All about finding a lifetime partner..who do you want as wife/husband?
@whitewingspeak (888)
Philippines
July 8, 2011 3:45am CST
Finding true love nowadays is so hard. We have our own preferences to find our ideal partner, and every list of qualities includes loyal/honest, understanding...etc. Even to those men and woman who have not tried a serious relationship look for this quality of a partner. Are liars growing in quantities nowadays? Is this means that is it hard to trust nowadays? Question is, are there still loyal men and women in the world? Who do you want to marry? What's your preferences?
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
The most ideal thing to do nowadays is to befriend the girl first in order to know her better. If you know her already like the back of your hand, that's the time you go in and make her yours. Trust is something that seems valuable these days. Everyone seems to be capable of betrayal, even women. You have to find a way to know the person's tendencies, more specifically if she's capable of lying without too much guilt or not.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I think that is a good idea but then there are men who don't like to have an intimate relationship to someone who's become his close friend. I think another way to find the right one is a long engagement, what do you think?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
The difference between a long engagement and friendship is the mindset that it brings the couple in. During a long engagement, the couple will be thinking they're going to marry in the future. That's something like a long wait and, as it might have occurred to you, people don't wanna wait. When it comes to friendship, though, it's a different story. The supposed couple will feel the excitement of what might happen; if they're gonna end up with each other or not. That feeling fires up their passion for each other more than getting themselves hooked up on a long engagement.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Different stories, different lives, different scenarios hahah that is, we are individuals with different types of life stories to tell.
I have a cousin who got married with her hubby after 11 years of long engagement. I also have a friend who got married with her GF only after a few months his courtship.
Maybe we should understand that all of these depends on the situation.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I checked the website above...it's quite good.
i think luck plays quite a role in getting the ideal partner in marriage. because there is just so much to discover, so much to find out, about a person, that you never will, until such time you get married and spend everyday together.... i'm married, and it's not an overly perfect marriage..i think it's perfectly imperfect in fact.... and i think we do compliment and supplement each other...but the bottom line is, we love each other and are willing to work our differences to make the marriage work. it's a blessing that i found someone who i can live with AND i can't live without.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Very well said. I wish you a long lasting marriage. Do you have kids?
Its good to know that you are applying the compliment and supplement theory in real life. Sometimes, due to our busy days that we have too many things to do, a lot of things can be set aside. The concept of compliment and supplement i think is just similar to give and take concept. Anyhow, i wish you both a happy marriage until you grow old, keep the fire burning! Happy Mylotting!
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
That is good news, yehey, I get excited for you to have your 2nd baby soon.
It's just a sign that you both are in love with each other. I wish you more blessing and a happy marriage life.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
8 Jul 11
I think when love happens nothing matters really but only the love and love. You will not feel good when you will not with your love partner.
You will have a feeling of being accepted and you will be special in your own way. It is okay to have relationships when you are of right age for it.
It is said that more emotionally stable people are more successful in the love life. Don't expect anything just keep going. If one relation doesn't work start a new one.
Learn to move on in life. Hope you will find your love of life.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Hi sanjay1422!
I got your point here, when you say when love happens nothing matters but only love. Yes, in some point in life, you are so careful to select who you wanna be with as lifetime partner. But no matter how choosy and picky you are, it ends ups forgetting your preferences when your heart beats for that someone. As if you forgot everything when your heart speak, all you have to do is just follow it.
I believe that every relationship must have a good emotional foundation to make it strong and undistructible.
@rattanchauhan (89)
• India
8 Jul 11
Well I believe that if you love someone truly then you won't betray the person you love. And if you are able to express to someone that you love them truly then they will definitely think twice before breaking your trust. I think it is rightly said that your partner should be complementary and supplementary to us.Everyone is not perfect, but in love you don't look for perfections either.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I agree with you rattancahuchan!
If you have great love with your partner, you don't feel like making mistakes with him/her because you don't want to hurt him/her. You might not handle the guilt facing your loved one if you betray.
I think working out the differences is an important attitude in nurturing a relationship. Be understanding, whatever disputes you have settle it in a nice way. Happy mylotting my dear!
@febrigas (362)
• Indonesia
9 Jul 11
Finding true love is not easy.
But I Believe that someone is must be created in a Pair.
Of course, sometimes it fell so hurts when we love someone who does not love us.
But it would be more painful if we love someone, but we do not dare to reveal and declare to the person.
Love is sometimes come unexpectedly, it can come from anywhere, from any way, and in all directions.
True love in my opinion, is when someone is full of feeling tied to one another.
If our partner feel sad, then of course we also feel sad.
Sad and happy always faced together, and mutually understand each other's personality.
So the days feel very very comfortable to live with her, even disaster strikes.
I guess I could just get married, if I find someone who can make me feel like that, and she also felt it.
:D
Happy Mylotting to All.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hi febrigas!
That was a hearty comment, thank you for sharing your views about finding true love.
If that is what we desire in life, to have a great love, i think God (whoever is your God) will give us then. I understand that Love is the best thing that happen in a man's life. I believe love will find a way to come near us, we don't have to desperately seek for it. It comes when its least expected, sometimes we just don't recognize that he/she is just there waiting to get noticed.
@katzar0712 (324)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
hello,
Definitely there are still ideal partners out there. I believe in this because I'm in a relationship right now and I am lucky to say that we are discussing about marriage already (we are turning 5 years)... his name is Zar and what i love about him is that he makes me laugh, respects my opinions (even if his opinions are different from mine), and always sees to it that im safe and happy.
finding love is not difficult at all if you know how to give true love back.
and the best foundation for lovers is that if they start as friends, because in this way they know how to deal with each other on a much better or comfortable level.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Wow nice, congratulations in your engagement. I believe too, that each of us has its own soul man, hard to find but if that is our desire probably we can have it sooner or later. Understanding is important in any kind of relationship. Be happy and I hope that you both could stay together for a lifetime! Good luck and my best wishes to you both!
@rambansal (574)
• India
8 Jul 11
For man-woman relationship choices, there are two criteria for the two being being complementary and supplementary to each other. A broad view is discussed here -
http://pleasures-of-living.blogspot.com/2010/07/supplementary-and-complementary.html
Also, on 'selecting a life partner' my views -
http://pleasures-of-living.blogspot.com/2009/07/selecting-life-partner.html
I hope your quest gets quenched.
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Hi rambasal!
Thank you for sharing this website. I like the content of this article, do you write this? I guess you have a lot of experience in life because you can not write something like this, without a basic experience. Did you do some research?
Thank you for the respond.
