Blended family advice

Five boys! My, that's a lot! It is like having 100 of them. Girls are a lot easier to manage as kids, but with boys, you'll lose your wit and control. Yours is indeed a complicated situation as the two stepchildren will surely try to challenge you, knowing that you are not their real mom. I wish you all the luck and before attempting to go harsh with them, I suggest that you be friends with them first, gain their trust, and make them understand that you are now their mom.

Hi Jennifer I read that your husband is gone a lot with the military. That has to make it hard. The mother is a loser...so I wonder who has more authority...her or you? Maybe the step boys have ADD or ADHD. maybe they have inherited some of their mother's mental issues. I've watched a lot of shows on TV and they have a naughty spot for kids to do their time out. They are given stickers and other things for behaving in the way you want them to. I don't know the name of the show but it is that Jo the British nanny. She has lots of ideas that work. Hope you can find the help you need.

I no where your coming from. I had 3 stepsons and they did not want to listen to me. Now if they are not living with you full time it will make it harder. First off the father has to step up to the plate and let them no it is not acceptable for them to disrespect you. It would also help if their mother would enforce this. Make sure you do not treat them any different than your own. It will also help as they get older and start to mature. Just stick with it and they should come around. Mine did and when they were I little older I adopted them. They show me more respect now than my biological children do. Good Luck

Being a step-child your going to have to talk to their father. You guys will have to work together. Family meeting time. Talking to him and letting him know they disrespect you and as your not sure on how to discipline them you will need him to do most the disciplinning and backing you up when you do discipline. They will have a harder time listening to you. You have to gain their trust first. Plus when they go to their Moms its whole different set of rules. Its good if all of you could figure out a disciplines that you all agree with and will stick with. On teaching him all the basic stuff he should know, Im sure you know boys are more difficult anyway. My son loves legos and we have taken the legos and arranged them into letters. Maybe one on one time to the library where you guys can read books and go over these things. The I'ts Ok To Be Smart cards are great to. All your kids can do them. They have age ranges but the kids love reviewing the younger age and being challanged by the older ones. The baby einstien videos are great as well. Especially if he likes music. I sing the abs to my son when brushing his teeth and I change how I sing it. Mine gets his letter and numbers mixed for some reason and he wont sing the abc song, but he knows it, so when I change it he finds it funny.Playing the games they have out for the little kids is great to, hi ho cherry oh, Disney has some great toddler games the big kids can play with him, candy land, etc. Family events where he is still learning. Online games with PBS, Disney Junior. Maybe make a reward chart for the boys to. Its hard blending families and I definatly wish you luck on this. In time it will get easier. I love my step-mom. I had a hard time for a couple years, but she is awesome.

very difficult situation. And really critical. With so many children how to handle not know. I have two and sometimes I can not tame them but they are mine and I can not hit or scold them. Another is to have your children and another is you to be their second mother. I think I need to find a compromise solution that makes it to deal with different things and gizmos to do well and I think that should go well. But just seems rn their children need time to get used to them. Made so that they take seriously. Once you will if their mother has scolded them know that you will be hard and will not think they hate you but you should have some respect and respect for you not to get on the head. I wish you success and a nice day!

Maybe you should try and get the mother more involved with the teaching. Perhaps the kids are just looking to have it their own way. You need to be a little firmer with them but not too firm as you don't want them to be scared of you. The best point is to be somewhere where they listen to you and respect you but also look up to you as a role model.

For me yes it is hard to overcome for that case in you be nice to them and take the law that they would do what do you mean for them it not easy told them what they feel and what you feel too.

I think the best solution is to leave the children to their blood mother, and let her do the work for them. It is so difficult to make the children in discipline.