Responding To A Discussion Is Better Than Initiating One...Your Opinion Please?!

Hello Dear Hardworkinggurl! I am sure that you must be wondering why i have skipped your response and attended others before coming back to you! In fact I wanted to comment on every response in a row, but having seen the discussion between yourself and CThanum, I had to apply beak to my comment and i wanted to come back once I am free from tensions or pressure which I encounter if I see that responses are getting piled up and I need to attend them! First of all thank you very much to you and CTHanum for the encouraging and boosting comments! Yes, like you I also make sure that my message should get across the member whom I am addressing, that is why I am descriptive and try to use a simple language as we have many members here on this site whose mother tongue is not English! !!! Now coming back to the topic of discussion! I know that you are comfortable in responding to both the discussions and also at initiating them! I have seen you responding back to each and every response you get for your discussion and I think this is one of the reason why you are so popular on this site! I have mentioned at several places that you are justifying your user name, by showing your hard work on this site which is appreciated by one and all! You have a knack of writing, good grasping power, ability to understand the people and most important a good sense of humour! All these qualities of yours make your postings quite interesting and people all flock together when ever you initiate a discussion or respond one! LOL!!!! Thus this style of yours which makes your discussion very live attract more members and the discussion goes very long! Yes, I sincerely like to reciprocate hat you have responded many discussions of mine and I found them quite interesting too! Yes, I know few members on this site are fans of my horse, one is ms Hatley and another is Ms Diana, besides you who most of the times talk about my horse in their postings just like you! I am really happy to see that! Thanks for the response and Please excuse me for being so late..., I hope you can understand my problem and won't mind this ! Thanks and good luck!!!!

So true!! Bharat, I add three more thumbs up for everyone!!

Hi CT! I suspect that AKrao is like me where given a topic we type exactly the way we think where the two are very coordinated and the words simply flow. Oh and yes I am a very talkative person offline too, I do love to talk but I also like to be heard, so I try to be as detailed as possible when I speak as to not leave room for misunderstanding.

Hello Dear Umabharati! There is no second opinion about what you said! Yes, both initiating a discussion and responding have their own importance and they need to be attended with responsibility to make them quality postings. Both of these two together they form a discussion, so naturally both are important! Yes, we can initiate a discussion or post a response so long we can do it efficiently and carefully. But then the question is about the availability of time and commitment toward the topic under discussion! In the case of simply responding a discussion, we can simply give our opinion and leave the topic to attend another one! But then if we select to initiate a discussion then we are stuck with it and we can't run away from the responsibility of commenting back all the responses we get! Like the way I am doing it! Now my priority will be commenting back to all the members before doing anything more on the forum! Thanks for response! happy Mylotting!

Hello Dear Umabharti! I agree with you! there is no point in just initiating a discussion then not attending back the responses and commenting on them! Then the forum becomes more of a question answers type one instead of a discussion forum! So I try my level best to comment back all the responses I get for my discussions! Thanks and extremely sorry for commenting back!!!!

yes your right , if we initiate a discussion topic then we should keep on responding so that the chain goes on.However is the discussion does not get comment back in time then it is waste sitting in front to the system so that to respond.

Hello Dear Frontvisions! Yes, I understand your point! having started a discussion all we need to do is to wait for the responses and comment them back, instead of searching for some good topics of our interest so that we can respond back to them! !! You have a point that it is easy to comment back to the responses we get for discussion as we already have sufficient knowledge about the topic of discussion which makes our job much easier! Thanks for responding!!!

Yep. I'll admit, thinking too much for a response I absolutely have no idea of isn't really my thing.

Hello Dear CTHanum! That is the main problem with initiating the discussion! Of course with passing of the time or by spending bit more time on this time you can develop the knack of the commenting the responses. But then after that, I am sure you will find it difficult to handle so many responses because of the time factor!!! Another reason you quoted is also a valid one, i.e boredom factor! One may some t9mes get bored by discussing the same topic several times and may develop an aversion towards the topic. Where as in responding a discussion as you said we can just respond one topic and leave the discussion to search for another topic of our interest as we are not bound here!!! Hopefully you will have a new idea soon and we expect to see a good discussion from your side so that we can respond back! Till that time I wish you all the best and happy 'mylot responding' and thank you for keeping all your friends happy on the forum by attending their respective discussions! Thanks !!!

Hello Dear Jujunme! Yes,for a discussion forum both initiating a discussion and responding back a discussion are equally important as they are required mutually to make it a discussion! Yes, to initiate a discussion we need to give quite a good amount of time in thinking about the topic of the subject and then attending each of the responses we get to comment back on them! yes quality is very important on this site an they also insisting for descriptive postings which is very evident from the comment which we have left side of the answering box! Thus there shouldn't be any compromise in the quality, which again takes a lot of time to attend every response! Yes, I too feel that many people are interested in attempting a response instead of initiating a response or this reason! Thanks for the response!

