How can I know?
By enicole94
@enicole94 (103)
July 15, 2011 1:16pm CST
Okay there is this guy that I go to school with he is one grade above me. He is really nice and ever since I've know him he has always seemed to have some sort of interest in me. But this year it seemed like has been paying a lot more attention to me. I know we are not in love but my question is does he like me or is it just lust? We only see each other a few times in a day and he tells everyone that I am his best and that one day he will marry me. He is really nice to me and sometimes it does seem like he gets a little nervous around me but i don't know. Like I said before we only see each other a few times and all of a sudden he started getting to touchy. He grabbed my butt and that was unsuspected for me. He keeps telling me we should hang out and stuff but I am being very cautious here. He asked me to prom but lied to me and said he couldn't go but ended up going anyway. Did I mention he has a girlfriend and I am not the home wrecking type. I don't think I have the same feelings for him that he does for me but he is kinda of a friend and I don't wanna hurt him.But I don't wanna lead him on. he saying he gonna break up with his girlfriend so we can hang out. I guess all I really am is confused so could please help. It may sound stupid but I would appreciate your response. thanks
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6 responses
@leon3000502000 (1564)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
its great that you've open to our fellow mylotters. hmmm. to be honest, i don't like that guy, i believe he has really an intention to you, and it could be just your body and it's not love. it's up to you if you will allow this to happen again and to continue your friendship relationship. you need to have to decide what is good for you, if you don't want to hurt we don't know that in the future you will be hurt by him. so be aware and be cautious.
if you caught him lying, don't put your trust in him, i am sure he cannot be trusted and don't rely on your feeling because our heart is decietful above all things. be a discerning to his actions and to his motives.
@enicole94 (103)
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16 Jul 11
Thanks for the response. I really do feel like I'm starting to have feelings for him but I don't want to be disappointed and get hurt in the end. It's gonna be kinda hard to avoid him at first but I'll do my best to stay away.
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@leon3000502000 (1564)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
that's great decision, if you allow him to continue in his actions, there's a big possibility that you would fall into his intentions. and you might really fall to him. what could be the good things he might bring to you? think of it a thousand times. you are not alone and there is still ways to get out from that situation of yours.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Honestly, I would stop hanging out with him at all. When he breaks up with his girlfriend, then you can hang out and see where it goes. If you are not interested in him, then you should tell him. By allowing him to be touchy, feely with you is send mixed messages. I would ask him to back off. Best Wishes!
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I'm thinking this is more like Lust. In my opinion the way he is acting around you is that he's frisky or that he wants to get into your pants. If he really likes you he'd wait and he'd be patient.
If you do want this guy too. Than I would suggest that you tell him 'look it you have a girlfriend and i"m not interested in being the girl on the side' If you say that to him he may either break it off from his girl friend or may blow ya off.
From my years of experience sounds like he wants to get into your pants and right now he has a girlfriend that will do that for him and I think he's seeing if you'd be the same. Cause if he's getting touchy it means he's testing the waters. Seeing if you'd let him or yell at him. And when he tells everyone that he wants to marry you later on I think he's saying these things so you feel like he loves you and that you'd anything he asks of you. To me sounds like your gonna get played so watch out.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
16 Jul 11
It sounds like he likes you/ has a crush on you. My first red flag though would be the fact that he has a girlfriend. He defficiently should not be showing you this much attention if he is with someone. It's not respectful to his girlfriend or to you. If you two were to have a relationship together you would want to have a good foundation. Starting out the way he is isn't a good way to get things going. If he truly cares for you then he needs to be honest with his girlfriend about his feelings. You would need him to be honest with you so you should see how he does things if you think you are interested in him. I would make sure though that he is honest with you and his girlfriend. If he's only flirting and isn't interested in you at all and doesn't plan on breaking up with his girlfriend then you should tell him about how he's acting and how you feel about. Flirting is not harmless fun as a lot of people think it is. It causes people think that someone is interested in them and feelings do get hurt. In this case i don't think his feelings is necessarily going to get hurt unless he is serious about how he's feeling towards you. If he is serious then it will show in how he treats you and his girlfriend. Games when it comes to relationships aren't fun either and I hope that the two of you can sit down and really talk seriously about what you both want. If he's mature about it he will make a decision and not play around. If he cares for you he will respect you by showing only interest in you and right now he's not showing that because he has a girlfriend.
@kareemadivina (1230)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
I think he's just trying to take you to bed.Men who are touching you without your permission,and to think thre's no even a formal relationship with you is not respecting you at all.If he really wants to have a serious relationship with you and sees you as a wife potential,he should have respected you in the first place.If he's cheating his girlfriend now,he could do the same thing to you in the future.I think that the best thing you can do is to keep a distance away from him.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Hmmmm.. As I've read your post, I think he's on to lust and doesn't love you. You said, he has a girlfriend already. If he really loves you, he had broke up with her a long time ago. Right? Maybe, he just wants to take a score on you. Maybe it's only lust that he felt for you and he just wants to play with you. Better keep out of him. You might just be hurt in the end. :(
