DIVORCE here in PHILIPPINES, are you going to agree?!

Well, I understand about the situation. But since both parties allowed that they have to get married, I guess they are capable enough to handle the situation. They get married because they love each other. I guess they can find other solution rather than getting divorce. They should think about the Children. Who knows they can patch things up and forgive each other.

They can still stay separated right? The only downside is they can't re-marry. And why would they when they can work their marriage out and get help through marriage counseling and the likes. This is what the church teaches - forgiveness and this is the reason why God hates divorce, as it is said in the Bible. Married couples always have a way to work their relationship out. Have you even considered why the husband/wife batters his spouse? Maybe it's a problem that can be solved through counseling? Why did they even get married in the first place? So what you're saying, jazel_juan is that all those things they said while they were up there in the altar were just a bunch of crap? OK, so the your spouse changed, why not cope with it? Try to help your spouse get back on track. What's the use of that famous line "For better or for worse" anyway?

I guess we do vary in how we think of Divorce and how it should be used. For me, xtedaxcvg i still believe in sanctity of marriage, but we cannot also deny that there are really those who go through it not entirely knowing who they are with. There are also cases like those of battered wives and husband, there is a possibility that they did not realize that their spouses are this abusive or brutal for one. As far as i believe, when your spouse starts hitting you, you draw the line there. It is something that never be patched by marriage counselor. And you also ask me on why the husband / wife batters the spouse in the first place and there might be a reason for it? i cannot see any valid reason on why one should batter a spouse. There is really no reason for it... there are those who batter their wife or husband because they only see their spouse as an object. Yes there is a possibility that it can be fixed but there are a lot of cases here in the Philippines that it cannot. Plus there is not even a marriage counselor that i know of ( well in my city that is.) And there are a lot of battered wife / husband that i see suffering everyday. I work in a company where we go to these areas where squalor is present and i have seen their situation, they cannot let go, they cannot move on because they believe they are still tied with their husband and everyday they live with this spouse who do nothing but get drunk, slap their faces...even though they are also called to the Barangay Head and given this "marriage talk" and still it persists and i have seen how these women go through their everyday lives crying and suffering. My heart goes out for them and if divorce is possible here, it is one of those chances where they can totally let go of their spouses and be able to live a life away from them. Yes there is legal separation here which costs a million bucks and yes they can still be separated, but can they totally move on? Still carrying the names of their spouses who abused them and treated them as objects. This might be long but i am just trying to clarify my thoughts. I still believe in the sanctity of marriage but there are cases where it has to end. Like that one i stated above. The things said in the altar are not a bunch of crap but sad to say there are those who go there in the altar and not mean it. And for the line.."for better or for worse" i really do not think physical abuse is part of it. As for the children, even if separated or divorced, one can still be a better parent i believe rather than have the children see the father slapping the mother on the face. Or live knowing their parents are doing concubinage or adultery. Oohhh here i go again, i am just to passionate when it comes to these matter.. i might get negged again!

Sadly, strawberrychocodahi, we're in the era where people's hearts are as hard as rocks. People always have excuses to commit sin now. I think what we should focus on is how to strengthen marriage or how to enforce a more stringent process for would-be married couples.

Well xtedaxcvg, it is indeed true that this generation will be more evil and what's needed are man and women of God who will stand to His Words. The devil will really try to destroy family ties and union so even the marriage is also included here. Enforcing rules on aspirant couples is also important but first and foremost is their relationship to the true and living God, without it, it will be impossible that the cornerstone will be holding the two together.