When Life Gets Lonely

Philippines
July 10, 2011 11:13pm CST
Sometimes, you get hit by loneliness and no matter what you do to entertain yourself it just doesnt seem to work. You can laugh and smile at jokes but deep inside you are really lonely. Thats how I've been feeling lately... I feel very lonely, and perhaps one of the factors was that I had to boot my roommate out coz he brings more trouble than joy but anyway, a long story. I feel at this stage of my life where I already have what I think i wanted, a nice job, a nice apartment (nice for me,in my opinion). I mean I never really wanted much.. I already have most of what I wanted but I dont feel very ecstatic about it. Sigh.. my moods seem to coincide with the rainy days... must be the weather.
11 responses
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
27 Jul 11
Emptiness, alienated the wandering confused dreams, waiting emotional moment of fulfillment, a magnificent moment in which they find in themselves, in their vast depth, unaffected ... Loneliness pustiieste you, it's cruel than any exile, than any real prison, a loner who, in agonizing silence him, you throw in a lethargic state in which your thoughts seem numb, paralyzed, a loner who enslave you, restricts you, you suppress any confession, isolate your heart and soul of expression in a concentration camp denied the consciousness locked a ruthless loner who rips you without any ounce of compassion for your living suppressed. Loneliness is both revealing, it makes you step back on their trail, strolling dessert being to reconstruct the imaginative itinerary that you come up here ... But this is not far from there and now it is not at all close, and this makes the loneliness becomes a chore, a burden we hit increasingly hard on the shoulders ...
@abear247 (10)
• Canada
12 Jul 11
I would suggest listening to music, it can be a really big help, and there are two ways you can do this. You can try listening to sad music and get your emotions out, this emotional release could be exactly what you need. I also will look at some foreveralone comics. The other option for music is to listen to very happy music songs. Songs like Don't Worry, Be Happy, really any music that you find to make you happier, and just have a playlist of both to try to fix your loneliness. Also try to go out with friends, or on a date, anything that gets you out of the house really. You would be surprised how much less lonely you might feel if you even just go on a walk in the park with a trusted friend.
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
I often felt alone. I know why but sometimes it hit you. What i do is just seat at the corner and be alone for a while then i get a paper and pen and write my mood or emotions on that day. I pray also of what i have felt. And after all those a while i think of those people who needed me and said it to myself i have to be strong for them at least. Then i put a light smile in my face just to hide the loneliness...
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I think loneliness, or all the other emotions for that matter, are but natural. However, I think they are only bursts of emotions andreally shouldn't last that long. I believe that prolonged feeling of loneliness and sorrow or other emotions like anger, and other negative thoughts is already self inflicted. I think one of my mentors told me that it is okay to burst out your emotions for arounf 5 to 7 minutes, but longer than that it is already self inflicted. This is especially true in pain, suffering and worrying. So I suggest that you move on with that loneliness and be happy instead!
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
We're normal so we usually feel that way artistic. Boredom kills us just like loneliness! And I think you're lonely because you don't have someone to share your happiness with, someone who'll caress you emotionally and physically. Give yourself a break, you may have the things you like, job, apartment etc. but you don't have the right person with you. So, I hope soon you'll find that person! Be wise and I hope you'll fine your real happiness...
12 Jul 11
That's our humanity sinks in. We are only human, we feel happy and sad. We don't have a control the undesirable things that is going to happen. Look at the brighter side of life. We should take obstacles as a challenge. We should face it bravely.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Jul 11
Yeah i know what your talking about. Sometimes it can be a case of the blues, or the weather. Having to kick out a roommate though would definitely put a damper on my mood. I hope that your mood improves and you are able to feel better. Spend time with your friends that you really enjoy being with. Spending time with and talking with others can help take our mind off what we may be facing.
@rambansal (574)
• India
11 Jul 11
Loneliness is a rare opportunity to be on your own and think for being creative. All creations are products of loneliness, therefore don't hate it but embrace it, welcome it. In a crowded world, this is the greatest thing one can have.
@Awinds (2468)
• United States
11 Jul 11
Sounds pretty normal, considering your not use to being in your apartment by yourself. Still, it doesn't sound like a lot of fun. It will get better though - once the sun returns and you adjust. The lonely feelings of depression shouldn't last long since it sounds like you are where you want to be in life at the moment. :)
@sheen02 (14)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
We all have our down moments.I think it is best to seek out the company of your friends and family to help you combat the loneliness.
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Loneliness is such a sad affair. It can be unpredictable, just like what you said. Some factors are caused by other people, aura, traumatic experiences or anything under the sun. However, the truth of the matter is, in human nature, we never get satisfied with whatever we have (no offense). If we look at the brighter side of life, we are to be happy because we're alive and kicking. I, myself, am a person used to be filled with so much negative energy inside, but now I learned that we all must face the music, no matter what it takes. Be strong and courageous!