Seniors don't care any more.

@allknowing (138092)
India
July 9, 2011 12:05am CST
Going by what I have been seeing here I feel seniors do not care any more how they die. Most seniors live alone their children having left the shores seeking greener pastures. Domestic help is a rare commodity and shifting to old age homes is like jumping from the frying pan to the fire. So what is left for seniors is to stay put in their homes and exist not live. In the last few months there have been reports of seniors dying alone and their bodies rotting with none to care even with pots of money stacked in banks and upwardly mobile children living their life elsewhere. This way of life it appears is here to stay.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 11
We have to admit that seniors aren't that perky anymore compared to when they are younger. They don't have much energy to spare with all the worrying and caring but I'm sure they still do when it comes to their loved ones.
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@allknowing (138092)
• India
9 Jul 11
The odds are against them and the present scenario does not augur well for them. Children have their own share of worry and responsibility and most of them are forced to look for their future leaving their parents behind and sooner or later one will become either a widow or a widower. The fact that so many are dying in their homes with none to care is very disturbing. Many prefer to die in their own homes rather than in old age homes.
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
I somehow can speculate why they prefer dying in their own homes rather than in retirement homes. The house might have gotten attached to them that's why they don't wanna leave their homes.
@allknowing (138092)
• India
10 Jul 11
You are right. It is like uprooting a full grown tree into another location when seniors are shifted to old age homes. It is understandable if they have nowhere to go and this category is very small as most seniors have their own homes. After living their entire life in a place they so loved surely they would want to die there but the situation is not conducive in that they have to fend for themselves which shockingly I see some opt for.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hello... Well it's sad for the old especially if they've become weak. Some old people are still able to do a lot of things, while others are not. In the case of your observation, it's really sad to think that some old people have been left alone when in fact, being old is the time whey they need most attention and special care. I know some old folks and I noticed that they are becoming more sensitive and expecting attention from others specially their children.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
9 Jul 11
Most seniors living in the US are not accustomed to having domestic help anyway so that has no effect on their lives. Many are left without their children and that is sad. My mom lives with us and so I know that she will always be here. I hope to never be a burden on my children and I hope to always be able to care for myself. I hope to live a very active senior life.
@allknowing (138092)
• India
10 Jul 11
Hoping always to be able to care for oneself is a great wish carol. In reality that is not the case. You will need someone around you to take care of you and do your chores but sadly it is more a rule than an exception these days that seniors live alone and die alone the latter being their choice.
@maxen07 (882)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
It is kind of sad that even as a family member, their very own children wouldn't take care of them and leave them instead to the care of others. That's why I'm saving up for my retirement this early. Even if my son grows up and takes me into his family's home, I wouldn't want to burden him with financial issues. I would still like to be helping him raise his kids and stay healthy for them. So even if I didn't get married, I wouldn't die with nobody by my side.
@allknowing (138092)
• India
9 Jul 11
Not when you are no longer able to take care of yourself. Then what happens. Uprooting a senior from their home to an old age home is not want a senior would opt for.
• United States
9 Jul 11
I understand what you mean. It's sad that the elderly are no longer taken care of or even respected as they used to be in the past. I'm not only talking about their family members either. Today teenagers have little to no respect for anyone that's older then them. I remember back, growing up in NY riding the city bus or train my Mom would always tell us to give up our seat if we saw someone who was elderly, disabled, or pregnant as a sign of respect for that person. It also showed that you had manners as well. Nowadays you no longer see that happening anymore & I think that that's just sad & utterly disrespectful as well.
@allknowing (138092)
• India
10 Jul 11
I cannot totally blame either society or children for this scenario but the circumstances that have led to this pass. From the way things look I get the feeling that seniors want to stay where they are and will not mind dying alone.
• Mexico
9 Jul 11
Well they can always go on the internet and engage in hot discussions can't they! I've been surprised by the number of old people that use the internet. The funny thing is that they use it for HOURS. I know a few old people that do. They are on it all day long according to them which is great. I think if anything nowadays they are able to live much more fulfilled lives.
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@allknowing (138092)
• India
9 Jul 11
Ofcourse they can do that provided there is someone to cook for them, clean their house, wash their dishes, take them to the doctor when they are not well, look after them when they are ill, take care of house repairs the list is endless.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
9 Jul 11
I am sad to hear that, I have no facts with me to prove your point but if it is so then it is really sad. Life is not good anymore if people are living their life this way.
@allknowing (138092)
• India
9 Jul 11
Yes sanjay. Life is not good any more. What solution does any one have?