Do we really know our friends?

:) I like you alot and I hope that you are able to help her. Sometimes it doesn't take money to help, but just a little love and encouragement. :) Bless you

Thanks for tose kind words. I always believed that those that have more experiences should help those that don't in the hopes of making their lives a little better. Us poor folk can only provide love and encouragement. Many times that is all that is needed.

Yes your right, priorities are what gets one out of the problems one manages to get into. It is sad though when one sees another facing life's challenges alone. It is also sad when one sees the disappointment that another faces at being let down by those one considered friends. Some say that the only friend one has is a dollar in one's pocket. I guess this seems like the case with those that don't have true friends.

And can you share how you felt having someone that was truly your friend and that stuck by you in your time of hardship?

Very inspiring experience. And a good friend is seems. God bless him for what he did for you.

well his name was Husni.. i know him since junior high school, you can say we grew up together. first time i dont know why that he always help me, even when i dont ask him for help. after we graduate from senior high school (we have the same school too :))we go to college but with different university and different city to. from that time i have no word or news from him and i can reach him to. after im finish my college it seems my life going bad.. (my family life to..) when everything seems to hard to live with my parent (economic reason) i've decide to life all by my self (independent what we call). day by day i have to struggle just for eat, and then one day "BANGGG...!" he show up with out any sign and offering help. you know what help did he offer to me.. "Just accompany" until i can get up again. that was a great help, better than money, place to life or the similar thing. he know my dignity and that was the most important thing. for almost two year we fight together, even he is from a well family, temporary he left it, just to accompany me. he never offer me to lend his money, he always say " if you want to eat lets find some job but not using my money" and when im down n hopeless he always say "c'mon.. your life wont get better if you acting like that, the door is right over there.. Get out... !!!" and then he hit me :) step by step my life have change, a have a job from a house keeper, cleaner, driver and right now as administrative data entry. not much but but im really grateful. now every time we meet he always said "lose your spirit again you have to deal with me..!!". Thank my Best Friend guys.. :)

Actually, I have helped her to get food stamps and she is registered for the fall semester in a University here in New York. I helped her fill out her financial aid and she qualifies for work study and so will have a job when school starts. She will also take a student loan and pay all her outstanding bills and start the fall fresh. You are right and i am a proponent of helping the individual achieve self determination. "give a hungry man a fish and you feed him for one day, teach him to fish and you feed him for the rest of his life." Thanks for the reply.

Thanks, she is really going through changes now. There is not really very much I can do for her now but lend her a shoulder to lean on and to help her explore options that might help. For me, its really not anything special since I would probably do that for anyone. But for her it has been comforting.

Thanks for the kinds words. Yes, it is my passion to help all that I can Friend of not.

You are a true friend then. Congratulations on your integrity. I don't know her, but I sympathize. I'm glad she has people around that are really helping her rather than just hiding behind their offline status.

This is exactly what can happen when one feels one loses the trust of one's friend. It is almost like we lose faith in our abilities to make true friends. We lose our faith not only in individuals, but in all of mankind. I think one should remain true to one's self and maintain one's sense of who one is. This quote might help. My little sis dug it up somewhere and sent it to me. "Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce or Bentley don't run commercials. REASON: they know the value of their product & it brings customers to them. LESSON: When you know your value, you don't have to beg people to be your friend or your mate, to spend time with you, or to love you.… Be confident in who GOD made you to be. Everybody can't afford or handle luxury." Keep yourself open to others, only give a little at a time. A true friend will appear over the horizon.

I am waiting for a true friend. But i do not know whether i will get or not. I used to keep open myself open and this is the problem. Some of my friends took this advantages. Actually i really feed up of my friends. Last time i got experience from my ex girl friend. Now a days, friends means something evil tome, but i still believe that a true friend will come one day . Thank you buddy for your nice comments

good comment. Its true we should learn from our wxperiences since friends are so rare in this life.

Yes sad but true. It is interesting that it seems we have all had some type of similar experiences. One of life's teaching moments I guess.

Well since life never promises good times all the time, I guess we can use the bad times to clean our closets. After all, it is only those true blue individuals that really have your back that you want with you anyway. Good times and bad.

You know, I was sort of wondering when you would reply to this since I know where we're from, its a fact of life. I think your parents were much like mine. Family, family, family and don't put too much trust in friends. I think like you, I had experiences with this early on in life. Still, its a shame when one has to face life's challenges alone thinking one has good friends.

Yes its true. Believe me that is exactly what is on her mind. We learn, sometimes the hard way but nevertheless we see eventually.

Yes it is sad but true. I guess that is why they say that true friends stand the test of time. It is only through the time factor that we experience the many challenges of life and can then see who our real friends are.

It is true that friends might be different and unique in their own kind of way. But the question here is, if they see you sliding, will they lean over and help you get back up. If not, Are they truly your friend?

Yes I agree, it is really a blessing when we have real friends.

Well, she is a bit younger and helping her find friends is not very likely for me to do. I will only help her to figure out what it is that she needs to do to find a solution for her problems. I will be a friend. That is all I can do.

I agree so much with that. There are not many more things as rewarding as sharing true friendships.

So true. with all the people I know, I really can only count my true friends on one hand. I guess that what makes them even more precious to me.

It is interesting that our adversities are learning environments as well. It is always reassuring to know that there are those true friends one can count on. Bless them

That is why although we all need contact with other's we should not really define ourselves with who we know but with who we are inside. Because when the backstabbing comes, one is prepared to move on.

Your right, we do need to treasure those people that stick by us. Its a shame though that it takes adversity to realize who these people truly are. They epitomize the word friend.

That is true. What do you tell a friend that is experiencing the betrayal of their perception of friendship? And what should one do when they don't have the support of a true friend?