Do you think genius are lonely?
By scheng1
@scheng1 (24649)
Singapore
July 17, 2011 7:55am CST
Most of us are of average intelligence, and we find it tough and intimidating to talk to persons who are way too intelligent than us.
That is why many people prefer to mingle with those who can understand them, and communicate at their level.
Imagine you have to talk to a genius everyday, and you are interested in dressing and cooking, and the genius is talking about space science, I doubt the conversation can last long.
Geniuses may find it hard to find someone of the same level for companionship.
Do you wish to be born as a genius?
Do you envy them for their great intellect?
Do you think they are lonely?
9 responses
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I think that all highly intelligent people often have trouble maintaining interpersonal relationships as they are often busy doing something brilliant and spending less time socializing. Also, if the average person can't hold a conversation on the same level it does leave little to talk about once pleasant niceties have been exchanged. I do not believe that being a "genius" means one will be lonely, however. Besides, there are plenty of non-genius people in the world who are terribly lonely for one reason or another.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Canellita, yes, I think many highly intelligent people are very lonely, unless they are talking to people of the same interest and intellect.
Hard to imagine our nephew starts to talk to us about calculus when he is just 8 or 9 years old.
i think those parents of genius will have a hard time managing their kids.
Maybe those genius do not even know what is loneliness, since they are so absorbed in their work.
In a sense, they are very fortunate, since they know what is their talent from young, and how to make use of their talent.
Much better than so many of us who still stuck in jobs that we do not like, yet provide income for us.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
31 Jul 11
Hi Canellita, I think it is more frustrating on the part of the parents with normal intelligence.
I wonder how easy or how hard it is to discipline a kid who is ten times or hundred times smarter than the parents.
Most geniuses also do not pay much attention to their diet or other necessities in life.
Hard to imagine how anyone can get Albert Einstein to take care of his own babies when they cry at night.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
27 Jul 11
I think a larger issue for persons of genius is the amount of patience it takes to deal with the less brilliant. The smarter someone is, the faster their brain works; dealing/communicating with "everyday" people who don't have an interest in any type of scholarly pursuit has to be the most frustrating thing. It is very likely they are usually too busy to get very lonely though.
@vivamir (671)
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18 Jul 11
In my opinion I think neither, because as humans we are able to adapt in order for us to form effective business and personal relationships.. we can alter our communication skills to suit another but not on a permanent basis-of course! Such as: trying to teach someone to understand a mathematical equation..
If you dont have a substantial amount of knowledge on a topic matter, you tend to shy away from any related arising conversation/discussion.
I would never wish to be a genius..I enjoy the art of learning too much, I do admire those of a higher intellect, not so much envy them..and as for being lonely- this is dependent on their personality..
@vivamir (671)
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23 Jul 11
Hi scheng1.. you do raise some valids points..however I reckon if you enjoy learning..have an open mind, I think the conversation upheld with a 'Genius' would be invaluable..Its one of the only way to understand the mind of another..through verbal communication!
And its because of this the 'Genius' would feel lonely as you describe it, as no one understands them?.. and I think MYLOT would be a great place for them to socialize- all those intellectual thoughts would begin soooo many great discussions!!! LoL
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Genius people can be lonely at times but I guess their state of solitude contributes to their focus and breakthroughs that help them understand their studies more intensely and more carefully. Being alone doesn't mean that they are lonely. They find the comfort of being one with their mind as a means of exuding their greatest talents that their minds can give. Some of these genius find it more meaningful to mingle with other geniuses as well. As the saying goes, birds of the same feather flock together. Well, all I can say is being a genius is a gift. Being alone most of the time doesn't mean that you are lonely. Most geniuses have corresponded to other geniuses as well and it's their own sense of friendship and camaraderie. I envy their intellect. I would have loved to be a genius and at the same time a friendly person. One who can still empathize with other people of average intelligence but I guess, it's way too impossible to have both.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
23 Jul 11
Hi Penrockerchic, yes, i agree that many geniuses are passionate about their work.
They can work all the time without feeling bored or the need to rest.
i think they were very lucky in that they knew what they have to do, and what they enjoy doing at a very young age.
most of us struggle with finding work that we like, and we can enjoy.
If only we have half the share of intelligence, we would still enjoy life as a normal person, while having work that we still enjoy.
