Would you still love a person even if you know you can't have him or her?

For me, I would still love the person secretly but I will definitely not pursue because I don't see any point in doing so as I already know where I stand. I will get on with my life like before while waiting for time to heal the wound. Like you said, the pain will one day come to an end.

Well if your love is unconditional then you would definitely still love the person even if you know that you can't have him/her. But still you have to move on one day, and I think that day should be the when someone else expresses his/her love to you, If this person loves you truly then you shouldn't deny him/her the love he/she deserves. And ya you are right pain should come to an end. And love is the perfect healer of pain, so we should embrace new love in our life.

Love begets love so if I keep loving a person who does not love me in return then that means my love did not beget what it deserves. So I think I am wise enough in my stand not to keep loving a person I can't really have. There are so many other men in this world so why would I die loving someone I can't really call my own and do not really care about me? It is not wise to keep a love that is not at all reciprocated. I would rather find a man who loves me just as I love him and live with him happily ever after.

Hi bingskee! Would I?? of course the answer is I would not. That is just me. I am not the type who will work hard to get that one and only love since there are lot more out there. Like you say it is hurtful but it just a feeling. There is nothing eternal except God. So the feeling will shade and fade away. That is why I like to say when we fall in love to someone don't give all the love to him , keep some for ourselves so we will not feel hurt and regret so much if something happen in a future.(^^)

I second what you said bingskee. Though unrequited love is really painful, the hurtful feelings will sure go away in no time. It simply means that the person is simply not meant for you. Move on and move forward.

If I may not. Better for me if it be friends with someone that I can not have her love. Because, I do not want to torture my feelings and live in a dream to have someone. For me I'd better find another someone who loves me with a really sincere. Happy Mylotting to All.. :D

I think that this is true whether you are a man or a woman. In my experience I have had break ups in my teens and felt really devastated at the loss. I did not stop loving the person just because she had broken up with me, but time certainly healed the pain and I would meet somebody else. _Derek

Time does heal the wound. When I fall in love with a woman, she has conquered me. It might hurt that she doesn't want me. But I'll get over it. And everyone has to be conquered by somebody.

I am like you bingkee. I never would torture myself in loving someone who i know i cannot have no matter what. When i was in my 20's i had a seminarian boyfriend. I love him, but the thought of having God as my rival to his love, i gave him up, and had another boyfriend to forget him. Lo and behold, i had my husband.

in a way , if that stature would make it as normal as possible for a person, so be it. but for me, I know I would deserve a person who is there ready to love you back. it's just a one-sided love affair.

There are times when the mind cannot meddle in the matters on heart, despite some factors like time, family and others. The heart and its matters is something else entirely and perhaps something that even our powerful mind cannot control. I have never been in this situation but I will probably act like any other person - just continue loving and knowing that there is someone special intended for me though fate, destiny or circumstance seem to object or block my way. We cannot measure how much we love somebody and how much care we give to our loved ones. Depending on a certain person and the love they profess, love can stay or diminish but never be gone whether the intended person knows it or not.

I tend to like persons when I can't have them anymore. I don't know why, but that's the way I am. When the person is totally available for me, is not fun as it is when I can't have the person. But, if I realized that I really can't have the person anymore, I agree with you. I'm definitely not going to be suffering for a long time for a person that I know that is not going to stay with me.

There is no way I would pine away for someone who didn't want me. There are some women who will stay in love with people after being rejected. I grieved for awhile when I got divorced from my husband but I would never keep loving someone who stmps on my heart.

There are different objects of love and different expressions of love and caring. Love and care for one's parents and siblings differ from that of love and caring for a wife or sweetheart. So, in that sense, I can love without having them as spouse or sweetheart.

You can love everyone but some people you just can't be with. If I knew I couldn't be with that person then I wouldn't bother with it. I would still be nice to them and be friends with them but wouldn't try to form a relationship.

For me no i don't take it just let him to be happy at it's owned that's love you let them go if they don't like you.

I have to admit that there has been someone who I have loved for about 10 years. We just never were able to get our timing right tho. We live far apart and just never were quite able to make a relationship work. Currently I am dating someone else. But there will always be room in my heart for the other love. I doubt I'll continue to dream and pursue him, but he'll be fondly remembered and I'm sure I'll still think of him from time to time.

That sounds like a line from the movie, "Forever and a Day". I honestly don't know how to answer it, but for now I say that I could not possibly do that. The moment I see that I won't be able to have him, I'll make a conscious effort to avoid falling in the first place.

First of all, this behavior is not common to only women. Men also tend to be like this. Human's nature is that they will fight to get the one that they love until the time comes that they have done everything they could and still they didn't get what they loved.

Yes, i can still love a person even if i know i can't have him. I can love him in my own way, thou i know its hurting. I just have to know where i stand and my limitations. Not necessary to say it aloud to his face that you love him, i can keep it deep inside me.