Moody People

Hi pinklily..I think we have all that particular someone who is like this! I completely understand and sympathize for you..unfortunately, thats the way some partners are like when they are 'stressed/agitated' at that moment in time-..and it usually does come rolling back as psychologically it is unresolved to them- and until its cleared in their mind.. its no longer a throw back at you.. however it doesnt necessarily resolve their underlying agitation- and for this I try to remain as calm as I calm (*regardless of insults, or how annoyed they may feel*)- Just allow them to vent it out- and I have found this ESPECIALLY with men (*sorry guys*)! I wouldnt doubt nor challenge any mothers skills to raising their children, those I dont know anyway- but Im sure your partner is fully aware of your daily pressures and this in turn has an affect on him..knowing that he may feel slightly helpless as to giving you undivided attention? Maybe try making some time just for the two of you..?

Thankfully I do not live with someone like this. I do have a very understanding boyfriend and appreciative too. I can only suggest that while he is in one of his good moods, that you say calmly to him, that YOU have an issue you would like to discuss with him. Notice I said you and not him because when people hear that we have a problem with them, they tend to get defensive and not willing to listen to any of our complaints. Let him how YOU feel when he is not in a good mood. Tell him you are doing the best you can and unless he explains exactly what is wrong with him that you cannot be of further help. Explain you understand he is busy and stressed but that for the continual growth of happiness with your family, it is important to discuss what bothers one another as you cannot be a mind reader. I do hope he listens as it sounds like you two are building a home for a future together and if he does not change his ways, how will it last forever. All the best to you and your family.

I believe the best way to deal with moody people is to be calm around them. Not necessarily ignore them, but when they ask things, request things, ask questions, just answer or provide these in a calm manner. Ignoring them will only make them more demanding. So the best way to go is to communicate and give them what they want, all with a good attitude. :)

Unfortunately, I'm a moody person. I don't normally snap at people though. I'm really a quiet person so people don't really have to deal with it. They usually can tell my mood by the way I said, "good morning." It seems bizarre but it's true. My poor husband though, sometime I go off on him for no reason. He know how I am but that still doesn't make it right. They've given me medication that helps but it's not a full proof cure. Sorry to hear you have to deal with this. You sound like a great person, who loves her children and takes care of your home. Hope things get better for you soon. Best Wishes!

Hi Pink, The way you describe him he sounds like he is bipolar. Those mood swings can be like that. One day you can be his princess and the next day you can be a thorn in his side depending on what kind of mood he is in. Maybe he should be checked and get on some medication. My daughter is bipolar and on meds and she is still like the wind .. going in any direction.

This is amazingly familiar to me! It was like I was saying it myself. I just love my hubby, and he does alot, but I can totally related to the constant mood change and complaints about things that don't really matter. I got an ear full over not buying soap as we ran out!! He doesn't yell or curse or anything, but those mood swings sometimes make me think hes a women with PMS! haha. He loves our little ones and would do anything for us, but sometimes when the monster side comes out i wonder where that came from!! Back to your question, I actually just go out sometimes. If he's moody when the kids are asleep I head down the road and get myself an icecream sundae in the drive through, or do a spot of shopping. Or-I write in my "feelings" book.. haha, sounds funny, well I actually have a yellow book and I just go and write in it. He gets frustrated when I do it, because he knows it's my journal with my thoughts.... Ahh...men !!

There is a lot of times life is just like this. I know many times I have dealt with these same issues with my husband to where it just is like HELP!! I know that we work different shifts and only have Thursday and Fridays nights together and then Saturday and Sunday until I go to work as I work Swing and he works days. But many times it is like I never do enough, etc. and due to the limitations with my Health at times it can be quite frustrating indeed.

Hi. You have to be calm and not respond. Always. It's hard I know, but it will help you a lot. You will spend each day without anger and frustration. My advice to you is to read "The Law of the garbage truck" from David J. Pollay. You will understand how to deal with these problems and not let them get to you and ruin your day. One minute of anger between your partner and you will make you think about it all day long. This book will also help you explain to your partner, that inspite of all his problems, he should not unload them on everybody else. He should deal with them in his own and ask for help when needed.