@AgentGulaman (3546)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hmmm...I have to disagree with this one. Geniuses are also human and they need human partners. With this, they definitely have the skills to look for their own mate which can be compatible for them. However, most geniuses end up with their coworker genius developed whenever both of them are doing research or experimenting in the lab. Also, most geniuses tend to be rich and have a nice life which can be a great catch for their partner. No, I don't think they are lonely. Loneliness is subjective and I think whenever they do their thing they always find satisfaction and loneliness won't be an option to them.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi AgentGulaman, yes, I think many geniuses find more fulfillment in their technical or research than the things that interest most people.
I think it is hard for genius to live a life like normal people, and they probably do not want the kind of life we live too.
At least people appreciate their talents, and many of them are rich enough, and do not have to worry about paying mortgage or such things.
I think if we are born genius, we would have more satisfaction with our work, even though our social life is less than normal people.
@hailey11 (45)
• Canada
18 Jul 11
When I was two I learned how to read. Then when I started going to school I could already read huge chapter books. I was labeled a 'genious'. I found it veryt difficult to maitain relationships and struggled with this for years. I eventually became a person of average intelligence. To answer this question, no I wish I wasn't, I do not envy them, and yes they are lonely.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Hailey, I think you must have a very lonely childhood, with high expectations from so many people, and friends who think you are too proud or something.
Fortunately you are not sent to college when you were 12 or 13, you would have found life even more miserable.
I think the same loneliness happens to those who are young sports stars.
Impossible for them to live a normal life like us, when they have to train hours and hours just to compete for a gold for the country.
@bricesong (1)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I think Genius are lonely because they think that there all that and they push people away so they have no friends and they create imaginary friends
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Bricesong, I do not think genius needs to push people away.
It is just that most of us cannot understand what a genius has to say.
Imagine we are talking to a young child of 8 years old, and instead of talking about cartoons and games, the kid talks about calculus and other mathematics formulas, soon we will go away too!
It is very stressful to talk on those hard to understand subjects with people who know better than us.
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I do wish I was a genius, I admire them for their intellect more than I envy them, and I don't think they are all lonely. I try not to generalize. I'm sure not all geniuses go around talking about science 24/7. I'm also sure that they have varied interests, just like people of different education levels do.
I do acknowledge that conversations can be strained and limited depending on education level however. I'm sure that while they may enjoy everyday banter, they also will have that need to talk about other more intellectual subjects.
I can't say whether it's easy or difficult for them to meet people on their same level, but thanks to the internet I think it's easier to find people more similar who have similar interests, so they don't have to feel completely isolated and starved for intellectual conversation and stimulation.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Chastised, yes, we definitely admire them for their intellect.
Actually I envy them for finding their talents so early in life.
Most of us just do not know what we are good at, and we do not really enjoy the work that we do.
We just need to work to earn enough money to support ourselves and our family.
If only we have the intellect of a genius, we would have found a job that we like very much, even to the point of working day and night over it.
I think that is the most fulfilling part of life.
@ayis12 (544)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
sometimes! I guess like some other people. You know what, some people who is really brainy always experience "misundertood" by the others. Because they have different approach to some things. And when that things happened very often then prefer not to talk again. And keep it to themselves. So I guess they are lonely.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Ayis, yes, I think they are lonely too.
Even in fiction, we can see that Sherlock Holmes is a loner.
While the stories mention about Doctor Watson being his best friend, the fact is that nobody can understand how he thinks.
I think that is true in real life too.
After all, the author based Sherlock Holmes on a professor.
i think many very smart people find it hard to explain to people of lesser intelligence.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 11
yes i wish i was born as a genius,
no i don't envy genius people because they have gift.
no i don't think they are lonely but i think many genius people are loner. Most of them more interested in science than interact with people.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
Hi Surfer222, I think genius are not only in science or technical subjects.
They can appear everywhere, just that we do not know them.
i think many prodigals are talented people in science, arts and music.
We may know them only when they were very young, and appeared in the newspaper.
Once they are of a certain age, we do not really want to know about them, unless we are very interested in the subject.
I think many genius find it hard to make friends with people of the same age.
If a 12 years old genius study with 18 years old people, it is hard for him to talk to older people, and also people of his age group.