I lied to him about my family.. What should I do?

The truth will set you free! In my opinion, love is acceptance. If you love someone, you have to accept him or her just the way you are, who you are and where you came from.

Though it is not good to keep a secret to someone that you love, (fiends, family or lover) think about it a million times before telling it to him. you also have to suffer for the consequences. He may not like what you will tell him. Different things happens in different situations. Maybe you should keep it a little longer or ask him on what he thinks on certain situations so that you'll know his reactions if you spill your beans to him.

This could really be hard, depending on how your partner reacts to disappointments. I believe that you should go slow but have to start immediately before everything goes deeper and it will be harder for you to speak out or if he finds out from somebody else. You could probably start this kind of discussion with him during a romantic dinner or some very special personal event where you both have enough privacy. Good luck to you and I hope everything turns out well.

I also think that you must tell him the truth now. If you think telling him the truth at once will make you lose him then try going slowing. First tell him what would it be like if I lied to you about my family. Observer his reaction, if think he will be cool about it then you should definitely tell the whole truth at once. Otherwise start from little truths and then tell your complete truth. In either case you will have to tell the truth. And obviously he will be hurt that you lied to him but make him realize that how much you love him and you just wanted to be with him and feared of losing him otherwise would never have lied.

Hi aryna, You need to tell him the truth and if he really loves you he will accept you for who you are. Don't be afraid in confronting him your true identity. Please be honest with him. I know he will understand. I will pray that you'll have the courage to tell him. Godbless

Hello Aryna: I can see why you're concerned. Nobody wants to learn they've ben lied to, and for an extende period of time. You do run the risk of him getting extremely bent out of ahape. I do believe that if you don't share the truth with him eventually, the truth seems to always find a way to come out. If he hears the truth from another source, it will be worse! Hopefully the love that you two share will be strong enough to withstand this bump in the road. True love should be able to hold up. You are in a tough situation, which may only get tougher the longer you wait. I hope it all works out for you.

You should definitely tell him the truth and tell him slowly. I say if he leaves you after you tell him the truth, then he really didn't love you after all. Love means accepting the other persons life and so on. Wouldn't you rather want to know if he loves you and accept what your life is then live a lie and never know he loves you.

well, that is a common problem you've got. Tell the truth is, in most times, the good way to free you from fright, but i do not think it is the only way in your case. i think you should make something clear: what he cares more, you or your family, environment and etc. if you can figure that out, another thing you should do is that whether he could bear your telling lies. make these two estimates before you do something faithfully or irrationally.

Why? What is wrong with your family? It seems to me that you are hiding some dark secrets from him for almost a year! You mentioned that you have lied about many things to him. How can you do that to the person whom you say you love? He is actually "in love" with the person you are not. By keeping a lot of things about you secret, you are making him love another person and not you. If he finds out about this from other people I am sure that he will surely be disappointed and disgusted. Lying is like cheating. I suggest that you tell him everything, no matter what the consequences. If, after knowing the real you he still loves you, then you are one lucky girl. Good luck!

Your relationship is based on a lie and that is not good. It is best to tell him the truth before someone else does. It will be best coming from you. If he truly loves you he will stick by you. If not it was not meant to be. Have a Blessed Day

Wow thats hard. But on my own opinion you better tell him the truth than he will find out with other people. And whatever his reactions, be ready in that too you would know how much he loves you. for sure he knows you already. And its not your family he is in love with but its you. Just give him also some assurance about your relationship. Sometimes its so hard to tell the truth but the truth will set you free. The truth well erase all your fear. And don't forget to pray that hopefully he will listen, understand you and an open minded.

You need to tell him about it as early as now. It would be worst if he will find out about your family background about other people. Just tell him honestly that you love him that much that's why you lied about your family background. Just be ready for whatever his reaction will be. Good or bad reaction from him...accept it because it's your fault.

My advice..you need to come clean- it was easy to 'gain' his trust..but to re gain it- you may never be able to..x I hope all works out for you..

In my opinion you need to tell him. The truth will set you free. If he really truly loves you, he won't care about your background. I know for a fact, that if you are truly, madly, and deeply in love with someone, it doesn't matter what their parents do, or how much money they have. It doesn't matter where they live, or anything. If you are truly in love, you need to tell him!

For me if he ask you where you from in what family you belong that's the reason you told if not then let it be but prayed to Jehovah God that it is not good to lied but it has a lied that not bad maybe you are thinking now.

So your boyfriend have loved you because you have lied to him.I guess you are being selfish my friend, you cared for him so much but you keep a secret from him.Secrets can not be hidden forever.Your boyfriend had the right to know the truth.Almost a year is not a short time to think if you will tell him or not but my advice to you is, you must before he knows from someone else and that could really hurt him because you kept it from him that long.You better tell him the truth to clear all your doubts if he will still love you or not.

You should definitely tell him the truth, because if he finds out about it in another way, he will be very angry with you for lying to him for so long. And if you guys really are in love, I am sure he will understand if you explain to him why you did it. So even though it seems very hard to be honest about this, do it! And do it as soon as you can.

You know, lies will only hurt our loved ones. Be honest and have the confidence with yourself.

You sure not going to find yourself in the best comfortable position when you let him know what you have hiding from him. Rather than wait for so long its better you tell him now and tell him all the truth this time without anymore lies. For sure he will be shocked and will find it hard to believe as to why you did such a thing as also why you lied to him for amost a year. I know that the two of you ar in love with each other but be ready to be questioned and to why you did things like these and what was your motive behing doing so. If you are lucky and he does not say much about it the good for you but it could also be that he will behave differently for somethin and after he gets over it may be the same he used to be. Honesty and truth are the most important things in a relationship and if you have played with these they you might have to bear the consequences as well. I hope that you will let him know as soon as possible and hope things be the same with the two of you again and henceforth in future do not commit the same mistake again..

It depends on the expected reponse of your boyfriend. As I dont know your boyfriend's character, I cannot make a good advice for you. You can test his reaction. For example, asking him what he would do if his family or lover tell a big lie to him. Or just find a good condition and tell him the truth. Loyalty is the main element in the relationship. Good Luck! I believe you can overcome every hurdles if you really love each other. :)