How do you deal with unpleasant people?

Oh man, I deal with those people everyday. You don't really "fix" them or they'll get more irate at you, you don't want that. All you have to do is keep your cool. At the office, you are bound by law and you can always reports any physical abuse so use that law if ever possible. Outside though, you're on your own. Well, you're still protected by law but there are a lot of workarounds that can work against you so you have to be aware of that.

Couldn't I say that you are complaining too? I could, because that is in part what you are doing. I'm not trying to be unpleasant, just pointing out different perspectives. You cannot hope that everyone will satisfy your "needs" as a pleasant person, or that everyone will meet your conditions for pleasantness. Not everyone likes the same food, that's why we have an insane amount of recipes. Just accept that are some people, or personalities, that you can't connect the way you wanted. You don't have to get angry or irritated, or whatever negative emotional response you get from them. Just acknowledge that you have yet discovered a new person who thinks differently and has a unique perspective on the world than you have. That doesn't mean that either one of you is right or wrong, or either one of us for that matter. It just means that each one of us has the opportunity to see the world in a different way. And if anyone ever tried to "fix" you, you wouldn't think very highly of them would you? It would be annoying to seem someone so full of themselves that they think they possess absolute knowledge of what is best. You just coexist with them as they do with you, because remember that you could be the annoying one for someone else. I sure have annoyed someone with such a long response, sorry :D

Like you said, everybody has people around who are pretty annoying. In my case, I try to avoid them as much as possible, or when they are trying to talk with me I don't really respond them, so they can leave me alone. I am a type of person who doesn't like to upset others or make them feel bad, so I choose the elegant way of not talking too much, so they can find another person to complain at or do what they want to do.

Take a deep breath and just try to smile.In most cases if you say anything the problem grows worse.Try to keep your distance the best way you can :)

I know many "unpleasant people" - I see them everyday at work and it's PURE TORTURE. Most of these unpleasant people in the workplace are INVALIDATORS - you present an idea, and they give negative comments, they put you down, they ruin your day. They demoralize you, they demotivate you. The best thing to do is to stay away from them. Because you might be contaminated with their negative spirits...

Regardless of who they are- I just smile, and 'be nice'.. this usually in my personal experience tends to just 'fix them, otherwise I just Ignore them til they find the decency to remove the stick.. theres no reason to be unpleasant..

Yes, there can be people around who are complaining all the time. They can be quite frustrating some times. Yet, at the same time, I try to understand their points of view and help them finding the way. The way I often help them is to see things in a positive way, rather than in a negative way. That worked in some cases, and the people finds relief from the situations they have been complaining about.

Well, if it is a good friend who is just in a "mood"...I just deal with it because well, we all have our days.or if it is a friend that is going thru a really tough time...I'll just deal with it because normally they are friendly and upbeat and obviously they need a friend. If it is someone who is habitually negative and down or angry or needy then I avoid them as much as I possibly can. I don't give out my phone # or address to these people for sure. If they already have it then I just make sure that I don't get so close to them that they feel it is ok to just drop by anytime they feel like. I don't try to fix them...they are who they are. I don't completely shut them out. I do understand that they need to vent and talk over their problems. I will listen but I do put limits on how much time I'll spend around them.

I think I might give them a chance first.. and then, if I still can't stand them then I'd make sure not to encounter them. If that's not possible (family or co-worker) then, I'd have to find a way to not let them bother me somehow.. if that's really possible.

If that person is my colleague ,i will surely find time to fix him/her. But,if that person won't try to change or maybe s/he find me offensive for interfering his/her life,then i better avoid that person. We cannot changed a person's behavior for a whole night alone. It takes time,and if that person won't cooperate of will find it bad...then things will only become worse. So,we better avoid more trouble..sooner or later that person will realized there is something wrong with him/her once his/her friends start avoiding him/her.

bad people have them everywhere. I definitely avoid such people. or if you have them behave as they behave with me. Quite often, and I push them away because they see my other line. But you can just show them that you do not want to company with them and have nothing to do. nice day!

I think the best way to deal with these kind of people is to just rise above their behaviour. As difficult as it may be, I don't think there is any point in trying to 'fix' people - most people are who they are and that will never change! In my experience, if you are just the most pleasant and agreeable person that you can be, and try to deal with others in a respectful and reasonable way, then people will find it very difficult to be unpleasant to you! And even if they persist, at least you will go home at the end of the day and know that you are the better person.

What I do is that I just avoid them. They are not worth your attention anyway. If it is a good friend of yours, then it is your prerogative whether or not to accept or reject him/her as a friend since she is not being a friend to you anyway. It is hard to fix people like that. Mostly, just what and who they are. So I guess the best thing is to avoid them so they won't affect our lives.