Why there are such person who can't be loyal to their wife? - just wondering why

It isn't confusing, a guy can love two women at the same time. True he loves one more than the other but he Can love both. A guy may cheat for many reasons ranging from not feeling desired anymore to just because he can. I agree with your friend. If she is happy then she Shouldn't care what others think.

why are there men who cant be loyal to their wives? i have asked the same... a real straying man told me, because he didnt feel loved by his wife, in all aspects everything is just lacking. thats what he says. you have a friend who became a mistress and is enjoying the situation... ok, first there is nothing enjoyable about being the other woman unless her reason for being so is for benefits. technically well yes they are called mistress but it hurts as hell to be called such especially since you know for a fact you sincerely fell for someone who you thought was single and now couldnt get away with it upon knowing they are committed because you are too emotionally attached. so a lot will say it is immoral and what have you...but you wouldnt know unless you put yourself in that other woman's shoe... so for some, they cheat because they want to experience the thrill of having different women with them. OR they are stuck with a miserable married life that they dont know how to deal with it and they cowardly turn to other women without settling what is necessary first before they commit to another.and they end up cheating. basically, they are just a bunch of coward men.

Hi! Men are generally born polygamous. And so they say. I think this is true. Many men cannot be contented with just one. In one offensive saying here, men just have to "taste" another "dish". But some also say that even if men go searching for another, in the end they will still come back home to their wives. I have a friend whose husband is a policeman. That guy tried to court me when he and my friend were already married. I was so angry at him. I told about it to my other friends except to my friend because I was afraid our friendship might get affected. I never even gave that guy any signs or whatever. I was never even friendly with him. I never gave him the chance to talk to me after that. After a few months, I just heard from my friend that her husband has another woman and they were going to break up. I told her it was a good idea. I don't understand also why men are like that. Those kind of men should be ashamed of themselves.

hi jdex, this is something that I would definitely like to know myself. I have a friend who’s been married for 8 yrs. They were actually doing ok when the husband was still working in our country – but when he had to work abroad… after less than a year… BOOM he’s already gone cheating. I don’t know if it’s because absence makes the heart grow fonder…or simply because the wife is too far away from him. I don’t understand it as well; I’m a single mom and I’m glad I am. I know someday I’ll probably want to be with someone but I'm really hoping not to. I heard once from my friends’ sister that men are bigamous by nature, I don’t know if that’s true at all. But I sincerely wish that men would THINK Hard Before asking someone to marry them, for some people marriage is a very big deal I just hope that those bigamous men would respect that.

This is one reason why i am scared to get married. i dont know why fidelity is such a hard word for men...

Love and being in love are two different things. Married couples do love each other, it will not go away, but being in love can. MOst married couple tend to make the mistake of not staying in love and thus they tend to be less passionate. If one starts to see that others are willing to give him that passion, that's where they cheat. It's no excuse of course for cheating, but in order to stay in love, both the husband and wife must work on this.

There as many excuses as there are men who need them. I have no forgivness for this, Marriage is a contract between two people, it's legal and both people rely on the other to keep their word. If one finds the contract no longer works for him then he needs to void it. Divorce. To lie and go behind a person's back does nothing but break the trust between both people. A woman sho would contribute to the breaking of this trust and has very little self worth, she is selling herself at the expense of another woman's sorrow.

Well its probably lie what your friend is telling and also the guy is cheating to his wife, if he ever loved his wife he would certainly not fall into situations like these, also i don't know about your friends behavior, but its not possible to keep two legs on two stones you have to one either one, Your friend and the married guy may having a lot of fun but this won't last long somewhere and something a one duration point of time, they will realize their mistake. It is better to take precautions they to be cured. After all we have been hearing this famous phrase precaution is better than cure, So just try to make realize your friend about it, iam sure through polite behavior and some understanding words she will understand.

I'm confused too and I just hate girls who got involved with married man, so disgusting.i hope i'll never bumped into situation. I hope soooo

Males are born to be polygamy. There is no wonder why the norms whole-heartily accept situations of husband having mistresses. If you will asks a guy, he'll just tell that it's their nature and they can't help it. But, when a guy falls in love he becomes faithful to the point that he will do everything just to please his love. The reason behind hubbies cheat their wife is that they don't truly and sincerely love their partner. It's simple: If you deeply and genuinely love someone; you don't want to hurt his/her feelings.

Mistresses or having a mistress is a sensitive issue to tackle. But you have a good observation there when you said you're friend is enjoying her situation. why? on a general point of view, i don't agree with having someone on the side or someone at bay. i am also not yet married, so i don't think i can fully understand the issue. but engaging in another affair while married sounds very off to me. marriage is sacred. there must be a reason why your friend seems to be enjoying this. there must be something in their relationship that makes her content or happy, no matter how off the situation is. we can never really judge. -kat

He can cheat because his weakness is flesh and he doesnt understand the real meanin of love, and because he thinks he'll not get caught.