How do you like a relationship to start?
By divineathena
@divineathena (1746)
United States
July 14, 2011 6:13am CST
Relationships start in many different ways. Here are some examples:
-Falling in love the very moment you see them, saying I love you and then quickly starting the relationship.
-You end up falling hard for your friend. You realize it only after talking to them for couple of months or years. There was basically no initial attraction. Love just happened in friendship.
-You believe love begins only after you start the relationship. So you casually date many people to pick the right mate for yourself. But on the first stage, you don't feel anything for them. You are more interested in getting used to the mate.
- You just fall for the person, but decide to stay silently close to them for many months or years. Later you realize that the other person does not feel the same way about you. But you continue to stay as their friend hoping that someday they will see you as a martyr lover.
- You like a good chase. When you like someone you go after them so they get warmed up to you. This chase is more about winning the prize than really getting the person for love.
-You believe there is no need for commitment. You find relationship blossoming with different people of the opposite gender and that is all at the same time.
Which one do you think is perfect for you? And why?
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8 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
My husband and i started, by our office mates jokingly matching us. Since at that time, i don't have a boyfriend, i tried observing my husband first. Then, as the days passed by, i eventually liked him and fell for him. 
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
So was it like first you dated him to see if you guys had the compatibility?
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
19 Jul 11
That is sweet. Hope you are very happy with him. Group dating sounds safer.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Yes, we dated but at first it was group dates. Then, as we become closer we date by ourselves already. That started me to like him more.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Though I've never been involved in a relationship like this before, I think I would opt for the second one. I believe that love is a constantly involving thing. It develops as we know another person and as we cherish more his/her personalities. We appreciate the person's good attitudes and learn to accept and deal with his/her bad attitudes.
I think this way a relationship may work better and may last longer.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Do you think the love you will feel for that specific person will be passionate? Like would you get butterflies in your stomach for them?
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Of course, it will be passionate. For me, for a relationship to last, each side should know very well the other. If we will become friends first, we will enjoy being comfortable with each other while realizing different sides, both good and bad. Because we are friends, we will learn to accept the weaknesses and cherish the strengths of one another. That's why if we will have a relationship, we will not expect too much and won't be surprised too much with the characters we thought the person does not have, because we already know a lot from each other.
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Hmmmm.. for me, i like a relationship to start in any other way and not to take it harshly and make quick decisions. Usually, in the beginning of the relationship, the couple are always feeling so inlove and would likely make quick decisions out of those emotions.. But for me, taking it slow would be better than showing everything all at once, so that the spice will still be up and there are more to discover with from each partner..
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
friendship that blossomed into love is something more igniting. you knew that you have gotten to love that person out of the friendship that you once started.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
But do you think in this relationship, there will be less intimacy and more of friendship?
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
15 Jul 11
I also think that the best way for a relationship to start is for love to blossom out of a friendship. Its wonderful to fall in love with a friend, because you already know each other so well and you have a good base and a history together, so you already are half way into a relationship and you know that you can trust each other! The only problem with this kind of relationship is that if the relationship goes wrong for whatever reason then you have the risk of losing a good friend..
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
I totally agree with you. Friendship is platonic. Many start it with someone from the opposite gender with the hope to have nothing intimate. So mutual feelings might not be always there for the two people.
@ErrorGod (5)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I believe the foundation for every long-lasting relationship is friendship. Friendship should be like the base of the relationship, love as the foundation and passionate romance as the red cherry on top. because when your old and weary at the end of the day you'd always find happiness spending the afternoon talking your best friend. :)
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
That is a great way of describing a relationship. Very sweet. Thank you so much for the response.
. Very sweet. Thank you so much for the response.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Jul 11
Hi divineathena, I like the relationship to be step by step. Mine started as a stranger, then into a good friend, then slowly the feel of love, next for a life partner. Finally feel of without them, my life is empty. This is nice way to start with good relationship!
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
14 Jul 11
I'm a strong believer that most relationships start through friendships. Because, I believe you need to know someone to some extent because you fall in love with them. Otherwise, you might be falling for someone that person is not.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
16 Jul 11
That is true. But psychologically, do you prefer the feelings that come when you first meet a person and end up having a slight crush on him?
