Are Successful/Working Women Arrogant?

Hi preetha,In Indian society women have always been treated as second class citizens. All that is written about by women being worshiped and everything else remains only in print.Most men and the society in general would be happy if such a state of affairs continue.. Now with more and more women becoming successful in their career and becoming financially independent, it is but natural for them to feel confident about themselves and probably demand equal status with men. Is that wrong? I have a feeling that this is what is being termed as being arrogant..

Yes, and you are aiding/abetting their arrogance by hinting that they are 'successful,' as if their purposes in life are substantially-met by 'working.' Their life-purpose IS NOT MET BY 'WORKING.' They are needed more in their 'unpaid' supporting-position (although--granted--they ARE 'fed and clothed and housed etc.' for it), supplying 'ignition' to their men's 'engines of ingenuity.'

I do not think that is true. They might be financially independent but if they are given the respect due to them as a member of the family, most of them willingly part with their money. Including me, I know many women, who have used all their earnings for their family (which includes husband and kids) and also helping with their in-laws family. At the same time, I also know many woman who work for a lower salary not because they need to pitch in to make both ends meet but because they want to be financially independent who will not use a single pai of that money for household needs or anything else and they believe theirs is an extra income to do as they please while the husband's income should meet all the expenses of the home. That is arrogance....but I don't know the equation and what happens inside their home for them to take such a stand. A lot depends on the woman, the family and many other factors and I don't think we can generalize.

It is not true. My wife is a working woman. She is not arrogant even when I had heath problem and I had not any earning she behave and serve me properly. It many possible when husband of a working woman like to live on the earning of his wife.

Sounds to me like critics of working Indian women are calling them arrogant. Maybe some of them are, but I doubt all of them are. For centuries in Indian culture it has been the woman's roll to stay in the home and bear children. It is only recently that women there have gained some independence from this roll, but the majority remain less educated then men and thus limited to the domestic life. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but it seems the women ought have more choices in what they can do with their lives. I know that notion is very American in thought, but it does only seem fair. As for the generalization of working women being arrogant, it is probably a symptom of a backlash. Whenever there is change on the horizon in a long established culture there will be a backlash. I wonder what will the new culture war in India - traditional values or more recent modern values that have not been in India so long. In American culture the reverse is true - a woman with a career and goals is praised, but a woman who chooses to be a house wife or stay at home mom can be criticized as "lazy" or "shy and dependent." I remember my mother, who was a stay at home mom, getting rebuked for it on occasion.

I think that maybe people are mistaking self-respect and independance for arrogance. Being able to take care of yourself and be successful is a fantastic quality, and I don't believe that every successful woman suddenly decides that she doesn't care about anyone else and is only out there for herself. I think that others should encourage women to become successful in their careers and be able to live, work and think for themselves! Its all about progress :)

Honestly, I've noticed that the Indian culture is rather patriarchal or male-centered. And I guess, since it's a new thing for Indian women to be empowered, the Indian men are finding it hard to adjust to these changes. I believe that what the men need to do is to celebrate the women's newfound confidence. A woman, at her heart, only wants to be loved. It is the man's need to be cherished for what he can do. Don't oppose the changes; rather, celebrate them. The women will get softer when they get their appreciation. As for the men, don't get insecure. You're not being threatened intentionally here. Women are just celebrating their newfound freedom and source of confidence. Take a positive, appreciative and accepting stance, and the women will respond accordingly.

that sounds like a rather sexist attitude. that a woman can't do well for herself in life without developing character flaws. maybe they just become confidant, as they know they can support themselves, and not worry that they must rely on someone else for their security.

Not only India, I think. Because even here in our country those women who reach success in life will become arrogant also... Better for men to be successful than women...because I see some women here in our country that having a successful will became more and more disgusting...there God, is money

Hi friend! Sometimes we saw it as arrogant attitude while at the other time we saw it as high self-confidence. it is depends on how we look at it. Yes, I admit that there are some who raise and turn to the negative side while the rest still stay humble with themselves. It is best if they can act according to situations and this actually not just for women but every successful people.(^^)

Personally I don't think so, women now a days are becoming more successful then men, but I don't think they are arrogant. They are probably self-confident knowing that they don't have to depend on anyone but themselves, and let me tell you that must be a great feeling.

There are many people who are successful and I think we need men and women must be successful. I definitely like many successful women and they are happy. I think every woman has the right to be successful and strong. Because today we are all equal. Interesting discussion. Have a nice day!

Maybe some, but not all I think. Maybe the perception of arrogance may have ben confused with intimidating. I think women of power and status are quite intimidating for the men who are under them. It bashes their ego that such women are more successful than they are whihc in turn makes them insecure and intimidated by the woman. Just my two cents in here!

i dont agree with you at all. In my country successful women not arrogant but they more to show their success. NOT ARROGANT. you know why ? As we know, long time ago world only recognize MAN is the BOSS and SUCCESS from women. But now its different. Women can compete with man. That why they want to show to public that they have good career.

Not all successful women are arrogant, but some do come over as up-tight and arrognt once they have become rich and successful and tend to look down on others. This can possibly be attributed to the feeling that they think they are better than other women who are not up there in their level and thus have to act like they are better than slice bread. To these women, I say, always remember what goes up, always comes down. To those ladies who are successful and humble, I applaud them for keeping a levl head.

A lot of times arrogance is from one feeling superior over others. That is why a lot of rich people have this attitude because they feel that their money makes them above others. I think this attitude in successful working people is more from feeling competent in what they do. When someone feels comfortable in their own knowledge and abilities is is often very easy to become arrogant even when they don't mean to or don't realize that is what they are doing. I think arrogance is something that should be watched for and not allowed to become part of your personality. A little humbleness goes a long way.

I guess it all depends to the woman's personality. Successful or not,they tend to be arrogant if they are arrogant. An example is Ms. Patricia Hizon of the Philippines. She is successful, but she is so lovely and approachable. The mass dearly love her.

If they are surrounded by other women who are working and doing well the question of being arrogant will not arise as their success as a working woman will not be something that would be considered as rare or noticed.

I don't have experience with the woman of such kind because I am also an arrogant person sometimes and I am also in contact with the women who are financially independent but never analysed them this way. It is not about the woman or man but I think everyone have a different character according to their genes and that is how the people become arrogant or humble.

I've seen it both ways; some women are arrogant and some are more easygoing when employed. My guess is that women often have to fight harder to obtain higher positions and enjoy the same respect that men do. I'm not saying that this happens to all women in every industry but some women do have a natural presence and seem to have no trouble in asserting their authority and others need to put in more of an effort of being assertive. For example, take two queens well known to history. One Queen Elizabeth I and another Tsarina Alexandra Feodorvna. Both were born into royalty but as we look back, Elizabeth had an easier time in connecting with her people than Alexandra did. Alexandra almost had to force herself to do her public duties and was never comfortable. Elizabeth appeared to have an easier time in public, knowing what she had to do even though she may not have liked the situation. Hence, Elizabeth is usually viewed in favor with the public (even after 400 years!) and only recently has Alexandra been viewed with sympathy.