Those who find fault with everything will never enjoy life.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
July 17, 2011 9:10am CST
There are really a lot of things about life that when you really think about it, there are many faults about them. If you think long and hard enough, you can find some kind of fault with every single thing that ever existed. However that just leads to a miserable existence in many ways. We just need to take a nice breath and rather instead of finding faults in every corner of life, rather focus on the things that make life enjoyable. Life will be much better. Enjoy life, live longer in the end.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Yep, that's about right. I know some people who just looks for other people's faults. They make fun of it so, it's also a form of having fun but one by one, they experience karma. I just watch at the sidelines as they experience bad luck. I know that what goes around, comes around. I've never believed it before but because of experience, it made me look at it as a real thing that keeps things in moderation.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Funny how things do come back around after a fashion. Of course all of the time all it takes is a nice good shock for people to realize the error of what they are doing. Then there are other times where people are never going to really realize that there is an error, and they feel the need to continue. Hopefully the lesson will be learned eventually. Life is balanced, to understand that means peace of mind. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Negativity can be one of the more crippling elements for a person to live through their life. There are many people who feel like they need to pick pretty much everything apart. However that is not a conductive approach to living. In fact, this is one of the more dreadful things a person can do. They are not enjoying life, in fact they are rather much impeding their enjoyment. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Jul 11
I don't tend to associate with those type of people that much. I mean there are times where these people are always on. They are always finding ways to rather continue their complaints. It is so very frustrating and these are among the type of people that I feel rather uncomfortable with. I feel in many ways that they taint me by association. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Positivity tends to be one of the driving forces behind life. There are going to be times where by injecting a little positivity into a dire situation, it can give us the strength to really deal with a lot of everything. There are just many situations where we feel like the amount of positivity that are required could be just slight and it could boost us to the highest heights. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Let us bear in mind that we live in an imperfect world. Hence, we could not expect to find perfection in anything or anyone around this world. If we do, we will be disappointed. When one is tempted to find fault in others, he just have to stop and think about his own faults. No one is faultless in this world so indeed if we are a fault finder, we will be miserably unhappy all the time. Just learn to look at the good things about life and people after all there are lots of them.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
21 Jul 11
The world in general is quite imperfect to say the very least. However, there is no need to really go looking for all of the flaws in life. In fact, we might have found that we are more in the wrong. Still that is a burden for us in general to really bear in the end of it all. The world is rather filled with a lot of faults, but finding them will cause you to not really be all too thrilled with life. There is plenty of positives to be found, just focus on that and life will be much better. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@minniemadz (499)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
As for me, I always believe in looking at the positive side of things. There's always the other side right? If we always find fault with everything, for sure, we can also find goodness with everything :)
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Very well said. I think that we can just as easily find the goodness of everything. However, it is important not to take this too far either. We are going to be blinded by a lot of the bad things in the world and there are some things that are considered to be rather bad that we do need to be aware of. Still that is very true, these people who just as easily see all of the negativity, can see the bright side of life. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@derek_a (10874)
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18 Jul 11
Whilst there are some problems in life, it isn't good to dwell on them. I give any problems my fullest attention as a Zen practitioner, and if there is nothing I can do, I will let it go, after looking for all possible answers. Life is a balance of good times and bad times, and in the Zen tradition, I don't avoid things or go looking for problems. _Derek
_Derek@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
A lot of balance in life. That is really the best way to live the most peaceful existence. If things happen, they are going to happen. We just deal with them to the best of our abilities. However, dwelling on them too much, is not really the best idea in the world. In the end what done is done. Both the good and the bad combined together can allow us enjoy life to its fullest. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
18 Jul 11
Hi megamatt, This is very true and there are many people who live this way and than wonder why they aren't happy! I also like your way of thinking, focus on the things that make life enjoyable. I might add that we should always expect the best from life because we will get what we think about. Blessings.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
A lot of people really do wonder what had gone wrong. They really have no one to really feel as if something is wrong and they try and find even more faults, which is really the worst thing they can do. There are just some people who really are unable to cope with the fact that their own negativity is going to be their doom. Some people just need to take a long deep breath and just think things through. Life will be much easier. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 11
I think that's very true! I have had that kind of approach on many occasions, I would be critising and condemning everything in my own private world. I'm beginning to see things differently now and I'm beginning to realise that there's a lot that I should be grateful for in this life, the very fact that I am alive and breathing for example. There are the days when I still feel pretty low but I try and look on the bright side on most occasions now.
