Why force Anyone to change?

You should have ask anyone to change or change yourself for anyone. it takes away from who that person is and their individuality. we should accept people for who and they are. asking for change is asking to be a different person than who you are.

That show is dumb. Millionaire match maker? I think she needs to quit. You can not ask people to change, we are who we are. Look, I was married and in the beginning I was who I was and she was who she was. Something changed, and I tried to change to save the relationship, but it was not me. So, if you start off a relationship as a lie, then it is doomed.

what makes a person a unique individual is his own brand of personality. that would set him apart from the rest. forcing him to change kinda limits his capacity to be himself. to be liked or loved for who you are not... sucks big time. it robs a person the opportunity to be liked and loved for who they truly are. change must happen as a personal choice, not enforced by another person. if i had changed at all, it was to be more of the person that i was already. i did not have any drastic changes in my attitude, like a 180 degree turn or something. i'd rather be disliked because people did not know the real me, rather than be liked for who they want me to be and for which i am not. true loving, i believe is not just loving bits and pieces but the whole parcel itself.

So you know Patty too! I've seen her show a couple of times. And my thoughts when I first saw it was that, 'you get what you pay for!'. I know it is difficult to find a mate out there, but if you force it by paying for it, then it all becomes un-natural in the end. If you are asked to change, then I think it wouldn't be the real you!

I think it's a terrible idea to have anyone change for anyone because then they are not really in love with you for who you are. They are being lied to and the person changing will never truly be happy. How sad. I did not and would not ever change for anyone except myself.

Nah, I never wanted to "win" somebody. Either the thing is there between the two of you, or it's not. Wouldn't you hate to try to be someone else 24 hours a day? What a lot of work that would be I've never seen that show. Personally I think you can be a kid at heart and still be responsible in your life.

I believe in acceptance in relationships; and yet, I also believe that some things have to go. If your partner has a bad habit of smoking, or having a really unbearable temper, those things have to go. But if it's superficial like the way they dress or whatever shallow reason, those should be accepted. As a wise woman used to tell me, "choose your battles." Is it worth asking him/her to change? If not, leave it alone. :) Just my two cents'. :)

What the hell do they know? I think that crap is all about ratings. I know a guy who is the biggest dork in the world, and he's married to one of my best friends. They get along great. There are enough people in the world, that everyone can find true love, if they look in the right place.

I don't even like the matchmaker in that show. I don't like how she looks, how she acts, so why would I like what she thinks is worthy for companionship?

change your behavior, OK, but change yourself? doesn't work...

That is a sad thought. There is someone out there that would love her for her. I think it's always sad when you see someone change themselves to suite a partner that probably wasn't meant for them in the first place. I wouldn't change myself..I think I would be cheating myself and the person I was changing to be with if I did.

I haven't saw the Millionaire Matchmaker, force will not bring the change. Then love and good manner can bring the change. Non violence can bring the change.