Have u ever been in love with two people at one time?
By Mvinluan
@Mvinluan (18)
Philippines
July 15, 2011 10:14pm CST
My best friend has a boyfriend right now and they are planning to get married this year. They are even looking at houses now. But the twist is, her ex boyfriend, started courting her again. She admitted to me that she still loves her ex and that she also loves her current boyfriend. She and her ex talk on the phone everyday for long hours and share just about everything. She cries each time they talk about their past and their current status. All the while, her current boyfriend doesn't know what's going on. she told me she is scared of making a choice because of others' opinions, because of the suicidal tendency of her current boyfriend. I just told her to be true and make a choice as soon as she can to avoid worse heartaches.
Have you, guys, been in a situation like this? And how did you resolve it?
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8 responses
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
NO and never. I only have one heart. On;y for them an I truly love. Loving someone else aside from your man is cheating.
Maybe the two of them has been very sweet or it's her first love. She needs to forget the X because it's on the past. And it's not good to hurt her current bf. If she pursue being with her ex then she'll have karma soon. I hope she'll have better choice.
God Bless
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Jul 11
At one time, and at that moment I thought I was. I had my eye on two guys, just paying attention, not flirting or anything but years later I know I was trying to get out from another one. I was very much single and he was complicated, I think we were because there was too much history and we were friends but not meant to be friends, so we kept irritating each other, well he begun so unconsciously I tried to get away from him likeing someone else but never really liked. That was the closest I got to it, so I never liked two guys at the same time. I tried but this heart can't work that way. Must be a great feeling though, when I'm in love I feel like flying, can't imagine feel that times 2! wow, hahaha.
@trose7 (243)
• United States
16 Jul 11
I have been in love with two people at once, but I never dated either of them. I think she needs to sit down and really think about what she wants in life and which man is the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. Maybe she should take a week away from both of them, because sometimes you will want the person you last saw. This will give her time to think without distractions. When she does make her choice, she needs to sit down and talk to each of them, separately, and explain where she is coming from and be completely honest. Tell her that it's not about what her boyfriend or ex-boyfriend wants, it's about what she wants, and it's her choice to make.
@sfcreyes24 (129)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Yes I did. Because I had a boyfriend that time and the another one is my friend. I fell in love with my friend but i also love my boyfriend but I choose only one. I choose the one i really love. That's why I think about it and think whom i really love.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
16 Jul 11
No I never have and actually i don't know how that happens too. But I do know a girl who not only had two lovers but more than that at the same time. I don't know how they do that. I mean I had problems taking care of 1 boyfriend I had then, but she had 4 at the same time. It's amazing!
Anyway I hope your friend makes up her mind soon and I hope she decides on someone she'll not regret later. Good luck to her and have a great weekend!!
@km2011 (28)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
I can only speak for myself. I find myself incapable of loving two people all at once. I can only explain it this way - love comes in different forms. I think it would help if your bestfriend contemplate upon the kind of love that she has for her current boyfriend and her ex. Because I truly believe that you could love only one person in the romantic sense of it. Maybe she loves her ex-boyfriend in a romantic way and her current boyfriend in a brotherly or friendly way. OR it could be the other way around.
However it is, she has to pick ONLY one. And she has to pick one quick. There's no easy way out of this entire thing. A decision really has to be made before any further emotional damage could be done.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
This is really not a good situation for her. Either way you look at it, if she somehow make a decision, someone will be hurt. If she'll choose her current boyfriend, her ex will get hurt but I think it is just right that she'll choose her current boyfriend. Her ex had his time with her and just blew it up. It must be better if she stop communicating with her ex and forget about him. If her boyfriend will find out what she's doing, she'll surely hurt his feelings and might lose his trust on her. :) I hope she'll make a right decision.
@AngelMary621 (20)
• United States
16 Jul 11
I am positive that many of us have encountered a similar situation at one point in our lives.
One theory that has always held true for me is that an ex is an ex for a reason. It is human nature to desire the forbidden and to want what we cannot have.
Despite the feelings that your friend may be having for her ex, I am sure that they are not love.
That is not to be misunderstood with me advising to stay with her current boyfriend. If she is feeling something for anybody other than her mate, they are not the right one for her. I just am not so sure that her ex is either.
Possibly this ex is just a means to have a reason to escape her current situation.
She should follow her heart. It may lead her to her ex for now, but possibly on to somebody who steals her heart and does not break it.