I think the most important thing for me is keeping fit with regular cycling and I indulge in this on a daily basis and I suppose I should be grateful that I am able to do this. Andrew
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Essentially speaking the best part of life is actually living. It is really no more complex than that when you really think about it. The fact is I am able to step forward in life and rather live. Looking on the bright side allows me to bright up my day. It allows for a much more peaceful existence, that leads to some level of harmony throughout my life. There are going to be days that are more easier to accomplish this than others but its a part of life. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I know what you mean megamatt. I feel like my boss is that way! she would often be sooooo negative on things its like freakin crazy!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I have had a boss or two like that(teachers in school as well). It is rather frustrating when someone in a leadership position is like that. Since their attitudes are going to trickle down and strangle the lives of pretty much everyone around them. It is kind of hard to hear these things from someone who has power, as I'm certain there are people who will start wondering. Then again, some people just tend to be miserable, what can I say? Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
18 Jul 11
I like the quote by Kahlil Gibran: "The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose." and I believe that we always have a choice. We don't choose all of the things that happen in our lives but we choose our own reaction. We can focus on the positive aspects or we can find faults and focus on the things that we don't like. It sounds easy, but sometimes the negative thoughts become a habit that we don't even notice. I often experience that, but when I notice my negative thoughts I try to turn them around and focus on the things that I am grateful for or the things that I enjoy.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
That is a very accurate quote. I do agree one hundred percent that we choose how we look at the situation. How we reaction and perhaps more importantly, how we deal with the situation at hand. There are many times where it is just best to take a nice long step backwards. Just take a deep calming breath and firmly assess the situation to the best of our abilities. When the negativity is about to strangle us, we got to really steer the course back. There are times where the faults are almost slapping us in the face, but we got to deal with that. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Its a shame when something like this happens. Hopefully people like you and others will be able to shift things. Of course there is a phrase that describes it perfectly, that old habits die hard. There are people who realize what is going on, but when it does occur, they keep falling back into old habits. Sometimes it is best to take things one day at a time, to really gain the optimal results from the situation at hand. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
In the end, to forgive is truly to live. We must decide whether or not we are gong to be able to move fully on and trying to forgive the faults, even if they are glaring after a time, it is really something that is essential. Life does in fact move on and move forward in a number of ways. Therefore, we are able to really move forward and get through life as it is mostly intended to be lived. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
18 Jul 11
I think you are absolutely right and i am with you because there is always a good and a bad thing attached with every single thing and those who will find fault will never ever enjoy life because they will highlight the negative point of the thing rather than the positive ones.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
There is a mixture of life. Both the good things and the bad things of life. We just got to take them and realize, that we just got to see the brightest side possible. Granted there are many times where that rather bright side is something that is rather dim. However, we really do have to try to see everything that we can in life, so we can live to a fuller future and enjoy life. That's what its all about. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I agree with you dear, and we should just look something in every negative situation on how we are going to deal with it. Enjoy life to the fullest as the always say, and look into the good side of it. Why things happens in such situations. Well, let's just go with the flow of life.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Indeed it is just best if we go with the flow of life. If we don't really go with the flow of life, we are going to crumble underneath our own weight and we are going to really able to frustrate ourselves into quite the tizzy. That is really something that is really what it is all about. To live a comfortable life, we are going to really need to figure out that not everything is wrong, there are some good things. Those who find fault in everything, they will struggle with their success. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@picjim (3002)
• India
18 Jul 11
You have come the exact point which makes life better.No point thinking about faults in us or things around us.Because the more we dwell on those lines the more negative and miserable we become.Let us look at the sunny side of life and we'll find many activities and people which give us joy and pleasure.The more content and happier we are the longer we live.Hope you have a great day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Negativity is that unfortunate thing that creates a harsh environment. Let's face it, if we thought often enough, we would find a lot of faults with everything. Unfortunately, that is not the healthiest thing in the world that we should be able to do. Our time in this world can be rather short when you put things into perspective. Therefore we should not really waste it agonizing all too much. We might find ourselves agonizing and finding faults, that we end up throwing ourselves into an early grave. And that is just not a good thing at all. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Jul 11
Great advice, do you write self help books, kidding.
I think to put the blame we just need to be unaware of our actions now to take the blame our selves, move on, forgive and forget, that takes some effort. Maybe finding whose fault or what situation's fault was an unfortunate event make us subconsciously to find an excuse or something. But you are right, by keep doing that we can't be happy.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Often times it was a rather mutual effort where many people are going to be in the wrong. However we must understand the nature of the situation as it might be. Then after we understand the nature of the situation we can move on. Whether we are ready for it or not, life is going to go on. Therefore by us trying to find the biggest faults, we are not going to be able to let ourselves move on. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated and have a nice day.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Nobody's perfect and we must apply that to ourselves.
With that in mind, we can easily accept mistakes . What is important is we are able to learn from those mistakes and go on living life to the fullest.
We will find life lighter , if try not to find fault in everything and everyone.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Again that is really the best point we can make. In the end, no one is perfect. Nor should we try to be. That is really the worst attitude one can take, as perfection is something that is unachievable. And in many ways, the attempt to achieve perfection is the greatest imperfection. That can lead to a lot of people finding a great amount of fault with pretty much every single thing that one could imagine. Therefore it just leads to misery. Accepting that faults can be found will lead us to a more peaceful and wondrous existence. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 11
Hi, a few months ago i posted about Gratitute Journal. It is a must have habit to write in this journal so you could actually see in paper that in a day there is more than enough of blessing given to us. We cant see the goodness that we have life if our mind wondering or believe that everything remain the same.LOL
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
17 Jul 11
There are a lot of things that have blessed us in the world. People tend to more often see the fact that there are a lot of things that are slapping them right in the place. Time to really figure out what we need to do to get the most out of life. We need to take a closer look at the goodness. Even it if might take a while to see it. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@thetis74 (1525)
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18 Jul 11
Mistakes are natural and they live with us every step of our way. Hence, it takes us back to saying how logical mistakes are because no one is perfect. And if we allow even trivial things to get in our way without even trying to make resolutions as to how life can be lavished without being affected by these factors, then it really does have the potential of making our lives miserable. Let us just live our lives to the fullest and accept and be happy with the precious lives we have. As human beings I am sure God has equipped our mind and soul to handle everything tactfully.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jul 11
You said it and I one hundred percent agree with it for sure. Mistakes are going to be made. That is just one of those things that are a part of life pretty much any way whatsoever that you might decide to slice it. There are going to be numerous times where we are not going to really have everything go completely but to find fault in everything means that we do rob ourselves with the actual ability to enjoy life. And that is really one of the most dreadful things that can happen. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
