Does Posessiveness come along with love

I think alot of people do. I was and regret it. When a person is young and falls inlove I think that if they don't have a strong sense of self they do get posessive because they have self esteem issues and feel they could lose the one they love. And instead of becoming closer with the one they love the posessiveness pulls them away. And this could lead the loved one to someone else.

Yes, I think when I'm in love, I become possessive too. That's my indication that I'm falling in love with someone. I want his attention and everything. I get selfish when I'm in love. Hehehe

Hi Inetbiztj, Its true, its a part of love. Possesiveness is natural, but have to make sure it doesnot exceed its limit, else it will be a headache. Possesiveness is best way to show the deep love.

im not a possessive person but sure i wouldnt like that the guy i love just started to get too close to other girl. i would feel very insecure. im very afraid that a guy that i love just starts to love other girl suddenly. mostly now that it already happened to me. so i really feel more insecure than ever. anyway we shouldnt be so possessive we need to give freedom to the person. and i do that. but sure about feel insecure i feel it but about feel possessive not really. when i love a guy i really trust him a lot.

sense of mutual need, fear of losing and want to share like what you write, that's the manifestation of THE HOLY LOVE D, where we dare to make sacrifices and endure the pain and so on., that is love, LOVE is a compound of various feelings in principle, even some extreme if you do not see the 10 minutes it felt hearts are restless, that's love.

I think there is a need to predefined what the word "possessiveness" means to you for others to have the same ground of thinking. What I mean, possessiveness come in many forms and levels and by that, possessiveness may be that hankering for some while others are not. If a spouse get to someone else closely, it is natural for the partner to get jealous. It's normal for human to act and even show their regard to someone they really value and of course love. If your partner doesn't react to your showering of special care to others, I think it's quite fishy. But, the fondness becomes possessiveness when the spouse every most of the time check you out. Asking questions like: Where did you go?, Where have you been?, Who's with you?, What you did few hours earlier?, Are you happy with them? and What took you so long?, when repeated most of the time when a spouse comes after work or even from any important activity is a sign of having extreme possession. What comes to worse is that when the spouse is hinder to befriend other sexes and go out of the house with enough permission. Too much love is possessiveness.

it will ruin you relationship, if you love someone, put trust to make your relationship fruitful and happy ^_^

i dont think they go hand in hand. i was in one relationship when i just let my partner go where he wants to go or do what he wants to, as long as i know. i never pressed him to tell me everything, he just did so. then there's another guy, who im having troubles with like i want to be always clinging to him wherever he goes or i want him to always tell me his whereabouts. reason being, i trust the former more and i dont trust the latter fully.

Hi! A lot of people really become possessive with the person they love. I think a little possessiveness is fine as it may indicate one's strong love for the other. But everything too much is bad. Some people's possessiveness turn them to make bad things, which is not good and unhealthy. The key is to have trust in each other and always be loyal.

i think this depends on how nature of the person is. For me, I am a really very possessive person. When I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend, I really hated it when he talked with the girls I didn't like or with girls I didn't know. It made me so mad that I would go and scream at him But he always told me how he liked me being angry and possessive LOL good old days.

I think there should be a certain amount of possessiveness in every relationship. Not the off the wall, crazy possessiveness that you see in movies. A possessiveness that just shows that you love and respect your spouse and that they should only be with you and vice versa. That is a reasonable expectation in a relationship that is based on love and loyalty. There are other ways that in a relationship we can become possessive in regards to how much time our spouse or partner spends in other things, or with other people. We have to be balanced and not be unreasonable.

I am not possessive.. My boyfriend is the one who is so possessive. He keeps on controlling me and I totally love it, I don't mind if he does that. I love being his true self.:)

I definitely think that a little bit of jealousy or possessiveness is natural in a relationship. I think it is all to do with caring for someone SO much, that it is natural to worry a little if that person appears to be becoming close to someone else. It is the fear of rejection and of losing someone who means a lot to you that is the cause of jealousy. I don't think it is really too much of a problem until it becomes really restrictive - if the one partner is preventing the partner from spending time with anyone else then that can cause big issues in a relationship!