Do you feel not good when someone speaks.....

Sometimes because you know my husband is from Mexico and although we have been together several years I have yet to learn all the Spanish but I do understand most of it when someone is speaking it but not all of it it is just very difficult for me to learn. So I know how you feel. You are not alone.

Hi insulin: Well I try not to feel uncomfortable. i am more curious. Actually I think is disrespectful to ask someone to speak in another languaje so I can understand if it's not necessary. This is apart of himself and I am sure that if I am in a foreign country I'd love to talk sometimes in my mother tongue, don't you. Only if it's necessary that everybody understand I would as a person that speaks another languaje to talk to me in spanish. ALVARO

I have many foreign friends, and I have often been in a situation where people spoke their own languange in front of me. Sometimes it makes me feel left out when I am not able to understand the conversation. On the other hand I know that they don't intend to be rude or intend to shut me out, they speak their own language because it is much easier for them to express themselves in that language. They speak English, but it is not easier for them and when they speak their own language they are able to relax. When they speak their own language they don't have to think about vocabulaty or grammer, they just speak.

I think it also depends on the circumstances like someone else said. If you all don't share a common language, then I can see why they woudl speak the language that they share in common. I don't like feeling left out, and that's how I feel sometimes when people are speaking in a different languages around me. This is like me at the hair salon last night - everyone except for me and my friend were speaking Hmong and laughing. We were a little concerned that they were making fun of us because they knew we couldn't understand..But hopefully not lol

Yes, I do not feel very good when someone speaks a different language in front of me. I would feel distant and not very much a part of the conversation. I think if you ask nicely to your friend or partner to speak in the language that you are comfortable in then I think they will understand.

It really depends on the situation. I think your husband and his friend feels more comfortable when speaking in German. However I think it would not be right if you went out to dinner with them and they spoke German the whole evening. I think the best thing to do is to have an interest in their language. Ask your husband if he could teach you. I think it would be a good topic to bond with your husband and you will be able to understand a bit in their conversations. It only becomes awkward if you try to resist it. Just try to relate more.

Sometimes yes....depends on the situation...but here in my city alot of people speak spanish....and they act like they are talking about you...that makes me feel uncomfortable. If they are just having a conversation and not looking at me or whatever..then it's fine...

Here in the States there are an uncannily high number of Asian immigrant-owned nail salons for lacquer and acrylic tips, manicures, pedicures, whatever... Most of them here I think are Chinese but in other areas Japanese or Korean may dominate... anyway, the general consensus among English-speaking people who patronize these places is the employees all seem to speak fairly fluent English, so when they change over to their native language, are they "talking about me?" It's a silly, irrational fear - what would they possibly have to say about you they couldn't say in English? - but I think it's a common fear when people speak in a language you don't understand while standing right in front of you. In reality, it's just the language they are most comfortable speaking in.

For me it depends on the circumstances. If the other person struggles with the language I could go long with their using thier language more . However, I have been in groups where half spoke a different language and they would continue no matter who was there. That is rude imo.