Hi Pinkpiglet! Yes with so many questions in your mind and with the plans you are having at your disposal to put them across the forum for discussion, it is very evident that you are more interested in initiating a discussion than responding instead! We all are awaiting to have the discussions initiated by you! Commenting on a response may not be obligatory, but then it won't be a discussion then if we simply read the response and if we keep quite! Then this forum would be a question answer forum instead of a discussion forum! Commenting on the response not only opens up scope for further discussion , but it also give opportunity for others to participate in the discussion! It also helps in making fairly good earnings if we develop the habit of giving back some good, quality comments back to the responses! Keeping these point aside, don't you feel that we should respect and be considerate to the members who have taken so much of pains in responding our discussion in the form of a response! Since we really can't do anything else than reciprocating them in the form of comment is always a better way of making them realise that we care for them! This trend has been there on the Mylot right from the beginning and all the senior members are following it! So, please take out some time and comment back to all your discussion so that you will get more responses in the future and also that you will become popular very soon on this site! Thanks for the response!

Hi PP! It seems that you like to be the discussion starter!! I send you my friends request so I can get more of your discussions. It is not compulsory for you to answer all of them and it is up to you. Honestly for me I will answer every respond I get because they are chance for you to earn plus they are giving me an answer I don't want them to think that they are talking to a wall. It is fun to comment back to everyone response if you enjoy your topic so much.(^^)

Hello Dear Sreekala! There is no second opinion about the thing what you have said! I have seen you implementing it on this site! That is one of the reason , that you are sincerely commenting on each and every response to the discussion initiated by you, you are getting many many responses to your discussions!!! Yes, initiating a discussion gives us a scope for making good money as we need to work more by responding back to the responses we receive in the form of comments! This is the catch here, though we get an opportunity to make good money, for the lack of time, this opportunity looks like a liability and it will be very unethical to leave the responded member without commenting back! In a way we are hooked to our discussion till we are not done till the end!!! On the other hand though I know it takes some time to search for some good topics or topics of our interest, but it is much better in the sense that we can just respond the discussion and can calmly walk away from it! having responded a discussion,we are not under any pressure of moral responsibility or ethical responsibility to follow it up, as in case of initiating a discussion! Yes, it is always better to start a discussion only if we have enough of time to comment back on the responses we get, so that we can do full justice to the members responded and to the discussion as a whole! Thanks for responding!!!

Hello Dear LetranKnight! You are right! Lack of sufficient time is the main problem with me , I come to this site and spend some time say about an hour or so then U leave to attend my work, as I am a resident Vet working on a Stud farm. Since I am staying on the Farm I need to attend all the cases at any given time , may it be day or night. So normally whenever I feel that I am free after the work I come to my place and while relaxing or having a cup of tea or coffee I try to make some postings! But then this period is some times very short one as I am required again to attend some other case as I am looking after approximately 350 Thoroughbreds on the farm.!! Well, as far as the point of holding a discussion is concern and making it a interesting one, I think I have that capability, as was a Ventriloquist (and still I am, but not actively practicing it any more because of my professional preoccupations) and have got more than 1000 stage shows to my credit! In ventriloquism the Ventriloquist needs to have a good presence of mind and sense of humour to make the conversation lively and funny one, while getting humiliated himself and not offending others! I have got this habit and ability, but then for implementing it I need again a lot of time!!! Yes I think I too need to train myself like the way you suggest to make some quick but effective comments in different ways though the responses are of similar nature! May be I will take some time to develop that Knack! Thanks dear friend for your valuable suggestion! !!

Yes, Dear Jennyze! You are absolutely right, it becomes a moral responsibility to comment them back for the efforts what they have taken to respond our discussion! And I feel bad and have the feeling of being guilty if unable to respond them deliberately! Because of this many a times I am subjected to some stress also and when ever I come to comment back to the responses, I get tired too early ant bored very soon, especially when I have a short period at my disposal to spend on this site! But still I try to manage to comment back every response I get to my discussion! So, as you say it is always better to respond to a discussion instead of initiating one and then commenting back to each and every response we get for our discussion! You can realise my problem from the way I am manging to comment back my responses at the present time! Thanks !!!!

Oh Yes! I understand that! Extremely sorry for being so late...but to how many people I can use this statement...Mylot may treat this as a misuse of the site, for using the same content again and again! !!! I have decided I will comment back this discussion of mine within next 24 hours, before doing anything next on this site! Thanks for the patience and understanding!

