I am rethinking my marriage.

My husband isnt a social person. He likes being home and he isnt a huge talker when he dosent know you. When we started dating he put so much effort into our relationship. Once we got married and had our first its like he didnt need to try anymore. He never even proposed. We got married when I was two weeks away from giving birth at justice of the peace.I think he has gotten to comfortable and I have gotten bored. Its just firguring out what I would like for myself and hot ot make our marriage work. How to fall in love with him again.

Men are anti social.Before marriage they put every effort and after marriage they feel like they have conquered the whole world and so they get back to being anti social.They stop interacting completely.And this behaviour of men does not go well with every women.And with age men become worst. You said some where had he plays video games.If yes then you have got a best chance to talk to them.learn every thing about video games .And when he returns talk to him about video games while he plays and sit by side and watch him playing and while playing chitchat with him about anything or play with him in LAN.This way you will get more time to communicate. If he is not a gamer watch movies with him and while watching chitchat with him.And go out for dinners ocasionally. Cook some special dishes for him and play with him by asking ingredients in them.This way you will get to communicate. But dont expect men to talk much.In these ways he will atleast try to talk something.I hope this helps.I will pray that your relationship lasts longer.

On my birthday two years ago, my husband spent time with friends as well and i ended up spending time with mine. So basically i'm right that you're no longer in love but still loves him. Well i hope you'll be able to find ways when he gets back. Good luck.

I do love my husband. When we first started dating he put so much effort into things and now no effort. My birthday he pretty much did nothing. He asked if I wanted a cake and I said I guess not. I wanted him to put the effot into me that i put into him. He ended up calling some friends over for a last min little get together that last an hour because it was so late at night. I was still pissed since he called everyone because I was hurt he had put no thought into anything. I put so much effort into everything I do for him. Before he goes out to sea I send him with notes to open on certain dates, a book, I hide little love notes in his pockets, I get little effot in return. I just feel he relys on me for everything except finances. Im fortunate to stay home, I just wish he would show me the same appreciation I show him. When hes not here I dont feel I have to put the effort into him really. I put all my effort into my kids all the time. I just need to figure out me and in doing that maybe can help our relationship. i dont have time to go into everything. I do love him, but I dont feel in love with him. I wish he would communicate more. Once again I guess Ill be puting all the effort into helping our relationship and let me tell you Im exhausted. My husband is out to sea right now so I cant talk to him until he comes home, but maybe Ill have some ideas by than.

I would like to get a job, but it has to work with my scheduale. I would love to work from home. Just feel like Im helping out more. I feel I rely on him to much financially. We have gone on dates, just always the same thing and I always have to plan it.

I am use to it. He goes out to sea, he comes home he does the same thing. We have things from our past. He never cheated, but he allowed his family to treat me like crap for no reason. So I have a lot of hurt feelings there. He dosent talk to a cpl of his family members anymore and they blame me for it. The relationships have gotten better with some of his family members, mostly through my doing by constantly defending myself and than I stopped all communication with them so they didnt see my kids or recieve any gifts because my husband dosent do any of that stuff. They realized treating me the way they were was only going to make them miss out. So I think I still have hurt feelings there, but its getting better and I dont think the main source to my problem. I just feel he has let me down with a lot of things, but he is a good guy. I was in a relationship prior where the man cheated on me so I have trust issues. I do many things for my husband and my kids out of love. I think I just have a mixture of emotions right now and I just feel a little trapped so Im trying to figure out how to make this all work. I really dont want to screw up a good thing. Right now hes out to sea so I cant talk to him, but I can try to figure myself out and than talk to him when he gets home.

eventually you'll get tired of thinking... and when you do, you would just want to get back to zero and start over again, forgetting all the mishaps and whatever negative you have in mind. have a fresh start when he gets home and never bring up past issues. it might make you feel more secured to let go of other thoughts.

Yes, I would like to save it.I just need to talk to him and figure somethings out. I have done a lot of thinking, mainly what would my kids think? My parents divorced and I would have prefered if they had worked out. My has told me she should have worked it out, but she quit to soon. I dont want regrets and I dont want my selfishness to ruin something good. We all have flaws and just need to work through them.

I would be more than happy to talk to him right now, but hes out to sea. Today is his birthday and we didnt do anything special, hes not here, but Im trying to remember what I fell in love with in him. So for the rest of the month Im posint g anew pic of him on FB and will write something special. Hopefully this will help so when he comes home Ill know even more about what i want in our relationship.

I figured as much. Im working on it.

We have gone out, but Im finding we are quiet and do the same things. I have told him before I would like him to plan something, put some thought into something, but he never does. Hes helpless without me. Im not here he wont fix dinner. I would talk to him now, but hes out to sea. So Im taking this time for myself to figure out what I can do and how to let him know how I feel, once again and hopefully he will catch on. Just miss how we use to be.

I pray to God everyday and I hope he can send me guidance in this. I dont want to lose my marriage, I just want my husband to put some effort into it. Thank you.

We have been doing deplyoments forever. My life revolves around kids. I dont have temptations with dating other men. Im not looking for another relationship. We are active in church and take advantage of the free oppertunities from the library for my children. we have started swimming and I have many hobbies with crafts and photography. So I stay busy. Ill be homeschooling in the fall. I feel more like we have grown apart. I love him, but Im bored to. I fear since our lives our mainly our children when they leave the nest who will we be? I would love to talk to him like we use to but my husband is a closed book and no matter the effort he dosent talk much and is a creature of habit. I just need to figure somethings out I think.

I have a feeling its normal in any marriage where ppl just reach a point where they dont know exactly what to do. You just fall into a rut. Even though he is a good guy there are things I wish he would do or put more effort into. I feel I have grown and changed and keep putting effort into things, but he has stayed the same just gotten older. There are things I wish he had done in the past so cld feel more like hes my rock, but I as a child and than as an adult and through my marriage I have always stood up for myself. I havent had anyone who defended me so to say. So maybe thats part of my prob, because I mentioned it to some one else too. Since hes out to sea it gives me some time to figure myself out, what I want and what I want to do. Do I want to lose him? No! I also dont want to feel stuck either so something has to be done.

I have many blessings your right. I dont want to lose my marriage, but I just feel stuck. I want to be happy again. I want to feel like he will protect me, but I never have. I was in a relationship where I was cheated on, so I have trust issues. Im sure my husband wouldnt cheat on me, but the thoughts linger. I am bored with our relationship. I have two kids 8 and 5 and Im busy with them. We have explored our neghborhood and gone to the pool right up the street. I found a lot of activities at our local library that we do. I have craft hobbies I like, but find my life revovls around my kids. I need to figure me out as well and so somethings for me. I know communicating with my husband would be good, but hes out to sea. So this gives me time to think and do new things and figure myself out. I know others have marriages that have more problems evident to others, but our marriage has problems others dont see and we dont talk about. Everyone has their own problems. I know mine arent as big as others, but dosent mean arent valid to me. I want to make my marriage work I just have to figure it out.