Basing my self worth for what others think
By tessa9
@tessa9 (1085)
Philippines
July 13, 2011 3:17am CST
I am not contented with my life right now. I have been in the center of attention for pretty much my whole life and was aways being told that I was beautiful, I know it sounds pretty narcissistic. I don't think that it was such a good thing to be that 'appreciated' when your young because when you grow older (I'm 20) you tend to base your happiness on what others think of you or say to you as I do now. I feel crappy when I will not receive a compliment on a day which is pretty pathetic. I guess my question is how can you overcome being so insecure?
5 responses
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
26 Jul 11
Try to seek for your qualities, there are qualities that you will even like more on your self than others and there are those that other's won't see, that even life won't show it to others to actually help you overcome this, so for these many qualities that I'm sure you have you won't receive any complement. But you can't live unhappy for not being recognized, instead have a inner dialogue too. Other people's opinion can be flattering but if we allow compliments to be too important criticism will also break us down.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
This is too simple to answer but never too easy to do. I guess the answer here is "Never think of what others think of you." The answer is pretty simple but the solution isn't. See, I've experienced more or less the same problem you have. I always thought of what others would think of me every time. I'm just very thankful that there came a point when I just had enough of it. I just got sick of it and started acting on my own without taking into account how the others see me.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Jul 11
I think as we get older we begin to accept that not everyone will compliment and accept us in life. So the idea is to accept ourselves for who we are, love and care for ourselves is a priority. This is how I would perceive this if it were me.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
Why can't you just be happy that you are always told that you are beautiful? Despite being beautiful, you feel insecure? Isn't that a bit weird?
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Oh my god, we are so much the same. When I was younger, I used to get a lot of attention from guys, even kids or older guys like me. I feel so attractive and beautiful before. Now I don't get the same attention anymore. It makes me feel so insecure and I think it damages me psychologically because now I feel like I'm not special anymore. I don't feel beautiful anymore.