You are so late here.... I would expect a speedy response. Well, at least you came back here...

Hello Dear ptower! I think many of us are responding to a discussion rather than initiating one mainly because of time factor! I understand generally most of the active members are having their own occupation/profession/job to attend and these people just come on this site to have some quality time and entertainment to get rid of stress while making few cents! So for them time is really a big problem! In spite of this I really appreciate the efforts being taken by these people who are religiously commenting back the responses they are getting to their discussions!!! I am happy to know that you are doing both depending upon the availability of the time! That is what I am also doing , but for me initiating a discussion is more stressful then rsponding one! LOL!!! Yes, at the end of the may it be either initiating a discussion or responding it back to a discussion,all that counts is 'quality work'! So long we are contributing some quality work,we really need not bother about this issue! Thanks for responding!!!

Hello Dear Simply D ! I too agree with your views that it is not only easier to respond to a discussion but we become free from that discussion once if give our opinion and we are free to go to next one of our choice! While in initiating a discussion we will have to think for a topic and having thought we need to make it interesting one to attract more responses and having got the responses it becomes our duty to comment back to them! Though this activity is having good scope for earning, I think some time we tend to get bored discussing same topic again and again! Yes, I too like to have 'Best Response', though I have got quite a few of them, still when ever I get one I feel more happy and have the joy similar a school kid getting a star in the class for his performance! When I initiate a discussion ,I feel bit disappointed if I don't get sufficient responses and get bored and feel burdened as I need to comment the responses if I get a lot of them! Thanks for the rsponse and sorry for being late in commenting back! !!!

Yes,Dear Simply D ! I can understand that! I too have the same feeling like you have! I also realise that we are not paid anything extra for getting a BR, but then it acts as a big moral boosting from the person who initiates the discussion!Yes convincing someone with our views is a big reward in it self and we need nit have any extra earnings for that! I am happy to know that your some of the advises have been taken seriously by the people on this forum! That is the motto of this site , that is helping each other apart from making some small money here! You deserve a special compliment for this commendable work! God bless you! Thanks! !!!

The BR is like a medal to me. Though, it doesn't earn me a single cent, still i am so happy that from amongst the responses , it was what the one who started the discussion , chose as the best. I am also happy that some of my advises were well taken.

Hello Dear Humanicon! I also have the same problem as yours! Though I like to make my discussion a long one like many others by participating in it actively, I am unable to do so just because of lack of time! The idea of starting a discussion during week ends is good one, but I really can't do that also as I hardly have any opportunity to avail my weekly off as I am a resident Vet working on the farm and I am called at any time around the clock to attend any case pertaining to any horse! More over for the people who can avail weekly off, I really don't think that this time is a idea one as many of the members would like to go for outings during the week ends to enjoy themselves to get rid of the accumulated week long stress and tension because of several reasons! Thanks for responding!

I am breaking your rule! :) I don't think it's rude to comment to responses on a thread someone else started. The thread is not their thread, really it's more of an open discussion that they initiated. As long as the post is a quality post with actual content, I don't think it is rude to post. Just posting quick posts to try and get more "points" is rude. The person who started the thread here (AKRao24) can still comment on this, and so I have not hurt their earning potential.

True, but you had a reason to - to prove my point wrong. I suppose though I still think that the discussion starter should have first dibs to the responses. I admit though - I was thinking more of those people who take over the discussion. Those users who set out to comment on every response. For example, if you had commented one every response to this question, you would have taken over a discussion you did not start. It's not against the rules, but it just doesn't seem very polite. Let me amend my previous opinion: I think it is rude to go overboard and go along to every response to a discussion that you are not the host of. :)

Hello Dear Awinds! I agree with you that overall efforts taken and the time required to respond back to a discussion is much less than initiating one! Though this is true, but we need to have thorough understanding of the subject while responding it a topic as you never know when it would turn as a conversation or a prolonged discussion as it has just happened now! I prefer to respond more because of the time restraint, but basically I love initiating a discussion! Yes, as you say to initiate a discussion we need to exert a bit mentally to conceive an idea after that we should have proper knack of presenting it with an appropriate heading so that members should feel interested about it! This is a brain child of our's which we want to be nurtured by others with their added opinions! But the problem comes here only for me, I really can't devote a lot of time to respond back immediately to make it a prolonged discussion with a particular member! After that the biggest problem comes to select a best Response. It is really difficult to select a best response if we get too many responses! Now coming to the taking over the discussion, I think you have cleared about the issue with theknute ! I think here it is commonly seen that members are participating in others discussion to comment on a response, I too think that it makes the discussion live one! Yes, going overboard and participating in every rsponse on behalf of the member initiated a discusiion can be bit disappointing and disturbing! Thanks for rsponding!

