My friends ex husband....

I am glad she is going to do that. I had to chase my ex down for cs and go through the local child support services agency. By doing that it is considered court/state ordered here and he has to comply or they can throw him in jail. It took me over 3 years to get him into court and get cs started. He was in the military at the time and stationed overseas and I could not touch him. As soon as he returned state side and called me at home wanting to see the kids (that he had not seen, talked to, written to or anything in 3 years) I did a reverse look up of his phone number via AT&T and got the whole paperwork process started. I find parents who would neglect the well being of their children not worthy of much. The best of luck to your friend.

luckily, when she went in today, the court sided with her. He will still have to keep paying the amount he is paying monthly. If he does not pay on time he will be thrown in jail.

When the divorce first went through, the ex thought it was okay to pay anytime during the month, that was something that was overlooked in the divorce settlement the exact day it needed to be paid. That got ironed out and half is paid on the first and the other half is paid on the 15th. If this ends up in court, she is going to ask for him to pay the state and the state pay her because he has bounced checks on her as well.

The judge had given my friend's ex a high amount every month to begin with. She earned more money than he did & I think the judge lowered it & made her pay the extra just to get her attention & to make her STOP wasting the court's time!!! Here, the amount of money the Mother makes has NOTHING to do with what the Father has to pay!!! Child support is there to cover the child...not necessarily the Mother. His ex was using the child support to go out & party!!! He was working 3 jobs in order to pay what the judge had said was fair plus cover his own bills & she still wanted more. He also paid on time every month & he bought shoes, clothes & toys for his kids on top of the child support. Then when it was his time to have them, she'd say they were sick or they had plans with a friend. So she expected him to write a check & NEVER see his children. Then she wanted to take him to court because she didn't like the judge's order!!! If your friend wants to become a consultant, she should just do it. If she's earning enough to not NEED his money, then she could make a deal to ask the judge to drop him paying child support in exchange for him never seeing the children again. He'd probably jump on that one & then he would have NO excuse to be harassing her!!!

My local court system tends to be pretty fair, while still slightly siding with the mother. They try not to bankrupt the father, especially if the mother is making enough to support herself and her children.

I hope that the reverse is true for my friend and that the judge orders that the child support be increased. I have no idea how she is making ends meet. I am sure the garage sale was to pay late bills. She wanted to become a consultant of some kind, but is afraid he will take her to court again over it.

She is only a teachers aid getting paid next to nothing, so low that she qualifies for the SNAP program. He tried claiming that was income as well. The judge pretty much laughed at that one. She did not eve ask for living expenses, just child support. I am pretty sure the judge is getting sick of his frivilous court appeals.

I really hope so. My cousin is living in family court hell (her ex is a family lawyer, and he files motions every 5 minutes, seems like), and I'd hate to see anybody else go through that.

at one point she had to get a restraining order against him because he was calling her work and trying to get her fired. the last straw was when he showed up at work, not to see his child's teacher, but to argue with her in front of students. The principal called the police and they said that he was not to contact her between the hours of 8 and 4 when she was at work...right after he was released at 2:30 in the afternoon he called her cell phone and then the school. Real smart one there.

Hmph. Imagine that! I bought a Hummer so I cannot pay a paltry small several hundred dollars each to make sure my boys live in the lifestyle they are used to. I know that support payments can be anywhere from parentally arranged $50 a week to a court ordered several (or more) thousand a month PER child. It just depends on the situation. In some cases, the children suffer because the parent who physically takes care of them doesn't make enough without the support to cover the basic bills - ie the house, utilities, food, gas and transportation, so of course anything extra like a new jacket, toys, school supplies, entertainment, doctor visit etc wouldn't get taken care of.

If she could completely support her kids on her own she would, but she in financial turmoil right now. Once she is making enough money she is going to petition the court for limited visitation on her ex's part, mostly so the boys can still see their grandparents and cousins.

He was late in paying child support in May. His reason was that he bought a new Hummer. The huge full size thing, and he did not know the insurance was going to be so much, so he just could not pay his share to feed and clothe the boys.

that is the funny thing. He is the one that left her to move in with the mistress he had had for several years. My friend handled it with amazing amounts of grace, especially since he is renting a house less than two blocks away from the house that they owned together(she got the house, along with the payments) in the original settlement.

he always has been. They only got married because she got pregnant. he has cheated off and on their whole marriage.

So basically he's just your basic jackass, lol

That's good!

So far the judge has sided with her in all but one thing, and that was trivial amounting to only about $50 a year out of her pocket. I am sure the judge will end up siding with her again. She is great with documenting his stupidity.

he owns his own business and makes pretty good money with it, but i am still leaning towards crazy.

she stayed with them, until the kids started making comments about the other women that there dad was spending all this time with. Followed by "why doesnt he come to our football games..etc." She knew it was time to end it.

His lawyer is known to be pretty sleazy, but pretty good. It was only when he started looking bad in the community that he started to put up a stink...granted the stink is making him look even worse.

according to him he never wanted kids, everything he has done to hurt the kids, they do not want to see him any more. They would rather just stay at their moms.

He doesnt want to be with the family, but they are not allowed to be happy either.

So he's the one who broke up the family!! I don't know how people's heart can change so rapid and do stuffs like this to the one they once loved.