Can you really blame me for not wanting to reply to responses on my discussions?
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
United States
July 14, 2011 12:12am CST
Sometimes people say that people who post discussions never reply when people respond to their discussion. While I do sometimes get bored of my own topics, or feel there is nothing really left for me to add, I have noticed that if I really put an effort into replying to responses, responders have actually not been replying back. I've tried to leave my replies open-ended, so there is more room for discussion, but I think the reason many people don't reply to responders is because they're not going to come back and reply again anyway. Maybe people just get bored of the discussion. It goes both ways! I don't think anyone can be blamed, true, long-winded discussions just happen, and when they don't happen, it's nobody's fault. I kind of would like to have a discussion with lots of responses upon responses as a conversation, but the only category that happens in is in the Religion interest, and we all know how messy those get.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Yes there are times there really is nothing more to say and especially if the responses are very similar. Though I do comment back to all my responders, we know it is not compulsory and also quality should be a factor. Yes not everyone can be blamed as mentioned above, but there are discussions where some members never comment. It is what one is comfortable with and as long as we are following the guidelines with useful and helpful information that really is all that should matter. No one is obliged to respond to our discussions therefore, it is up to the individual.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Oh yes, that religion one can be a mess, even in real life.I was recently told not to talk religion with my husband, but I doubt he will stay away from the topic..
Anyway, back to your question. I try to keep up a discussion, and I don't always respond to all on mine, because either there is nothing more to say, or the responder went completely off topic, so I ignore them.. Also when I get into another post, the discussion does go on for a bit, and I try to keep it going, but at the same time, I am trying to finish this course a.s.a.p.
Anyway, back to your question. I try to keep up a discussion, and I don't always respond to all on mine, because either there is nothing more to say, or the responder went completely off topic, so I ignore them.. Also when I get into another post, the discussion does go on for a bit, and I try to keep it going, but at the same time, I am trying to finish this course a.s.a.p.1 person likes this
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
14 Jul 11
It is naturally your choice to do so. I think that there are many people who are going to head in there and do their post, however it may be and pretty much not give that topic any more thought beyond the thought that it takes to post it. That is really what the situation tends to amount to a lot of the time. There are going to be a lot of people who just move on from topic to topic, and that would be that.
In the end, I just respond to the responses of my topic to the best of my abilities. There are times where I miss a few responses, that's just what really happens. Now granted, a long term discussion is really not going to be the best thing in the world all of the time. There are going to be times where it can just go around in circles, not accomplishing much, until one person decides to stop posting. Still it is the choice of each individual person of what they do.
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Yes, there's no one to be blame about when one's not responding to her own discussions. i also do this as I have only limited time in staying in myLot and I just wait for the emails to know how my fellow mylotters responded to my comments or whatever I have in any discussions. It your own right, right for all mylotters!
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I agree. Sometimes when i respond to a discussion i ask some clarifications and don't get back anything in return. I wonder why it was started and when responded there's no discussion running anymore. I guess you're right that some just feel that they won't get a respond so they don't want to reply at all.
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@Yourfreind (28)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Jul 11
for me the response i sthe thought of the readers reaction and if the response having question then is necessary to review by the bloger but responser should not ask any question through blog but can ask through direct message then he/she can get the answer
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Jul 11
Personally I think overall, it depends on when you respond back to the discussions you might have started as to if someone else will then respond back and keep it going or if the discussion will die off. For me, I have a busy life is why it takes time for me to sometimes respond again. But I love to keep a discussion going when I can and it is often a Great way to meet others and get to know them better as well.
@shaggin (72144)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I try to comment back to all the people who leave me comments on my discussions but sometimes its hard to come up with anything. Rather then just say thank you which mylot does like us just writing short things like that I just dnot write anything at all. If I leave a response on someones discussion I do not expect them to respond back. If they do cool if not its ok.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Jul 11
I agree with you, but also sometimes you get those responders who seem to just outright judge you when that's not the reason you opened the discussion at all. I used to go back and respond to all or atleast mot of my responders or the discussions I've responded to, I'll go back and comment, but now I just can't be bothered to do it. I get bored with it, get insulted by it, or just need to worry about other things outside of mylot, with mylot, or whatever.
@allknowing (136581)
• India
14 Jul 11
Unless users who are interested in a particular topic are on line at the same time it is difficult to have a chain of comments. The responses that get a chain of comments are few but thee is enough activity for everyone here that could be satisfying.
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@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Jul 11
This is your choice really, and someone's decision can have either a positive or a negative impact on oneself. I know some discussions are meant to go along way before the topic gets boring and out, but this needs the creator's responses as a fuel to keep going; I think everyone here feels appreciated when he/she gets a response especially from the creator.
This is only but my point of view.
...a discussion is like fire, every drop of fuel keeps it burning..
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@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
14 Jul 11
Sometimes, I don't reply to comments on my discussion either. There are users that only posts one line posts, so, there are not much I can say for that.
I think it all depends of how interesting is your discussion. I always come back to the discussions that I responded to see if someone reply. If I think interesting, I reply back.
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