. We dont really need to lie. If we like, we resist the sin/wrong thing that causes us to lie. For example, (sin: flirting with other girls) Then we resist and stop flirting with others so that we dont have to lie about it.. right?

Hi my dear, you didn't open up to me. So, he's already in Cebu, GREAT, i just thought it is. But after reading this one, i said to myself, little CRAP! I know this usually happened to every relationship. Boys are stupid liars and they're not a good keepers, we always found out what they did in hell! You guys need to fix that up, and better to put the rules in his face! How can he make rules and just doing the thing! Oh yea, he even changed the name. You need to ask him if he still loves his ex. What the crap are they talking about?Receiving call and text! I think they're something you really don't know. Talk to the girl and clear thing up. :)

sad to know...but mostly guy's did that...so unfair!

For me yes because it is my identity to be honest if not then it is not good in the eyes of Jehovah God.

Now that's what we call a broken trust. I really don't like men who would make all the rules for women to stay loyal to them but they themselves dont follow. It's so unfair. They want our loyalty but they can't give us one. I hope that you can patch things up with your boyfriend and I hope that there would be no more lying from him because that would surely end things between you. Trust is the basic foundation if every relationship and without it expect that relationship to crumble anytime soon. Talk to him and tell him your doubts. Give him the benefit of the doubt but if you catch him lying again, then you make the decision. When my husband was just my boyfriend, there was this instance when his phone suddenly rang and he went away to answer it. Women's instinct I followed him and heard he's talking to his ex. He told me it was the first and he will never talk to her again if that hurt me. After which there was no communication between them again. I just couldn't get it why some people want to communicate with their ex and hide it from their partner!

Hi, What do your girlfriend, so far to appreciate your feelings, I think it is still reasonable. It depends on your own, whether you tolerate him. And honestly I do it often, just to keep feeling that my boyfriend is too jealous in some ways. In a relationship, I always emphasized to create a commitment, although it is not a guarantee. At least I do what is best for us. Nice day

Hmm well i think the only thing that could have forced him to talk to her ex is that your guy is too sensitive and don't want to hurt ex, and the ex is too clingy and may be crying a lot in front of him as she may not be able to detach herself completely.. then may be your bf is just having a formal relation with his ex and probably didn't want to tell you coz it would have hurt you...

I not totally honest to anyone. Something i think lie is better to solve the problem, then i will cheat them. i feel lie sometime can help prevent many thing to happen. But if can tell honest sure is better. When lie is a lot, hard to get trust by other people. And this will make our relationship become worse.

HHHHiiiiiiiii.................. To some extent tis is true tat we should always be honest to our love if we have a true relationship.We should not keep any secrets within us,rather we should reveal them among us.Actyually tis should be done which prooves ur love better & helps u to reach ur destination in love. But tis hapens to a lot of people that they find their love to be loyal towards them but at any moment of life find them keeping secrets.My dear friend,if the secret is on any matter which may dissapoint you,then u should forgive him.Bcoz he was just trying not to give u ny tention. BUT if the secret is like tis as u said then it is very disloyal towards u. Any secret includin an opposite gender in their life proves that he is very disloyal to u.U can give him a final chance OR else fire him out of ur life. IT is possible to be totally honest.But maximum do not do. it's very hard to find a honest partner in today's world.I think so.........

I had same situation with my bf but not with exes. My bf is actually was a man who is not enough with one girl in his life. He is the one who would cheated his exes just to get hook up with other girls. He said that since he met me, he stopped all those nonsense which is hard for me to believe. He also kind of guy who is very touchy and fragile, so I tend to believe him and till now he love and care for me is undeniable. One thing that I'm afraid is that he is actually forbid me to do certain things such as having guy friends and something like that, but actually he is the one who do all that thing. Guys always like that, he told u not to do it, but actually he is the one who master it! Trust me, you can trust them but always watching your back.