Why People Give Advice They Don't Do?

I think it is very easy to give advice. Yes, much easier said than done. If we have experienced the advice given then we know what we need to do. If we care for the person we give the advice to then we want them to do better than perhaps we have done. Advice is the knowledge or experience put to use whether by the person giving it or the one given to.

That's so true! People do give advice, but they themselves don't actually follow it. I'm guilty as charged. Sometimes, I give advice based on my own experience. That means, those are the things that I've actually done and worked. But on other times, I give advice based on what I've read or learned from other people. I'm a great listener when my friends share to me their problems. And when they do, I just naturally come up with advice even if I haven't experience such problem yet. And I think another reason why people give advice that they don't do is because the one you're giving advice to is a person who has a problem or a dilemma. Therefore, you're obliged to lift their spirits up by giving advice that are positive. You don't wanna add up to their problems by giving the wrong advice, right?

Yes it seems like people who do give good advice can also be in the same situation and not take their own. I often wonder if it is that they too want confirmation? See they know what to do but sometimes it is good to discuss with others to sort of get outside opinions and although they know what to do they sort of want to hear others point of view to see if it is actually the same as theirs. This is why they will continually get advice from several sources until they actually get one or some that will also agree with what they had already advised someone else with. Sort of an affirmation, to their already know what to do, is the way I have seen it happen over and over.

hehe.. i guess you are right... it's easier to say than done it.. it remind me of jack black movie 'school of rock' he said that those who can't do, teach...

Advice someone gave me after I was told to take my own advice once- 'Its easier to help others, as your on the outside looking in..yet to be the one on the inside, is a challenge to help yourself..' Although I honestly, can say, I don't fully understand this- it makes a strange type of sense..

I think these people are so idealistic. They know what is the right thing to do because they are witty but when they are on the certain situation, they are fail to help themselves. Very ironic.

Yes, I'm guilty of this. However my heart is truly in the right place and I really do try to help people to be better. I just wish my own life was not such a mess and I was able to heed my own advice. I certainly know what I should be doing but being motivated to do it is something else. Can someone give me advice on how to take my own advice please.

hi bannybanzie my son used to say people are funny pecuilar meaning he could not always figure them out. thats what i think happens to me whem I give good advice yet do not follow my own advice. I had a problem relating to a resident here as she does not regard personal space at all. she wants to talk to you she gets right in my face and I back up. I like her but we are not buddy buddies. finally I told her advice I give others, you get in my space alice and you anger me. I decided you do not even know you are doing it so I thought maybe I could explain most people get uncomfortable if someone gets too close to them. She was really intrigued as she had never heard of this before and here she oldet than I am loll 96 to my 84. i am I guess better educated than she is I have a college degree blah blah. any way she talks to me now at a normal distance and I find her really interesting .she made her living as a personal masseuse and lived down on New Port beach at that timed . No the place where she lived is very expensive to rent.

For me yes it has said show that follow what I said but don't follow what my action.

Hi Banyy! Most of the time, I am giving it based on my experiences. If I am not doing it I will not give it to others to apply it. Yes, it is easier said than done. but when we are advising people bear in mind that we are advising our own self too. That is why whenever I am in such problems or involves in the same problems like them I will put myself in their shoes, give them advice and take the same for myself as well.(^^)

Even i have seen many cases like that. One person was telling another to walk for good health. And i saw that the one who was advising is not following his own word. So yes its seems that saying is quite an easy task than doing. Same thing, I have seen that one elder(who used to smoke daily) giving advice to children that smoking kills.

TRUE. It's always easier said than done. I am guilty myself too. I do give advices but don't do them. Why? because it's just hard when you're the one involved.

hello BB, I love giving advices to my friends specially if they really need one But it doesn't mean I can't do it to myself but you are right there are some people who give advices to other yet they can't try it when they are facing the same problem. happy mylotting

they give advice either they dnt adapt that,because they want their friends to be perfect..................... .

This is one common question that comes in every mind that receives advice. whether the advice is good or bad, but we definitely make it a point to ask them back, DO YOU FOLLOW? It is sometimes wrong in ones part to think that if the adviser does not follow, then he should advice. because sometimes it is true that they advice others because they do want others to fall into pit or trouble as they did. It is only because of their experience that they advice. This Is especially true in case of addiction.

Some people who ask for advice are actually seeking one of two things 1. They just want to hear another person opinion on the matter at hand and to guage if that individual agree with them or 2. They just want to talk for talking sake and really not seeking advice, but more of a way to hear someone either agree or disagree with whatever action they may be choosing to do. It is like a friend approaching you to aks if she should buy the red or black dress and then when you say "I think the red dress looks great on you" that friend says something like 'I know the red dress looks greta on me, but I love the black one...it fits me so well and I have a shoes ot go with it" and so on and so forth and then end up buying the black dress. So some people just don't want advice it's just human nature.

That is why they advice someone else. Because they don't want it to happen to someone what they suffered. This really a painful that adviser is also a lot of trouble and never get away from those bitter experience.

"Practice before you preach" is only a collectors' item. Collectors of sayings and idioms! But at the same time there is yet another saying - 'One man's food is another man's poison' And so the one who lectures may not be in a position to be able to do what he tells others to do!

Hello Banny! Yes, It is really true. It's good to give advice than do it on your own situation. Like you said, better said than done. It's like there was a moment for us that we know what the right thing to do but then something hinders us from doing it. Maybe it can be pride or any emotions we felt that we find it hard to do what we have to do. People have different feelings and different thought of every incident in their lives that they can find it hard to do the right thing. Well, it can be mixed emotions also and having heart and mind to solve any problem that occurs in our lives. We can sometimes find it hard to deal things with even though we know what is the right thing to do. There can be people who can be hurt in everything we said or we do. We just have to deal with it. It just takes TIME.

I really accept "it's easy said than done". If something happen to others, you can keep yourself cool and analyze the situation for them. But if something happen to ourself, we will worry, we will feel anxious, or may be afraid. We can't cool ourself. So we can think clear and don't know how to do. That is why the people give advise but they don't do when they in same situation.