it is really confusing..i dont know what to do anymore.
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
July 11, 2011 10:51am CST
good day my dear fellow mylotters,
when i was a child my dream is to be a doctor when i grow up. but since i am the eldest among the 4 siblings, i was not able to get the medicine course, as my parents usually says, they cannot afford to send all of us to school if i am going to take medicine course. what i did, i just listened to my parents advise. i just took up a 4-year business course. i dont have regret taking up that 4-year business course, since, i love my parents and my 3 other siblings.
what i have thinked during those times, was, me and my other siblings must able to finished our studies with degrees. and since i was the eldest, i should be supportive and understanding to them.
but, as time goes by, and now that we are old enough, still, my parent does not support me on the things that i want to be. just like now that i want to raise up my own business and be a single proprietor. my parent do usually tells and always asked me these questions such as how was my job application, what was the status of my application to those companies, and a lot more.
i really dont know anymore. i am really confuse. hence, as far as i know, parent do usually support their children. before when i was still a student, i can really say, that i do understand my parent wants. but now, i really dont know what to do anymore. should i pursue my want - that is to be a sole proprietor or should i seek another employment since this is what they want.
it is really confusing.
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18 responses
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
When I am still a child,I dreamed of being a nurse or lawyer someday but being a nurse was my first choice and this is my profession now.I am blessed that my family had able to support me financially in my needs during my college days and always there for me no matter what happen.Now I am planning to go abroad to pursue my career as a nurse.
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
hi aira.. good to see you hear.. you are a fresh graduate, right?
I am too..
If the problem is money that is why your parents keep on asking you about companies and job hunting, then maybe you could find for a job, maybe a job you like most.. In this way, you could have money and save to put up a business. Also you could observe and be wise on how your employer manages his company and on how it became successful. You could learn from them also.
I am planning to put up a business also in the near future, but I have to raise money for it.. But as of now, I have to apply on some companies and learn from them..
With regards to your parents, they really want your success but I think they want you to help them also with your other siblings education.. ALso they want you to know first how business arena works before you start your own. I think you should talk it over with your parents on how you feel about it.. Maybe you should tell them what you really need from them so that they could understand you and also, you understand their point too..
@somethingbig (282)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Jul 11
Just follow what you really desire to accomplish in life. There are times when we expect support from our family but end up very disappointed. Maybe they have their own reasons but what's important is really to follow your heart's desire. Move on and push forward until you realized your own dreams.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I think what your parents mean in asking the status of your application is clear, they don't have the money to lend you in case your asking for their assistance.If that is so, I guess you must seek employment first and if you have save enough then you can start your own business.Since your old enough you don't need their permission if you want to put up a business, but to ask for their advise, yes.
@an_kawai_614 (18)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
hi, airasheila.To be a single proprietor first you must have a capital to invest..it's hard to put up a business on your own that's why others starting their business with a partnership...parents want the best for their children,it's right to find first a suitable job,a position that will help you to save and earn at the same time.In order to save money and once you have the capital to invest, that's the time for you to start your dream business
@RJlady1 (144)
• United States
12 Jul 11
If you are an adult, you can make any decisions about your life that you wish to. An adult should not be told what to do by their parents any longer. Explain to them what your goals are, and your plan for reaching them. It always helps a parent to know that there is a solid thought process behind your plans. Just be prepared for any financial repercussions in case you need their financial support, because they might withdraw it.
Best of luck to you!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I feel like if you are old enough to support yourself and can that what you choose to do in a career should be up to you. If you are asking them for money then they are probably concerned that the propriortership won't last. I would say do what you feel is right for you, if it is to try your hand at owning your own business read up all the laws and what it takes to start a business, then go from there.
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
11 Jul 11
It's a matter of what YOU want! You are suppose to live your life not your parents. It's your choice on what you choose to do! Sounds to me your parents are trying to shape you the way they want you or rather to control your life. I believe you should live your own life and it's your decision no one elses.
If you do as they ask than it's like they are living your life for you. And when you get older and start to realize that you didn't accomplish anyhing that you wanted you'll be disappointed and regret.
Better to choose what you want to do rathe than what your parents! Cause than you can say the mistakes are your own and no one elses And that you lived you life for you and no one else :)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
You see, most of our plans in life won't come out as how we planned it completely. These always has to be some discrepancy and there always has to be some mistakes that has to happen. I think the only plans that come out as it is are those that are too simple and those that you dedicate your time, and effort to the most.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 11
Do what ever your heart told you. Its often they don't agree at the beginning but when they see its worked, they will support you. Its common to have a problem when you starting your own but keep on working on it.
I hope you understand in establishing your business its will require hard work, just take their disagreement as power to carry on, to show you making the right decision.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Maybe your parents would like you to have a steady flow of income, for a starter.
Going into business is risky. And businesses for a start do lose some in the process and the return of investment takes quite sometime. So maybe this is what deters them from encouraging you to do it.
However, in the end it's your call. Go , where your heart is.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
11 Jul 11
your dream is good.
Why not try to go now.
I think we should talk more with their parents and tell them your decision.
just very difficult situation hopefully find the right way from me a nice day success!
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
11 Jul 11
What is the easiest way to earn money as in your position? Here you should choose being employed only if your credentials are like hot-cake in employment field. But if it gets hard to get employed then pursue your dreams first. I'm very sure that if you become successful in either of the fields, it will be easy to support your family and even your childhood dreams will be fulfilled just in time.
...wise decision is very critical in troublesome time...
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Good thing you let your feeling burst here in mylot, for at least how you felt will lessen (i hope so). Airasheila, you're parents are normal and just thinking about you. With your course in college you're so lucky to have them for they still send you to school, business course is good. And if really want to be a sole propriety then go. They can do anything and pursue it you;re old enough to decide for yourself. :)
They will understand for whatever decision you make. That will make you happy so strive for that. Make the best out of it! I knw you can do it, trust in God. Godbless
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Probably you should have talked more to your parents and be transparent with them. You should tell them what you feel and not just hide what is inside. Did you know the very reasons why they asked you about job application and not on what you insist with regards to setting up a business.
Are you ready to start your own business? do you have enough money to support your plan or you needed the help of your parents to establish the business that you like? You already said that your folks don't have enough money to support your studies before and that is why you ended up taking the course on B.A. But now, if you just wanted to start a business without starting how to be an employee, well this really depends if there is really money for you to start your own business.
I know sole proprietorship is good, but if you still lack money to support your plan, then set aside that idea first and start earning money by being employed if there is no other option.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Most of our plans will turn out differently. The only ones that pull through are those that are too simple and those that you've really dedicated your time and effort to.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
my aunt was a valedictorian and dreamed of becoming a doctor too. but fast forward into the future, she gave birth to a special child, unable to walk and could not see at nine years. she has to feed her every day imagine a nine year old wearing a diaper. there is the stunning contrast from what she thought she'd become. at this situation, one wonders if beliefs really deserve putting up with.
@dlpierce (495)
• United States
11 Jul 11
Following our dreams are a good thing but sometimes we need to rethink what that dream involves. I'm sure your parents are looking out for your well being as well as their own. Money maybe part of that way of thinking. If it's meant to be it will be.
