Would u like to change urself when u have some feeling for someone?
By kikishine
@kikishine (21)
China
July 14, 2011 4:06am CST
If u love someone,but u arent such a perfect guy for her,,would u like to make a change for her,or just behave in the same way,thinking if she loves me,shes gonna accept everything about me.... or atleast ,u wanna have a try? im a lady. Recently,i kind of have some feelings for a guy. im wondering what i should do to attract his attention, to dress up in the way he likes or just be myself,waiting him to direct his attention on me.....if u are in such situation,would u like to cater everything to ur beloveds or just show ur true personality?
4 responses
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
14 Jul 11
I don't believe that you should change yourself just to impress the person you like. The truth is that if someone really likes you, they should like ALL of you and most importantly they should like the REAL you. The fact is that if you pretend to be someone you're not, then the person you attract is going to be liking a person who doesn't even really exist. And you can't keep up an act forever - eventually you are going to have to be your real self, and what good will it be if then the guy you were trying to hold on to just goes running? Its better to be yourself from the beginning and find someone who loves the REAL you.
@MATT69AC (333)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Well I know it is bad because yes I have changed acouple times for different people and each one didnt work out so i guess it isnt good because it dosnt work out and I just dont feel good after cause I changed and didnt act the way i should have...
@kikishine (21)
• China
14 Jul 11
im sorry to hear that,, perhaps u didnt meet the right person. if we have some feeling for someone ,we are definitely in the passive position,,therefore,we shouldnt blame ourselves.if she or he is the one, they will accept what we are,i guess,haha
@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
16 Jul 11
Hi there. I think I would consider some changes in my behavior/habits/appearance in order to get attention and appreciation from the person I have feelings for. However, I would not agree to make any drastic changes to my personality. I mean, I could change myself a bit here and there, but I can't be somebody else.
@thetis74 (1525)
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14 Jul 11
It is very important to be yourself because that is the real you. And it is important to be loved by someone if you are just you. Change is good if it is for the better. And if you think you are good enough as a person that you are, then I don't think you necessarily have to change for a certain person. I am sure there are other guys who will love you for who and what you are. But if you want to make a change, say for example, wanting to dress better or look better makes sure, first re make sure that your are doing it for yourself to make you feel better before you do it for someone else.
