Love Begets Love, Hate Begets Hate

True. It also explains the adage, "What you reap, you sow". While it is relieving to be able to speak your mind about how you truly feel, we should also be mindful of the words we utter. Because we might end up truly hurting the other person to a point that resolving the issue will be really difficult.

I can totally relate with you. My hubby and I, we've been together since high school, which is a pretty long time now going on our 11th year of marriage. At the beginning when we were dating/going out (whatever you want to call it), we would fight over non-sense things and most of the time it would be me getting upset with him. Ofcourse I would give the cold shoulder and that would probably last a day, but that was about it. Our quarrels would be more often back then, but like I said over silly stuff. Now that we have grown up, we tend not to fight, of course like a normal and healthy couple you do tend to have your disagreements, but I have also learned to try and be more calm, once in a while I get a bit aggrevated, but now that we have kids, I don't like for them to see mom and dad fighting so I try not to make a big deal about them. Of course we love each other, that's probably why we put up with each others crap all the time. So I definitely do agree with what you said "love begets love and hate begets hate".

So True Ms.D.. me and hubby are still young in this aspect of togetherness..but i can say that what you stated is true. Often times i did observe that when he gets mad, and i retort back hotly, it becomes another world war.. Things gets heated up and we end up arguing over and over and over again and we really never get to understand each other. i am one who wants to have the last word and i never stop speaking until i get my point cleared..its like debate - i am fond of debating back in college thats why hahaha But now just with our recent fight, i was able to realize that what i did was wrong, i should not have answered him right away. i should have relaxed first and clear my thoughts and have him also clear his thoughts..and when we did we were able talk things through. I know there will be more of this to come..

true. Trust begets trust. distrust begets distrust. this applies to home situation, office situation, national and international situation.

Hi, Sumplyd, sometime, I with my girl friend to be angry each other. Yesterday, My girl friend angry me and give me a cold war. I apologize her, but she not calm down.

Hello SIMPLYD! A very common saying but rarely applied in daily life. Actually, this saying is so common that we have neglected its real value. I think this cliche is so simple. It is as simple as the golden rule; yet it is so difficult to put into practice. One very obvious proof is our presently sick society. All the crimes and injustices, the poverty and malnutrition, these man-made disasters are all caused by mankind's indifference. We are all made to love and be loved, thus this saying is for every single human being living in this world. If we just love one another unconditionally, then there is no space for hatred and selfishness in this world. Again,love begets only love. Give love and it is reciprocated with love...and this is the simple and only cure to our dying morality. Hence, I believe that this saying is not only for couples but also for all the people in the world. It's about time that we take this saying seriously and live with it by heart.

Yes, this is true in all walks of life. When one acquires wisdom, one learns to return love regardless of receiving hate. This brings the hate back to love.

love and hate, no one can predict. Sometimes hated, could turn into love, and sometimes, love can turn into hate.

You are so right about this. I am so glad you all learned how to interact with each other. I use to be like this with my husband in my first marriage. I never wanted to give in. I always wanted to be right. Now that I have had some other experiences in life I can see how this is no good. It should be give and take like you stated. When I marry again this will be a lesson I have learned and will pay close attention not to violate.

For me yes it is because after the married it has five years of getting to know it's other so after that you find ways how to be nice and love so it is happy.

I should learn from that. My husband and i have been married for 8 years and i still considered this to be an early stage of marriage. We often argue even about simple things and like you said nobody wants to give in. Like last Sunday we argued about computers and Bill Gates significance to the movie Transformer: The Dark of the Moon. We argued for almost an hour and my son suddenly interrupted and said, "and the winner is....the two of you!" Well, i guess it's because we are both young, hot tempered and very opinionated. NOw i'm just looking forward to getting old and giving each other love.

that is something worthy to be thought about. true, that is the principle of reciprocity in all matters of the earth. :)

Yes, this is very true. I think that learning to love someone is a choice you make - there are good things about almost everyone in the world and you can learn to love them by choosing to focus on the good things and to try and look over the bad. So if you start out in a frame of mind in which you are positive and happy and trying to love someone, you are much more likely to end up being happy at the end of the day! So yes, I agree with that statement - love begets love and hate begets hate..