Do you mind if you receive a crystal engagement ring instead of a diamond one?
By Porkchopchop
@Porkchopchop (324)
Hong Kong
July 15, 2011 4:09pm CST
I have just heard a authentic story about a couples in my mother tongue and let me translate it:
A man and a girl are planning to get married. The woman asks the man not to buy a diamond engagement ring for her in order to save some money. The man is hesitated, he doesn't know whether the woman really wants a crystal engagement ring instead because all women love diamond (according to his universal knowledge), and it seems to him that a diamond ring is necessary for wedding. He feels guilty as it seems that he is not giving his best to his fiancee.
He buys a crystal ring from a famous brand. Before he gives it to his fiancee, he asks,"Do you mind if you receive a crystal engagement ring instead of a diamond one?" His wife says, "It doesn't matter. I am in a state of bliss after knowing that we are getting married! The only and the most important thing is...I love you! "
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@whispers168 (768)
• United States
16 Jul 11
To recieve a ring from the person you love and respect is a beautiful thought and gesture.I would not need a expensive diamond to be happy.If it was just a ring made of crystal it would touch my heart just the same.
@mindym (978)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I would prefer a diamond ring, but would completely understand if he couldn't afford a diamond at the time. I'm not expecting a $10,000 ring or anything. I would settle for a crystal ring temporarily while he was saving for a diamond ring, or if he had a fun way to ask me to marry him, I might just keep the crystal . That's what I want now, but if I was actually in that situation, it might be different and I might accept the crystal ring indefinitely because love sometimes makes you do things you would not normally do. There was a local couple here who got married a couple of years ago at the state fair. He proposed with a ring bought out of a machine (like a gumball machine) because he could not afford the real ring at the time. She accepted and wore it. It was such a cute story and that's what I call true love.
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Brace yourself... I'm a woman and I don't like diamonds!
No really, I don't like diamonds. So it is in fact, NOT a universal truth that all young women want diamond engagement rings. Honestly, I think I'd been more happy that I landed a man and more concerned about how we were going to make our lives together than what kind of ring he bought me. And diamonds are just... ugh. Almost everyone gets a diamond engagement ring, it's boring now.
I don't really like the idea of crystal either. I was thinking a colorful stone like a ruby, emerald, opal, amethyst, or aquamarine... or... well something with a little color! I like the idea of a ring that looks like a flower growing on a vine. Something kinda fantasy-esque if you know what I mean.
But eh.... a ring is honestly just a minor detail to me. It's not really hugely important... not when you've got the man!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
I don't mind even if it is a plastic one,what matters most is the loyalty and love from someone who gave that ring to me.
There are many stories of grand wedding,engagement in news and being published and sensational..yet ended up with breaking up right?
So,it's not the ring that matters in a relationship.
With or without ring ...a true love is never been measured for what kind of ring does someone had given.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Jul 11
For me it does not matter.
I think it is important that respect and gesture.
For me, no matter what the ring because if the man next to me loves me not important to me to buy expensive things and it is important to show my love.
Have a nice day!
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Personally, I don't need a very expensive ring. Although the cost is not that important but it matters, honestly. If my boyfriend couldn't afford a diamond ring at the time, maybe I'll settle with the crystal one and ask for a diamond later if he'll be able to have money for it. Hehehe.. What's important is your happiness.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Many would say that it doesn't really matter. But I won't say it, but would mean it.
I am now in the age where I am excited to be proposed on (even if there's no ring) and to get married. I would like to settle down with the one I am with and right now, rings are no longer important to me.
I am no longer a dazed little girl looking on to her knight-in-shining-armor. I am now a woman who is seeing someone who I think is really someone I'd like to spend this life with. Yes, there are no perfect relationships, neither is the way to married life bliss, but I think given the things that we've gone through - we could do it.
There would be some who would marry because they're alone, I am not alone. I have my family and friends with me but I would like him to be happy with me, my friends and my family.
I have seen a lot of joyous holidays, sharing it with the people close to me and right now I'd like him to be a part of those.
It's really different when we talk about love and marriage as younger people. There are so many ideals during that age, but right now, I'm up for anything. I just want to spend the rest of my life by his side, having him for a husband, my bestfriend and my partner.
There's nothing more that could make me happy than to know that he'd like to have me as well. Forever.
So crystal or diamond doesn't matter. Just a simple "Marry Me" and "I love you" is enough.
Have a great MyLot experience today!
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Frankly, if we are in the place in our relationship where getting married is an option, I'd be happy if he wrapped a wire twist tie around my finger. Being engaged is the important part.
I've been engaged twice. The first time I got a ring that did not fit me at all, it was nothing like I would have picked out for myself and as petty and superficial as it might sound, I didn't like it. I wore it for what it represented but I'd almost go so far as to say I thought it was ugly. When I took it to sell a few years later, they gave me $20 for it. Not only was it ugly, it was CHEAP. If you're going to buy something that proves you know nothing about me, at least spend a few bucks.... and there is a HUGE difference between cheap and inexpensive...this one was just cheap.
The second fella couldn't afford to buy me a ring and wouldn't let me tell anyone we were engaged until he could because he thought my friends would judge him for proposing without buying me a ring. More superficiality, this time his not mine. *sigh*
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
16 Jul 11
I wouldn't mind receiving a crystal engagement ring instead of a diamond. I wouldn't mind receiving something that is below that either. To me what mattered most was us being together and having a happy relationship. It wouldn't make much difference if our relationship didn't work out and the ring would be pointless then. So for me focusing the ring wasn't that important. However I didn't receive a crystal but a diamond and recently i've had to wear a little plastic band so that I don't scratch my daughter. As long as others know i'm married then i'm happy.