Mylot is NOT like Twitter. You will not be paid because you have 500+ friends. I

United States
July 10, 2011 11:53am CST
was looking thru my friend list today and noticed there were 18 friends who had absolutely zero posts. I probably have more of these but stopped after 10 pages. What a waste of time. Why bother sending friend requests if you are not using the site? You guys have any of these? The good news is at least none of them have spammed me. Thats a no-no.
4 people like this
18 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Jul 11
I have several Lotters wth (0) onmy list. Some of them I added or they added me after the last taks that I created. Indeed after that task it was clear that there are MANY who are here exclusively for tasks. I didn't ount them but more than half of the 120 who completed it I had never ever seen and were at sero.
1 person likes this
• United States
10 Jul 11
Thanks for reminding me about tasks. I forget mylot has these now. Thats a good point except this makes me think, is the task to "create friends"? I can see adding a friend of someone you are networking with like your example. But I dont do tasks and have nothing to do with these people. Wow, thats a lot of clutter.
1 person likes this
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Jul 11
You ae not alone in forgetting about the tasks. I don't check the tasks regulalrly any more so I ahve no idea if there has been one about adding myLot friends or not. I have a huge friend list but it is not cluttered as they just siot there as good as gold (and don't spam). Recently I had one, who is also a referral, suddenluy come back to life after 2 years and I am pleased that I hadn't removed him
2 people like this
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
10 Jul 11
Oh, I never thought of that, but indeed, that does make sense that some people would come here just for the tasks!
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
hi sarge! funny you should mention this, i actually just went through my friends list to delete those that have no responses or those that have very little or limited activity. i figured if they haven't posted anything in mylot in the last past six months or so, the possibility that they'll log in one of these days and type up a storm is very unlikely. agree with you about these 'friends' not spamming. really less of a headache for us actual mylot users. cheers!!!
1 person likes this
• United States
15 Jul 11
I can understand why you would think that if someone has not been active for a number of months, then they most likely will not be back. However, I can assure you that this is not necessarily true. I was gone for four (almost five) months due to computer issues (mine broke and I didn't have another one to use). I was only expecting to be gone for a couple of days when I let my friend know, but it turned into weeks and then months. I finally got another computer, and I am back posting like crazy, so perhaps you should not count them out just yet, because they might just be having issues offline that are keeping them from here. They may surprise you and come back more active than ever after a time.
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
hi purple. you raised a good point. earlier i had posted in the discussion of a returning mylotter who was gone for two years!!! imagine that two years?!! as i was typing my reply in that thread, i remember this thread and what i had typed. anyway, your point is duly noted. i was gone from mylot for a couple of months myself so i guess discounting mylotters going on absence isn't really a good idea. lol! cheers!!!
• United States
16 Jul 11
LOL! It is funny that you had that experience after replying here. I have some friends on here that will "disappear" from time to time for several months, but they will eventually reappear and be active for a while. Some are going to school while others have a lot of work to do offline that keeps them very busy (sometimes traveling and unable to have Internet connection), so they just can't be here for a while. Many will usually let at least a few people know (generally in PMs) that they will be gone for a while if they know in advance. Sometimes things happen, such as computer issues, and people cannot get in contact for a while, but eventually they will be back ... at least most times.
• Australia
11 Jul 11
I hear ya there! I have quite a few friends & referrals that have joined but never made any posts...some have spammed me & others haven't. With the ones that have spammed me, I just either ignore them or I message them back politely saying that I'm not interested & please don't send me links unless I ask for them.
1 person likes this
• United States
17 Jul 11
@moonchild1au, how ya been? I used to reply back and tell them dont spam me but it was time consuming. Now I just delete the messages and they get the hint. Every now and then there is one who continues to spam. Thats when I send them a NICE STERN reply message informing them about mylot rules. They dont even reply to me but they also dont spam me any more. This method has been working for me and saves time. The only messages I want to see are from my real frieinds. I do believe that was the purpose of the friend request.
• United States
17 Jul 11
@purplealabaster, what are the spammers being rude now?! How dare they. That does not even make sense. They definitely deserve to be reported. Good for you.
• United States
15 Jul 11
I have reported ones that have not made any posts but just spammed me with a bunch of links and referral offers, especially if they were rude when they did it. I mean really, you want people to sign-up as your referral to make you money, and you are not even going to be nice when you ask them to do it? If the person is at least nice about giving me the "opportunity to earn", then I will just PM them back thanking them for being nice, saying that I am not interested, and asking them not to send me any more links to be their referral. I don't appreciate the spam, but if it is done nicely I will give them another chance and hope that they take the "hint".
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
10 Jul 11
There is an old legend that when you add the 500th mylotter to your friend list,your balance will mysteriously increase by 10 USD. Maybe I should try that too?Why bother creating discussions?
