Do you secretly check on your BF's wallet and celphone??

I used to be more insecure about my relationship and wanted to check these kinds of things alot. Now that we have been together a long time I really don't get that urge anymore. Although sometimes if I happen upon something by accident (note in pants while doing laundry or internet browsing history while looking for a page I visited). I will usually ask him about it and it is no big deal and he will respond openly, quickly and honestly about it. I have a lot of trust in him. I think it is natural to want to protect yourself and investigate clues about your partner to prevent you from getting hurt or betrayed. Hopefully as a relationship builds and trust is accumulated this will lessen over time. I don't think it is as simple as right or wrong. If you think it is wrong to peek then don't simple as that.

Don.t you think all this is a matter of trust?you check ur b.f,s wallet and cellfone just to check whats going in his life othen then you.it may be ur insecurity and also ur negative trust on ur b.f.and not think for a moment,ur b.f loves u heartly and he caught you doing it with this intenson then how will you justify urself.would you say him that you don.t trust him so you were checking him.and after that can you imagine the purity of love as before.bcoz ur b.f couldn.t feel secure even with you and may be it end with a broke up of ur relationship.

well if you want to check these things, then you don't trust him 100%, whatever you say. I have never considered checking these things. that's not healthy in a relationship.

My boyfriend is as antisocial as I am. In fact, he has only one friend and he has some kind of aversion to female species. I cannot even type the curse words he uses for women on the street. Also he deleted his Facebook. His phone book has just mine, his parents' and brother's numbers. Because of this, he was feeling embarrassed in front of me during our early days. And the text messages are all from me or his brother. My instinct tells me 100% that he is not cheating on me at all. Also other women are not programmed to handle him! He is a very difficult person who does not even smile! I feel happy that I picked myself a hardcore introvert. But yep, if he was outgoing I would have been definitely worried. I would have also had the urge to check out his personal things. Is it bad? No unless we have some kind of insecurity or controlling issue. But sometimes, instinct serves us right. If it says something is amiss we should listen to it and look for the answer through investigation. Some boyfriends lie and so the only way to get to the truth is to try the searching method.

hello WWS, Sometimes we can't avoid doing it I do that before but with his presence around if he is not hiding anything there is no reason for him not to allow me to check his wallet or cellphone. It is bad if we get caught if not then its fine happy mylotting

hi whitewingspeak, I and my boyfriend is open eachh other.I know what's thing that exist on his wallet and celphone, so he did.sometime he got jealous watching message from some guy but I tell him that it's all about friend and work talking, then he understand,we trust each other and I think we have no left secret to be hidden.for me it's normal.if the relationship going to serious level, both couple have much more open and trust each other, no secret anymore.that's what we did so far

Even when I learned that my ex-bf was then cheating, I still did not bother to check his wallet and cellphone. Besides, when he started not allowing me to even hold his wallet and cellphone that was a confirmation of my hunches. He used to let me hold his wallet and cp then.

I cannot imagine looking at anyone else's purse or wallet. My husband and I have been married for over 6 years and I have never once looked in his wallet, nor he in my purse. We don't look at each other's phone records or computer history either. If you cannot trust someone, why be with him/her?

As gf i think it is not yet appropriate to see his wallet and cellphone. Mayeb cellphone but the wallet i think is not good to do. When i am still not yet married and i had a boyfriend i did not try this thing. But when i got with him (husband) i did everything to inspect all his secret belongings. And this is just natural to a husband and wife....

I feel like going through anyone's personal stuff, whether it be a family member or a boyfriend/girlfriend it's wrong -e ven if they don't necessarily have anything to hide. So you say you trust him 100% then what are you looking for in his wallet or cell phone/text messages? I try not to pry into other people's personal stuff like this just because I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of this, from family, friends, guys, whatever. It's annoying and intrusive.

Actually I am in a relationship where we do not check one anothers things. I have no interest and or desire to do so as I do feel I trust him implicitly. I feel that it is an envasion to do so and am very glad that my boyfriend does not. I can even ask him to reach in my purse for something and he will bring me my purse to me. I guess it is just not something either one of us do.

You start by saying you trust your BF 100% then go on to prove that you don't trust him at all. The rule I live by is if I have to do it in secret, then it is WRONG! If you feel the need to check up on what your BF is doing, you don't have a trusting relationship. You either believe he is doing something wrong or cheating on you. How good a relationship can you have if you feel the need to uncover his 'secrets.' You must believe he has secrets or you wouldn't be looking for them. So, either gain some trust, get rid of the BF and find someone who you can trust.

Yes, i do check his personal belongings, with him or without his eyes. And he don't mind at all if I do that. It's normal for us girls to look on the bf's cellphone, we might caught them texting wild cats. lol And boys do check our phones too, sometimes they first read the messages and doesn't bother to tell who texted us. :)

I also do the same. I trust my husband but i also still wanna see his private messages on his phone and i also like to look at his wallet. I do that because sometimes i have hunch that he is not telling the truth and after i look on his phone and wallet i found out that his not telling me the true. After that i will just talk to him just to avoid the argument.