my friend is acting weird
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
July 11, 2011 12:04pm CST
I'm so sad today. I realised that me and my best friend aren't that close anymore as we used to be. she is acting weird..we were like sisters, we used to talk pretty much about everything...we used to talk on the phone for hours and now..nothing. i don't know what is wrong iwth her
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13 responses
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
11 Jul 11
This happens with everybody from time to time, and we cannot do anything against it. I have had a very close friend in the high school and we promised that we will keep in touch like we were during high school. But as time passed by, we have gone to different universities and met other people, have had different things on our mind and now we only talk once in a while on the messenger, and on the phone not really. I think it is natural, and is the way of life.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
11 Jul 11
you're right ...this is practically our situation too. we talk from time to time. she went to study in iasi I went to bucharest. we meet from time to time. I went to visit her...she promised she would come and she didn;t. anyway maybe this is normal as you say
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
11 Jul 11
Although this happens, we are still happy when we meet, but these occasions are very rare nowadays. But I know that this friend of mine will be a friend no matter what, only the contact are lesser. At least I hope that I will always consider him as a true friend and he will consider me as well.
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
12 Jul 11
I know how you feel! Things like this happen between friends all the time, and it has recently happened between me and a friend of mine as well. We used to be so close but gradually over the years we have drifted away from each other. I think it is because even though we both live in the same city, we have found separate groups of friends and have met new people, and so don't get to spend too much time together anymore. Its really sad because I really miss her. But I think that losing friends and making new ones is all a part of life, and its something that we just have to deal with and make the most of.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
13 Jul 11
we used to live in the same city..but then we went to college and found our separate ways..anyway as you said I'm said because I care for her..she was like my sister and I kinda miss her
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
11 Jul 11
i guess she is having problems. maybe thats why she isnt talking so much lately. im saying this bcs lately me also im feeling a bit sad sometimes. and sometimes i just feel like not talking at all you know.. anyway i think that you should talk with her and ask her why is she so quiet lately. that you are a bit worried about her. im sure that she will tell you what is happening to her. sometimes there are times in life where we just want to be alone for a bit.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
13 Jul 11
I understand there are moments when you feel like being alone..but she has been acting like this for a while. anyway I'll let her behave the way she thinks is ok
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 11
Beginning in this world if there is definitely no end.
the friends there are times when we gather together friends and form a cohesive group but one time is bound to happen no cohesion in the group, because this is already destiny of the Almighty that can not be contested, because we can only try but decisive is the Creator of the Universe. because all that happens in this world is governed by Him.
Nevertheless we can still try to try one's luck, try it you ask your friend directly to the indifferent, who knows he has a grudge or an accidental problem that makes your friend have to be changed drastically, if you still can, you try searching know as the closest friend the same friends you are cool, it will definitely will know why your friend why be cool with you and your group. because in this world if there is a cause there must be consequences
@zlp159632 (5)
• China
12 Jul 11
During differents stage we have different friends.Even though the friend who is our primary school classmate,we always don't have too much words to share with each other.We may be playmate during we are children,but when we grow up the minds of us had already changed.We and our friends grow up in different enviornment,make friens with differnt sorts of classmates.Also we will have even closer friens,as time goes on,naturally we and our friens don't have too many common topic. That is the growth and this is the sentence is often said:"Growth brought about by the trouble.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Maybe she already set a different priority and maybe she already have a boyfriend and that is why she is acting like she never was before. You can ask her about this and friends should know what other feel and they should not hide. Is there anything wrong you did to her? did you ask if what keeps her time divided?
We do have schedules to keep. We should not be a shadow to a person. You need to also do your part as an individual and just live your life also, not resembling anything the same to your friend. A person has reasons too, some time with family, or studies or time to be alone.
Don't be so sticky like a glue even sisters in real life has different things to do, not all the time you two share the same things. Hope you do get what I mean. Be busy also with other things.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 Jul 11
Maybe she is at a moment of unhappiness with herself, or other factors. Give her some time, and let her pass this on her own. If a couple of weeks or something, if she still acting weird, you should ask her or talk to her seriously. If her tone sounds really annoying or something, cut off the relationship or even friendship with her. She is not worth anymore.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
11 Jul 11
I suppose your friend goes through hard times,but she doesn't want to discuss her problems right now;she probably needs some time on her own to reflect upon what she has to do.I think you should try to understand her and have patience until she decides to open her heart and tell you what her problem is.I'm sure she will tell you sooner or later because I think she will need advice from her best friend.
@dlpierce (495)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I have loss touch with many friendships but they return from time to time. We get caught up with daily life and our interest is sidetracked away from people. Sometimes we can't spend time the way we would like to. This is why it's so important to have many friends if one is otherwise occupied.
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I have been having a simmer situation, but it doesn't really help that my friend is kind of short tempered and passive aggressive, so she has a habit of just acting annoyed with me for no reason. I finally feel as though I have too much dignity to keep hanging out with her, so I've decided to just keep my distance. I don't really have any respect for her because she has been so distracted by her situation with her ex-boyfriend that she has kind of distanced everyone around her, and I don't really think I need to tolerate it anymore. If you are still on good terms with her and she respects you, maybe a day out with her could rekindle your friendship, but on the other hand it might be best to avoid living in the past and just go your separate ways.
@thetis74 (1525)
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12 Jul 11
Just wait a while because she might be going through with something, but doesn't want to talk about it to anyone and chose to be left alone by herself. You might also want to ask her if everything is okay and tell her that you miss. Maybe she will be open to you if ever she is having a problem.
@xcyper2084 (152)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I guess that is normal. Sometimes we need to move out in our comfort zone to be able to try some other things. I think that's how your fiend feel about it. She just wanted to do her thing on her own and keeping her privacy. Or maybe the best thing you could do is to confront her on what happened on your friendship? Ask her if you did something wrong or did you hurt her feeling unintentionally? Hope you and your friend will have a talk before concluding on anything..