Family issues' HELP!! Your opinion matter

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My sister and I just do not get along very well these days' Mainly because of her husband. He is a lying jerk, I feel that a 40 year old man should step up to his responsibilities. But instead he does nothing but cause problems. The situation is getting out of hand and some how my mother has to get in the middle of everything. Thanks to my sister, she is just about as bad has her husband when it comes to not telling the truth on things. We all own property together. Everything was fine at the beginning, then all of a sudden my brother in law felt he needed to start lying about everything he was asked. He would say he water animals but really didn't do it. He would go out and do nothing but makes messes for someone else to have to go behind him and pick them up then turn around and blame them on his step son. So Sad if you ask me to buckle a lie around a young teenage boy. He would get mad start yelling and cussing for things that were being done that needed to be done like fixing fence to keep the cows and horses in. He is a bully and tries to walk all over everyone in his path. More to woman then men. I have tried really hard to make things work. But I am at the point to where this whole situation is making me really not want to have nothing to do with my sister. This man that she calls her husband has lied to her, abused her children, ( her son his step son he was very abusive to physically and mentally for years. That is one thing I can not put behind me.) He has a daughter by my cousin and he has nothing to do with that girl really never has. This man has done nothing but caused hard feelings with a lot of people in our family. But yet my sister and mother are always taking up for him. I know that it is my sisters husband and she loves him for some reason. But why is it that she can not see what he is doing to her family, and what he has done. But it is like instead she is becoming one of him. NO one is perfect I have had my fair share of problems in my marriage. But we worked hard to make a chance and that is what we did. To make life easier for everyone else around us. Ourselves, our children, everyone involved. They keep saying that they will try to change and nothing is happening it really seems as if it just gets worse. And the burden lays very heavy on my back. This has been going on for 1.5 years. Now come on if you really want to change you will I know it takes time and for some people it is baby steps. The place we bought together was my grandfathers. It hurts like to hell to think that the only decision I have is to walk away sell his land that has been in the family for 50 years. I can not afford to buy her out. I have been open and honest with her over everything and personally she just does not care she will tell me that to my face. She knows what this place means to me. It is a beautiful 48 acre farm with 2 homes, 2 barns, a very nice big metal hanger garage. That grandpa poured his heart and sole into. I lived her as a little girl so did my sister. I had some much fun learning and growing learning about the land from my Grandpa. There was so much that he taught me, and he took pride in this place everyday. I kinda of think she wants me to be miserable cause deep down in her flesh of her skin she is and wants all around her to be. I love my sister and her 2 sons. But I know if I keep living like this I will come to hate her, and yes that is a very powerful word. And I pray for myself everyday cause not one should hate anyone. I think it is time to get out move on cut my losses. And my heart will heel in time with selling of Grandpa's Farm. Any feed back that will and could help me work through this would be great maybe you know of a story that someone you know or you yourself has been through. Thanks for reading Blessing to all.