Sensitive wife

The wife has every right to feel that way. Imagine seeing your husband so close with a particular female office mate? Who wouldn't be , when all along they are always with each other at the office, it could be developed into something deeper. The best thing is to have the wife talk with the girl. Then, the wife could also talk with the other employees for their testimony that there's nothing special between her husband and the girl. That way, the wife could be at least appeased and pacified. Meantime, have your friend avoid the girl from now on. Better to prevent anything.

I am a wife myself. I must say that jealousy is a common part for each relationship. I am not a jealous type of person but when I see that my husband is beyond his limits of being a friend to some of his girlfriend, I make sure that i bring the issue with him straight away. I want it to be cleared with him. Trust is an essential part of a relationship as well. Is your colleague really that close to your female colleague. He should talk to his wife about this matter before it gets worse.

Hello yspmyl, It is natural the couples are possessive on each other and I think it is good for a strong relationship. But this possessiveness creates problem once it cross the permissible limit. I think your friend’s wife also possessive on her hubby, it is true that once she started to think in a bad way about her hubby then all is bad for her and her thoughts will be crazy. I think she should change her attitude and accept the reality as he has to coordinate with his opposite gender colleagues too. It is difficult to handle for your friend alone because well all know that the base of a married life is ‘trust’. Once we lose the trust then it is very difficult to regain. Here the wife doubts on her husband and I think somebody who close to her can make her understand the reality. Please ask your friend to talk to her wife and narrate the things happening in office including this colleague. I think hiding creates more complications. I would like add, you can ask your friend, how his wife get this thoughts in her mind.

I think i should get to know the wife first and the history of the husband as well. My mother was a very jealous woman and would nag my dad for being like a flower surrounded by bees(women). Yeah my dad was like a flower who attracts women wherever he was because of his great sense of humor. Though my dad wasn't doing anything my mom was still so jealous. When i talked to my grandparents about this, i learned that my mom witnessed my grandpa having mistresses though he never abandoned his family. In fact my grandpa was very handsome and women just get attracted to him. Since he worked far away he gets tempted and do played with fire but as soon as he got burned he would go home and confessed to my grandmother. Thus my mother knew about this and swore to herself that he would never allow her husband to be tempted and play with fire. I was never a jealous and wife and is never gonna be a jealous wife like my mom. I guess because my history wasn't like that of my mom and my husband is so in love with me, he's the one getting jealous!

I am a sensitive girl and I'll never deny that, i easily get jealous. Because I'm afraid to lose him. If I we're the wife and I saw that the girl was to close to my husband then I will rethink. How about you if you saw your hubby being caress by other women would you be happy?C'mon! That's a normal feeling of a wife. And i totally understand that. Sounds good when you said that there's nothing deep with them, I just hope too. Well, hoping that the girl is wise enough to think that having an affair with a married man is disgusting..

I had an experienced like that in our family. My father had been suspected having an affair with another woman who also happened to be my father colleague. My mother was not that suspicious type but when she, herself saw the kind of intimate closeness the woman shown to my father - well, she bursts. It almost ruined our family. The solution? We told him (my father) to stay away from the woman. The woman understand that because she is also a married one. I don't think that a woman will not act that easily if the man himself is worthy of trust. Female race should be aware that they should limit the way they interact with the married men. I'd like to lay some exceptions to those female friends of the married man that has been known by his wife. Married men should also set borders to those upcoming female friends - that's the consequence of being married. It's either lose a wife or a female friend - a married man still has his freedom of choice.

Personally this is a touchy situation, and sounds like the wife has a personal Trust issue and maybe this is part of the problem. Maybe she just needs to realize that just because her husband works around this woman and probably other women as well there is nothing going on there, and he Loves her. Maybe he just needs to find some ways to Win her trust and show her just how much she means to him and be able to keep showing it until his wife comes around in time.

yspmyl oh I used to be sensitive too until we sat down and talked it out as I really did trust him, but jealousy was rearing its ugly head and he assured me he would never cheat on me and asked me to trust him and also asked if he could trust me. I said of course you are the only man i love and will ever love.so those two must talk it out and promise each other complete trust , faith and respect for each other. My view is if your friend has always been most faithful and not even flirted she must learn to trust him as he probably does trust her.Communication,trust and respect for each other and for themselves should help to get that in the correct prospective for sure.

First of all, don't attempt to help the man. Let the man take care of HIS own situation by himself. If he is "innocent" then he has nothing to worry about. If the wife already has TRUST issues with the husband. It's more than likely she wont trust you either. So don't even bother.Trust me. Been there, done that. My opinion is, If he really wants his marriage he will do anything and go above and beyond to make his wife be at ease with the situation. If not then it's on his hands. His best bet is not to work with his colleague anymore. If not, he should have his colleague and his wife meet up and get to know one another, Maybe that could build a little trust. I'm just surprise the wife didn't try to confront the colleague. If I wanted confirmation, I would go straight to the source and ask myself. && if there stories match up. Then it would be all good. But if I were to find out a different story later, then they would both get the wrath of a pissed off wife. Okay. Lol. that was so not edifying. But I got worked up a lil. LOL! I remember when I was in the exact situation about a year and a half ago. Whew. Thank God thats over with. haha! Anyways, have a blessed day! :)

For me just not to think that all move to is jealous be calm and just laugh that because of the love in you she act that way and don't mind of it.

Although both of them are not having any affair, they have to behave themselves for not wrongly impressing other people. For me, it was very hard to judge, unless I were on the spot. In fact, your colleague shall be proud of himself because his the other half is still concerning him so much. Many things around you may start to happen without your realization in the early stage. We should be good in observation and be careful a bit to avoid the unnecessary trouble if we really don't want it to be happened.

Hi yspmyl. The wife has every right to suspect him. There is no smoke without fire. Even if there was nothing between him and his colleague, why would a married man be close with another woman who is not his wife? There are limits which married or committed people should never cross and maybe he crossed it when his wife was there. Even small touching and simply being with that person for a longer period of time will lead to a lot of other unwanted thoughts. So it is his duty to always be on guard. What if he had seen his wife act that way with another guy? Would he take it lightly? He has choices, you know? He has to stay away from that woman and try to convince his wife if he is so distressed. Or at least talk it out with both of them together so that her suspicions are put to rest and then stay away from the other woman. Moreover, you might just be his colleague, but she is his wife and she might have strong reasons to believe what she believes.