How to start a life after losing someone
By xcyper2084
@xcyper2084 (152)
Philippines
July 12, 2011 4:16am CST
I have a friend whose father passed away recently. It's really a sad news for us especially we we're not able to comfort my friend physically. I keep on calling her to say that life must go on ,that God has a purpose for everything that she should learn to accept it but it seems that no words can ease that pain. what should I do to make her feel better ?
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@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Jul 11
You can't make her feel better. To be her friend and help you need to set back and try to see it from her standpoint. Be there for her. Check in with her occasionally and see how she is doing. But don't tell her she much go on, that God has a purpose for everything. Tell her you love her and care about her. Be there for her if she needs you. SOmetimes the best thing is just knowing you are there.
@xcyper2084 (152)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
Thanks! For your advice appreciate it..
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@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 11
Just be there when she needs it and keep on supporting her emotionally. Not everyone can do it but if you have the heart you can! And time goes by will ease the pain also.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
We cannot escape to reality of life. To lose one or our love one is not easy to accept in a week or month. We must understand that there is always a time for evey thing. At this moment you cannot comfort your friend as easy as you are thinking the way you know. Let you stay for a while on her side until such time comes into good situation for and that is acceptance. Let you tell her/his that the life must go on and hope for the best. Be always at her side or at times that she still needs you to gain her strength. Let you be her hands to hold on.
Have a nice day!
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
12 Jul 11
The truth is that nothing that you can say to your friend will ever be able to make her feel better about the loss of her father. The best thing you can do for your friend is not say anything at all, but just be there for you. You should let her know that if she needs a hug or some love or someone to cook her a meal or do something nice for her, that you are there. And then you just have to give her time to grieve and to heal. It is only time that will end up making her feel better eventually!
@zia024 (29)
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12 Jul 11
It is really hard to move on and not to be depressed especially if you have lost someone who has a significant impact in your life. I lost my grandmother over 4 years now, but the pain is still there. I still cry and mourn. You can't really move on but just deal and bear with the pain. The best thing you can do to a friend is to comfort and just be with her. Listen and grief with her. Be just a friend with a shoulder to cry on.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
12 Jul 11
It is really sad to lose some loved ones in life. It is really hard for one to get out of it when it happens to some degree. A better and more effective way to help one in such a case is time. With time passing by, it makes us gradually adapt ourselves to the kind of life without the lost one. Time heals, I mean. I am really sorry for this friend of yours and wish her to get well soon from the loss of her father. Take care.
@ilovestool (107)
• China
12 Jul 11
It is sad for her to lose her father.But she should not lose herself in the pain.You can tell her that life can be restarted and her father with be with her forever in paradise.If she still can't ease the pain.Then only time can cure this.You can try your best to care more about her,then she will feel a lot better.
@pinkpiglet (330)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
You may say "it's easy for you to say", but the only thing we can do when that happens is to keep the faith strong. We have to be strong for that someone we lost too. I'm sure that person who passed away wouldn't want us to feel sad or hopeless in life. So we have to live for them. We have to make them happy and peacefully rest by showing them that we're okay. And talk to them once in a while. They may not be around, but their spirits may be. It would be nice to know that you can still interact with the one you love, even if their physical presence is not there.