What criteria do you follow for making and accepting mylot friend request?
@mindrevolution (50)
India
July 9, 2011 9:26pm CST
What criteria do you follow to make a friend request and to accept a friend request on mylot? do you think we should follow responsibly or just making mylot friendship a fun only.is the later good to do? what's your view about this issue?
5 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Jul 11
When I first came here I did not come with any friends, I was surprised by the number who immediately did request me. I was one who could not say no and added just about anyone. Recently I have had a few instances that spam by several who only come here to try and gain referrals. Therefore, I prefer to have interactions first and or see if we have similar interests.
It is wise to add friends slowly as this way you will know if you have similar interests. There is no point in adding someone who perhaps discusses subjects/topics that you will never respond to or they topic/subjects of yours and or you never speak to in PM perhaps.
If you log in regularly you get a sense of what members are like through discussions/responses/comments. I do follow a great many discussions from both members on my friend list and from several who are not on my friends list too.
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@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
10 Jul 11
I add everyone too, at least at first, I don't see why don't accept a friend request. Good that no one from my friends list sent me messages looking for referrals, I guess that can be pretty annoying.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Jul 11
As you can see from my friend list numbers I normally do accept everyone as I have well over 815 listed friends. I did not have a problem with spam until recently and it is not fun at all. To log in and see loads of members who do not interact at all in discussions but choose to send referral links. Some have not even asked if it was okay, and or a message explaining what the programs were about. I don't think that is fair and or a friend at least would not do something like that.
When I say one should do it slowly I mean if you add lots and lots it is difficult to keep up with all of them. I have all my email alerts on and my inbox gets flooded daily, and although I keep up with them regularly, there are many I simply cannot respond to and wonder if they feel ignored.
@mindrevolution (50)
• India
10 Jul 11
Ya you are absolutely right. it is better to have few good friends than to have a lot who are friends only to increase the list. such irresponsible practices make this one of the best and beautiful relationship lose it's very importance.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
10 Jul 11
I accept every friend request that I get. I love talking to members from around the world and I am always excited when I get a new friend request. Sometimes the members who send me friend requests become great friends and sometimes I discover that they were looking for referrals and not friendship or discussions When that happens I delete them.
I send friend requests to members who often respond to my discussions, members who start many discussions that I find interesting or members who interested in some of topics that I am interested in for instanse travelling or art.
@allknowing (136541)
• India
10 Jul 11
I look at their participation and then decide. Someone who is active and discusses well is what I look for. I have several pending requests. I keep visiting their pages and watch them.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 11
hello mindrevolution,
Person whoever request me to be his/her friend i add him/her to my friend's list or going through discussions i feel that the person thinks like me or i get influenced by his/her responses i send him/her the request for being friend.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
10 Jul 11
Well, I pretty much add everyone who send a friend request, I don't see why don't add the person. I only send two friends request, one was a person from the same country as I am (which is pretty hard to find here) and the other was because I wanted to know more about a site that she was talking about on a discussion.