GF telling to be friends

okkk quite a hard reply but thanks for suggesting

Spike, I have to say this an awesome, shoot-from-the-hip response and I applaud you for putting it on the table this way I'm female and I have seen exactly what you describe soooo many times. In fact, when I was younger, I was in this kind of situation. My parents didn't approve of the guy I was dating because I was 16 and he was 24. He was also of another ethnic background and, even though they wouldn't admit it, I know that was a factor. I knew that I could never make it work between him and my parents and I ended the relationship. It was not right to string him along and make him think we had a future when I knew that I was not strong enough to go toe to toe with my father on it. I agree that the Princelierocks' girlfriend wants the best of all worlds for herself here... she doesn't want him to leave her but she doesn't want to disobey her parents. She either has to stand on her own two feet and commit to being in a relationship with him or she needs to let him find someone who is fully free to be with him. It's very easy when someone provides emotional support (especially during health problems) to want to keep them around - but love is about MUCH more than that and if she can't give her all then I agree that he deserves better.

I know it's hard but I've been in the situation before. Too often. And it's always the nice guy who gets treated like a third-rate person, usually when the girl meets Mr. Not Right At All and marries him or something equally stupid. Obviously, I can only speak from personal experience but I know this kind of thing would make me run a mile. I don't see the point in trying to maintain a relationship if it's all one-sided. You (and I) deserve better than that.

hey thanks for your suggestion my current relationship status is such a thing that we are currently having a break just because of problems and that's killing me too i didnt want to have a break but she insisted me too, and on top of that many family problems and health problems of her. I just want some open communication with her for sometime to sort all these things out, and i think lot of patience is required.

hey sanitary thanks, that's such an awesome thing you said, you know what my mind was telling me to move on but regarding her stress and depression i knew she couldn't go further that's why she needs me, i guess i have to listen to my heart after all actions work fine rather thank words, thanks once again, i will sacrifice my love for her benefit.

Thanks for your appreciation.

hie lilababy i too can't say about things what will happen later on, she is really depressed, and has lot of health problems, sometime thoughts come to my mind that she is just using me for her own benefit, but in actual when i see her problems my heart says not to leave her i think being friends is ok if that's what she wants, instead of having nothing at least i will have a close friend. Its hard but i think in matter of time things will be ok.

okkk thanks for the motivation, i guess i should just keep love aside and help her in her decisions. I think its only way i can go through

yes you said it right our main problem is because of the parental agreement and most of the relationships have issues because of this, its not like her parents are not agreeing but since iam a college going guy she can't even tell her parents, after all on what basis will her parents except me with no job, So i think it will be hard but i guess i have to move on and stand on my own feet first. thanks for suggestion

Yeah i totally agree with you and she is ready to stand in front of me, but the only thing is iam not on a job iam still a student and in our Indian culture parents are very possessive about this, they always find a boy for a girl who will support her through life financially and mentally, and for me getting on a job is gonna take few years.

I guess iam too dependent on my partner because the first fact is i can't live without her and if she lives i will just be depressed through life so i have to build myself first thanks for the response and giving the true meaning of relationship.