my husband cheated on me.......

Hi preciousfel, Thats really painful to know that your partner broke up the trust. And sad part is he is not loyal to either. I would say though its hard advice, I would say talk to him and tell how irresponsible he is towards you. Just give him a chance to change atleast for the kids,they shouldn't suffer. Else he should help the kids for their future.

I'm really sorry to hear this. Do you still love him? And do you think you could still trust him like before? If you said yes to both of the questions. I think you can try to forgive him. But if you said no to one of them, break up with him right away! I have a friend, her situation is almost the same with yours. Her husband cheated on her many times, and with different woman. They have a daughter, only 1 year old. She told me she still loves him, but she doesn't trust him any more. She began to spy on him and check his sms and phone call record every day. This marriage is totally meaningless! So if you still love him and think you could still trust him, it's worth trying to forgive him. I hope you are not depressed too much! Things change, people change. Good luck~~, we are with you!!!!!

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Many years ago, one of my boyfriends cheated on me. I even saw the girl that he cheated with and all I could think was "Really? With her? Couldn't you have picked someone better?" . We broke up and then ended up getting back together, but I just didn't trust him. It was always in the back of my head and I couldn't let it go, which wasn't fair for either one of us. Trust is a HUGE part of a relationship, and when that isn't there, I'm not sure how a relationship can survive. But there is a difference with my relationship and yours: I wasn't married or didn't have any children, but you're married and have 3 children. I was able to finally let it go (although it didn't take long after the 2nd break-up) and move on. You have to stay strong in this and know that you deserve better than that. I personally would not stay with him, but if you so desire to stay with him, I hope that you find the help and support that you need.

I am sorry to hear about the issues with your husband. It is not easy to say and or tell you what would be right for you. I do know what this is like and can tell you from first hand experience, that no matter what you do the issue will not be forgotten. Even if you forgive your mind and heart will not forget, so it will not be easy to continue as you will always doubt him. All I can say is that having experienced this personally in my own life is that I will never tolerate it ever again as I am a very loyal and trustworthy person. Therefore, I will not allow any man to ever disrespect me in this way. Based on my own experience all I can say is he cheats once he will most definitely do it again. Good luck and do look at your life long term as you cannot bring back the years. Therefore remaining in this situation will only cause you to loose out on the years that you will not be able to change and or fix since they will be gone.

First of all: I am so sorry to hear that, and so sorry for what you went through, I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like! Second of all: it sounds to me like you are capable to take care of your family without him, so why would you go back to him? It might lead to even more of the same drama as you already went through, so the only reason to go back would be if you really love him and think he has changed. But even so, most of the time people who cheated in the past, will cheat again, so that is important to remember as well... Whatever you do, good luck to you! I hope there will only be happiness in your life after this! :)

That would be very hard to deal with. I couldn't imagine all the things that you are going through. If my husband cheated on me I would definitely be angry, let alone if he got her pregnant i would be heartbroken . Marriage to me personally is very important and if I decided to forgive him their would definitely have to be ground rules about dealing with people of the opposite gender. He would have to be very open and honest and communicate with me so that I would know and understand his needs. He would also have to make sure that the rules that we have agreed upon he sticks too, because if he we cheated on me again that would be the final straw. In some cases we as women may do certain things that may contribute to our husbands infidelity (not at all saying that it is justified for a husband to cheat) like undermining them, not supporting them, not being loyal to our part of the marriage bonds. But if a husband cheats a second time then that's just absolutely horrible, ridiculous and is totally his own fault. So the decision of what you want to do is up to you. You both have 3 wonderful children i'm sure of and how the decisions you make will affect. What is beneficial for them and their growth and development has a major bearing on decisions such as this essential this.

I would get rid of him. He disrespected you. Not only did he cheat on you, he got her pregnant which is even worse. In the end it will be you and the children that get hurt the most.

I'm really sorry that you find yourself in this situation. It's certainly not a situation you want to find yourself in. It's difficult to say what I would do exactly, as I've never been in this situation, but I don't think that I would be able to forgive him. Personally, I don't think that I would. If he's done it once to you, there is a chance he might do it again in the future. I might be wrong, but I think that the chance may still be there. You have to do what is best for yourself and your three children.

hello precious, SIMPLE ; KICK HIS AS* AND THROW HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE Are you separated now? If yes...leave it that way,don't listen to him,unless you love him that much and want him back in your life (that is your choice) In the end...it is still your decision that will end the day. So think it twice,thrice and a hundred times before making the final step. Freedom is the best thing that ever happened once in our lives. You are not alone having such fate my friend...so don't be afraid to face the world of judgmental people. Let them judge you...they can't help you anyway...let them gossip,they're the one sinning and not you. have a great weekend and welcome to mylot

just ignore him...!! dont care him...therz a saying that "no one praises a singing bird until it flies away"... when u go away from his life he will know the value of ur prescence in his life..after that he will surely come back to u..!! all the best :)