• United States
10 Jul 11
So many friends, so little time for posts. Now your comment is funny but hopefully this IS just a legend? Heck, after this post, I bet we all start getting more friend requests with zero posts. You already know how mylotters misread or "dont even" read the entire post before responding.
• Lithuania
10 Jul 11
It's just a legend people!Oh no, they already flooded us with FR's!Help!Sorry, It's my fault.
• United States
10 Jul 11
No apology necessary. I really enjoyed hearing about an old legend. Learn something new every day.
@alphenor (686)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
Too bad I can't tell how many I had since I deleted those kind of people. I guess myLot needs to have a new rule: At least one post within six months or else account deletion. That keeps these kind of people from coming. They just add to the clutter.
1 person likes this
• United States
10 Jul 11
There are people that leave for over six months and come back surprised to see their account still here. Thats a great idea you have, why not submit it to mylot. Did I mention there are even friends with 1 post on there too?
• United States
10 Jul 11
Do they need friends to complete the tasks?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Jul 11
There are many myLotters with (0) who never participate inthe discussions but they are actively completing tasks.
• United States
10 Jul 11
Yes I have over 800+ Though I am good about keeping up I certainly can't respond to all. I have slowed down as of late because many are FR me without any interaction. So I leave them in pending to see if their activity increases. I did not have trouble with spammers until very recently, where some will send me referral links for sites I am already a member on and listed on my friend list. I try not to be cruel as I did not come here with friends but why FR me if I cannot answer their specific topics/subject, is my daily question in my mind. I have not removed any from my list as they do not bother me. On a serious note I say to many new members that they should take it slow to see if they have similar interests because if not they will feel ignored, that often results in a friend request so not sure what else to say. On the flip side though, I don't think I have any with zero participation points.
• United States
10 Jul 11
If only mylot had a friend "search" tool this would help me. The reason I started this post was because I had to go thru pages of friends to find someone. It does help that they are in alphabetical order but geeze, 800 friends?! I mostly get friend requests for "more info" from some of my posts. Now thats a legit reason. Yes, you have been quite busy here on mylot. Happy mylotting!
• United States
10 Jul 11
Yes, forget about looking someone up in my list as it takes ages. There are so many similar names, that sometimes it gets hard to remember the extra digit. A search feature would be very helpful.
• United States
10 Jul 11
"I am already a member on and listed on my friend list. " should read already listed on my profile. lol
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Jul 11
LOL! Twitter doesn't pay anybody either. I don't generally accept anybody who has zero posts, unless they were someone I referred here. I think that some new users will browse through topics and randomly add people who have a lot of posts because they figure someone who's active will make a good friend. I don't always accept friend requests right away, I sit on them for awhile.
• United States
11 Jul 11
Sorry I didnt mean to imply twitter actually paid people for friends. But there are programs online "based upon" using twitter that do pay and the more friends the better. Well the majority rules. Do not accept friend requests from users with no posts. Sitting on them is a good idea too.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
I do accept newbies,so when that newbie stopped without doing any activity it ends with zero post. I leave them in my lists ,just recently i came to check my friend's lists and check their profile and sorry but i did delete some of those inactive ones. Because i need to accept new ones and i don't want to have too much number of friends in my list that doesn't exists maybe.
• United States
17 Jul 11
I have over 20 pages of "friends" and can honestly say I really know about 10 of them. Can you believe this? Only ten people? Sure I dont expect to know all these people. I see a lot of them in this MEM forum so I know they do exist. Some of them want more info from me and thats ok to friend. But those are the same ones in this forum so thats ok. Take it slow, thats a good way you are doing. Wish I had done this in the past.
• United States
11 Jul 11
I had one friend request pending, because this person had over 5,000 friends on his or her list and zero posts. That raised a HUGE red flag for me, so I decided to just let the person sit in pending status until he or she decided to become active. I just checked after reading this discussion, and the profile is still there, but all the friends have been deleted. I suspect that the account is in the process of getting cancelled for SPAM, but obviously I can't be sure about that until it happens.
• United States
17 Jul 11
5000 friends? Now thats a testimony on what NOT to do on mylot. That was a good idea you had on letting them sit. I just hate seeing those blue links at the top of the page any time. Makes me think I have to do something. After reading all the comments above, from now on, I will just delete them. If they truly want to be friends, they will send another request. Still cant get over the 5000 friends.
1 person likes this
• United States
18 Jul 11
I can't imagine having that number of friends, either. I have been on here for two years now, and I only have 281 people on my friends list. I do not regularly encounter many of them on here, and I am usually on every day for at least a few hours. I could never imagine having even several hundred people and trying to keep up with their discussions let alone five thousand, although I guess that it is not that difficult when you are not planning on posting anything.
