Changing my thinking of Stress..
By vivamir
@vivamir (671)
July 13, 2011 11:02am CST
The reason why we stress..is because we think- just think about it for a second..LoL..
No but I was though..I really enjoy reading articles around health, fitness and well being.. and a majority outline what stresses us out and provide many on end of techniques to reduce these- or even sell us products that guarantee the relieve the stress effect!
..And then there was this one paragraph that I read on this website..and Its just basically said-
'you need to focus on what you can control..' so if your company goes completely bust- there's nothing you can do (*including worrying*) except try and look for another job..' and YES theres the stress about obtaining ANOTHER job, but this problem is literally in your hands to mould.. unlike the above example- you have many external influences that affect your business..
See..thats when the thought hit me..I stress about the things that I have no direct control over.. So If i change my minds thinking, this should definitely reduce my stress levels, right?
What do you guys think?..
6 responses
@daniel_khoa94 (56)
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14 Jul 11
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@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
13 Jul 11
This is most definitely true. The only reason why we ever stress about anything is because we over think things - something that is bugging you tends to get replayed over and over again in your mind until it becomes a bigger and bigger problem and you get so worked up over it! The advice you read is very good advice - there is absolutely no point in stressing about things that you can't control or that have already happened - what you have to do is focus on what you CAN change and make the most of the situation that way! Then your stress levels will definitely decrease.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Viv, I think when we over stress and worry about bills and such it just adds to the situation in a negative way. For me it does anyway. You have to put something in the place of it. Most things work themselves out if we work on them in a positive way. Take it from a former "worrier". I mean about everything. This has taught me a valuable lesson. I do what I can do, but I visualize what I want to happen more than I do the problem I'm that way though. I don't like issues in my life that cause negative energy so I have the tendency to find a viable answer for said issue. LOL.
@vivamir (671)
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16 Jul 11
I do agree bouncybug.. that by re thinking a situation over and over- without the satisfaction of success of resolution..does drive you mad..so what is the point of worrying so much about things?.
I have been trying to wisely choose as to what 'deserves' to be stressed about.. my bills, career and family.. are the most difficult- but in time I think Ill be able to manage all these and still remain as close to sane as I can be LoL
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
13 Jul 11
I agree 100%. An old friend of mine and I use to call it "changing the mind movie". You can certainly control your thoughts and the way you perceive things. Especially since losing a job can be looked at in a good light. So yes, I consider that when you change the way you perceive things this can dramatically reduce stress.
There are times when we stress and don't even know it. Stress is deadly and we should do as much as possible to maintain low stress.
@vivamir (671)
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16 Jul 11
I like it writergirl74..'changing the mind movie'..
Funnily though..ive been really ill over the past two days- suddenly came down with some very achy symptoms- and I pretty much retreated to my bed at every opportunity I got..thing is I remember my good old Mum saying when we were kids..
'If your ill, get up and do something'.. 'Tell yourself your not ill,blah blah..' - Thing is as much as I tried to get on with it, my body didnt agree and screamed for me to just crash.. although feeling alot better today..asides from a banging headache and a funny tummy ache.. 'Im not ill...' (*or at least im telling myself..*)
Ill be attempting to work out later- see if that relieves anything LoL
Thanks for your response..(",)
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Viv, don't get down on yourself too bad, the body has to rest sometimes. We push ourselves a lot! I sometimes don't rest for days to get things done. Then I have to just say hey, I'm not doing nothing today. I take a me day. I need my "me" days.
I eat a lot of fresh fruits and veggies. I have to. I rarely get sick. I do have a sinus thing that flares up when I am in Florida, but I just deal with it. I don't want to medicate or have surgery over that. The working out should help. I know when I have an ache or something. Nothing helps it like a good ole walk. Works like a charm for me.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Diverting your attention and not worrying is the best way and that's how i understood your discussion. Yes, i agree with that. It's like saying there's no use fretting or crying over spilled milk, it will only worsen your day and add wrinkles to your face.
I used to worry a lot, even just of simple things and i did complain a lot when things are not done correctly around me. So my husband told me, instead of complaining and getting stressed, why don't you just do it yourself and correct the mistakes. And i believe he was right in telling me that. And i also agree with you. Take charge and divert your attention to other things that you can control and not those that you cannot. Otherwise you will just be giving yourself a heart disease, an additional line on your forehead or even a white hair! 
Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks for sharing this. @vivamir (671)
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16 Jul 11
Thank you for your response toniganzon..and Im glad you enjoyed commenting in this discussion, and I totally agree and believe that through diverting your attention you can reduce stress levels- but be careful doing so as through personal experience..Ive ended up missing my Payment date for some bills..(*oops*)..
And your absolutely right..stress can contribute to such diseases! Its crazy.! But its important to keep our bodies healthy.. and not through just dieting, healthy eating etc- THINK OF THE MIND too..LoL
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Well, let me know how that works for you. I really don't think we can control our thoughts. They just happen. If you are like me, you can try and divert them to another subject, however, I always end up in the same place I started. Best Wishes!
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
"We Need to focus on what we can control" Yes this is right, but not in every instance we can just do that, sometimes we have to think of ways to control things we can't, i mean to look for solutions on problems, i think stress come from things we can't control, that's why we stress, so if we won't think of it, we won't be stressed but the problem is still there and will stay there until we don't give action on it, Maybe it's dealing with the situation (stress) intelligently and smoothly rather than over thinking on the other hand there are issues that doesn't need to be worried at all issues with no solutions, maybe that's where the phrase apply. In my kind of job stress is my job because I deal with people's problem's. But still it gives me head ache.
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Ow i forgot something, but "changing the mind" as i have read above is right, i do that if i want to rest the danger is i forgot about everything and the job itself hahha, so I am in danger, so i minimize, I finish wat has to be done first then celebrate!