Dear theknute! Our friends Flagaz, Nishant and Mike have cleared about the discussion and the response to the discussion! Yes, I can understand that you are interested in getting reply to a particular question of your interest which makes you to start a discussion. Otherwise if you feel that you want to have some chatting on any subject you initiate a discussion! That is fine and is appreciated! !! It is very natural for every one if some one participate in the discussion initiated by him/her which indicates that the discussion was interesting enough to attract others attention! !! But then though it is not an obligatory on one's part to comment back on every response, but it is minimum courtesy and mannerism that is being followed on this site by our seniors and the same is expected from the newbies too! Apart from this as explained by our friends in their comments above it definitely adds to the earnings if you give a quality comment to the rsponse! Thanks for the responding! All the best! !!

Dear Mike, I am sorry, but it is a fact that if someone has received no response to a discussion (whether it has a good quality or not), he/she would not get anything for initiating a discussion because it will not be called a discussion. MyLot is a discussion forum and a discussion is an "earnest conversation." If there is no response, there will be no conversation. If there is no conversation, there will be no discussion. If there is no discussion, there will be no earning. So, if there is no response, mylotter will not even earn for initiating/staring a discussion. Have a great day...

Welcome to myLot theknute! "If you have hundreds of responses to your discussion and you have not commented on a single response, you will not be credited anything for that discussion." (as it will not be a discussion) so, as flagaz indicated, it will be "better" (in terms of earnings) if we can comment on the responses to our discussion.

I see that you do comment back to every response you get, at least on this discussion you did. Good for you. That is a rarity here as most discussions I have responded to don't seem to have very many comments.

Yes Dear Aerous! I can understand you! Most of us like o respond a discussion and forget about it and search for a new discussion where we can respond back! This is really an easy task as our responsibility is finished the moment we post our response and we need not follow up it any more! But in the process of initiating a discussion we are bound to follow up the discussion and we are expected to comment back each and every response in the form of a comment! This is a minimum thing which we are supposed to do! I like to comment back every response of mine! But the time factor is a big constraint with me and I simply can't post a formal comment like 'Thanks for the rsponse!' etc.!!! Yes, some people have a natural instinct to start a discussion and they do it in very attractive manner while for others it may be bit difficult as they don't find suitable topics to initiate a discussion! Thanks for responding! Excuse me for the delay in replying!!!!

Hello Dear Anil! You are absolutely right! initiating a discussion requires more time than simply responding one! But then if the person initiating the discussion is not responding back in the form of comments then it is not good and the thing won't actually become a discussion! This would be just a question which has been answered by another member! But mylot is a discussion forum , so to make it a discussion of a topic, responses and comments are essential! But unfortunately there are many members here on this site who simply initiate a discussion and having got some responses they are not even bothered to comment them back! This is not a good thing on the part of the member initiating a discussion and the person responding the discussion feels neglected! Yes, one should divide the available time in such a fashion that we can attend both the discussions initiated and also the responses! Thanks ! Please excuse me for being late in commenting!!!!

Yes dear Anil! you are right! Mylot is a discussion forum and we should take the advantage of this ! Here we can exchange our views and get into a healthy debate! By doing so also we are in a position to make some good earnings! thus interacting and caring for others response makes the participant more comfortable and his Morales get boosted up! Sharing knowledge is the best policy in one's life! Thanks for the response! !!!

Hello Rao, thanks for comments, it is public site every one can join it. So we see here all type of persons. Some are only want to earn from this site. It is not good thing, we must be debate here on topics. It is not enough to give thanks for respond. If we have knowledge of particular topic than we must be share our views.

Hello Dear RamRes! Yes, I agree that initiating a discussion is equally important as responding a discussion and both of them together form a discussion! If every one wants to respond a discussion ,then where from we will get the discussions? I agree that it is a personal liking and taste who likes what! Some people may like to initiate a discussion while some may just like to respond one! This is entirely at the discretion of an individual! I understand that many other people you are also personally interested in responding to a discussion rather than starting a discussion! Thanks for the response with some thoughtful inputs! Please excuse me for being late in responding back! !!!

Hello Dear Beingwell! Yes, I understand your point! You would like to initiate a discussion if you have some thing interesting with you other wise you respond to any discussions of your liking , especially initiated by your friends! Yes, your philosophy about the earning is absolutely true! You write to earn your self and I write to earn for myself! I appreciate your views and I think all the members should make a note of it! Well thanks for considering me to be added into your friends list! I just approved it and I sincerely thank you for the gesture and I am happy that I met one more sensible person on this site as my friend! All the best!!!!

Thanks for the add, as well. I hope to see more of you, AKRao! Cheers!