@allknowing (136531)
• India
17 Jul 11
Ever since I have joined here I keep getting friends'requests and unless I feel there is some point in having them I keep them pending and watch their progress. At the same time the friends' list does not interfere with our activity here. Once in a way I check the list and notice there are plenty of sitting ducks. So let them sit there. But I don't delete anyone even if they have rubbed me the wrong way.
• United States
17 Jul 11
Sitting ducks, now that is a funny and interesting comment. And we all know what happens to sitting ducks right? I have way too many "friends" here on mylot. I dont know if I agree with you about keeping friends that rub me the wrong way.
@allknowing (136531)
• India
18 Jul 11
Sitting ducks because they could be easily ignored or deleted. And about not deleting 'bad friends' what's the problem if they continue to be there?
• India
11 Jul 11
right now i have 11 friend requests pending who have 0 posts after me logging on to mylot after 1 year.so theres more of these people in my friend list already but i dont bother how many there are because this isnt facebook or twitter.
• United States
11 Jul 11
Wow, they really bombarded you. Thanks for sharing. It would be very nice if we did get paid according to our friends huh?
• United States
17 Jul 11
Ha, we would be friendlotting all darn day! No thanks I pass. It would then make me start wondering about mylot if they paid us for friends. What are they gonna do with this huge list of friends? One big spam reunion.
• India
11 Jul 11
hahaha if we were paid according to friend lists every person would stop posting in discussions and go make a new id and send a frnd req for their real id hahaha
@syoti20 (5292)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
That's good to know. In my case I have tons of referrals but one's they reach 20 posts they are gone to thin air.
• United States
17 Jul 11
Wow they actually make it to twenty posts. Now thats very interesting indeed.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Well if Twitter would pay me to do that, I'd join twitter. But no, even twitter does not do that. Yeah, I got some friends who has done nothing. Well, it's every man for his own. Each man carries his own account. Just don't be bothered by such people. Don't accept them if you don't like them.
• United States
17 Jul 11
See my comment to mommyboo on page one regarding twitter. My apologies. I really cant say who I like when they have no comments. There is nothing to know about them to decide if I like. I figured, if they took the time to send me a friend request, then I can take the time to accept. Live and learn and I have learned late, thats all.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
11 Jul 11
I usually accept anyone's request,even if they have 0 posts when they request for my friendship,and after a while I remove them if I see they haven't done anything on this site.I really don't understand people who join Mylot just to spam,there are so many other sites when they can promote their links or whatever they want.Anyway,I guess there are still one of two individuals with 0 responses on Mylot,so I think it's time for me to delete them.
• United States
17 Jul 11
I just accepted all friend requests but never did any follow up. Me thinks its time for some house cleaning. As owlwings pointed out on page one of this discussion, mylot is known as a good place to spam. Think about it, you can get your word out and get paid for the post. Now thats a double whammy. So true yet so sad. Oh well, time to delete some friends.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
10 Jul 11
eheh may be many people subscribe on mylot and after a short period decide to quit or simply not partecipate to discussions...so it is possible they send you some friend requst to spam your account using the private messages...
• United States
11 Jul 11
Exactly my point. Dont waste my time or theirs for that matter either. Just quit mylot if you dont plan on participating. Spamming is not cool!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 11
hi havenet seen you for awhile segeantrom I am now looking at each profile and checking for banners as that clues me in to these people who are friend collectors, they have no mylot points as they are not using mylot like we do they are just collecting names for referrrals. grrrrr I do not take anyone with banners now, not a one.I have been spammed too many times now. I deleted all spammers too.
• United States
10 Jul 11
Hello there. Yeah Ive been busy writing again. Now one thing I will do is delete a new friend who spams me. I dont even give warnings any more. I dont have that kind of time to look at profiles but thats a great idea! With all the banners on my profile, one would think I was a spammer. Dont have the spamming problem any more. Mylot has seemed to clean up a lot of stuff these days. Have a good one.
• United States
11 Jul 11
Haha I think it's great that they have never spammed but then again, I think they only know the surface of earning online, which can be slow. I've never really noticed how much of my friends have zero posts but there are a few who are active, which would most probably mean talkative hahahaha Mylot is great. The people who are active really care about the site and are nice and smart and educated at the very least.
• United States
17 Jul 11
What a refreshing comment, thanks. You have said so much using just a few words! I totally agree with you about the active mylotters, they really do care about the site. We need more mylotters like this. Makes the site a fun place and also educational!
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
10 Jul 11
Maybe they had posts but they were deleted? Just a thought... I've seen that a lot of posts newbies make, get deleted, because they don't know what the rules are.
• United States
10 Jul 11
Now this is a good point of view. But boy, they must really being doing something wrong if they keep getting posts deleted and cant get over 1 single post? This really sounds like spammers to me. So they finally gave up after not making one penny.
1 person likes this