Oneself.
By Lore2009
@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
July 14, 2011 5:36pm CST
I'm assuming as human beings, we all have different characters and personalities. Due to these traits we have, we may or may not get a long with certain types of people who are different from ourselves. For these people, we may spend less time with them or have a stressful relationship with them. But what if that person you don't get along with is yourself? Like what if your ideals and your reality is so different that that person you can't get a long with is yourself? Do you think in the end we will find a way to accept ourselves for the way we are? Or we just all do accept ourselves because we can never get rid of ourselves.
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10 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 11
hi yes sometimmes we h ave a hard time liking ourselves but we must learn to accept who we are, as basically we cannot change much of us
but we can learn to love ourself. pick out what we are good at and feel good about that then decide I am unique I like myself. I am so and so you use your name and yell I am blah blah . I like myself.I even love myself. Self esteem is healthy as without it we lead miserable sorry lives.We have to find a way to accept ou rselves as we can only change so much of us after all.![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Not just like but love more yourself. Coz in everything you do it is about yourself.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 11
right on we have to love ourselves and also we cannot really know how to love others if we do not love ourselves first,its self esteem
@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jul 11
I think to be healthy we have to work on or accept who we are. In this day and age alot of people are selfish and self serving. If they can't even admit that they are this way how can they get any kind of help for it. I think the first thing a person has to do is admit the problem and then work from there.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I find there is no way around not liking and accepting who we are. We must accept that we are not perfect and will not be liked by everyone. If we can at least like who we are then perhaps it will help to continually improve and make changes as we can then determine what weak flaws perhaps we may have.
We simply have to accept that not everyone will like what they see and or get from us. This definitely will be helpful as we cannot please the world.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
15 Jul 11
Well, I get along with myself, hello self. LOL. No, just joking. I don't think we cannot get along with our selves. There might be some parts of ourselves that we would like to change, maybe it be looks, weight or habits. We have no choice but to get along with ourselves. I know that they're people who act like one person when they are around others and another when they are alone. I am who I am, no matter who is around. But in the end we all accept ourselves.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
15 Jul 11
No matter what we do,we can't get rid of ourselves,we have no choice but to live with our own self all the time.Anyway,I guess that inner conflicts are good up to a point because they can motivate us and help us improve,but if we exaggerate and become too severe with ourselves we'll probably reach the point when we simply hate our own person and that can only lead to depression and mental illness,so I guess it's important to have a measure in everything and try not to have too high expectations from ourselves,cause the disappointment of not being able our ideals might lead us to madness.
@blonie (3)
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15 Jul 11
I don't really get what you're saying, but if what you're saying is that if we didn't get along with ourselves(or in other words,don't accept ourselves for what-or who-we are)then we would be forced, by ourselves, to accept ourself, then the answer is... yes, we would be forced (by ourself) to like ourselves.
But here's another question, what if we couldn't in the end even accept ourself? Then what? Would we try and change ourselves into someone we're not, just so we can like(or accept)ourselves? I think that's the big question. 'cause there's some people that don't like themselves just because they think they're not the sort, or type, of person who they would like to be. But if you are you, and you have all these good, amazing qualities about yourself, that no one else has, then why would you not like yourself? The answer is simple, there is no answer. You would be forced(as mentioned before)to accept yourself for who you are, because why wouldn't you? If you're this amazingly, special(in your own way) person, who has all these cool traits, and don't like yourself, ask yourself,"Is there someone out there as unique as me? As i am?" The answer will be no, 'cause no one can be you but you. So since there's only one of you, i'm guessing that one has to be the perfect someone(of yourself). 'cause no one is you-sure they may be someone somewhere who may look like you, but they're not you, no one can be you but you. And only you can be the best you, so if you feel like you can't accept yourself, remember, you are the best you,and if not, only you can change that.
@rowantree (1186)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I've always heard that for others to like/love you, you have to like/love yourself first. I believe this is true, I believe that if you are solid with who you are, others will be drawn to you. Everyone has doubts about themselves. I think (it's just my opinion) that if you are unhappy and find that you don't really like yourself, then you need to take the time and find out why. I mean, REALLY take the time - it could take months before you finally pinpoint what you don't like. Make sure to list all the things you DO like about yourself too! Then you can change. It's much easier to change yourself than to change someone else! LOL
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
I pity people who don't like themselves. If what they see in themselves is not the way they like it to be, then they should try making things that could improve themselves in any way. They could engage in activities which could bring out some things about them that they haven't explored yet.
That way, they get a chance of reinventing themselves and liking them more than their former selves
@eldeenz (25)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Yes, sometimes we keep on asking ourself why am I like this. Why am i so bad i did something like this?Sometimes there is a battle inside us that we really need to fight alone. But always remember that in order to learn how to love or accept others we must first love or accept ourselves. Accept who we are , accept what we belive in and most all, realize who we really are.
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