When people talk or comment as if they are an authority on you...

I have had this kind of experience before, and I say: I hate this! It is not only some one older or better than me who say thses things, but also other people who has little or no good also do this. Once I had a teacher in college, one day he called the roll in the classroom, and he announced my absence when HE had not mentioned my name and asked me to stand up to show myself! And he mentioned some of my personal information totally in front of all the class! When the break came, I went out and found the teacher. I told him to open his eyes widely to see that I was here, I was NOT missing this class and he would not make a mark on the absence book. And I said what he had just said is personal and I wished he do not say them again in the class. His face was dark and angry, but I didn't care. He should NOT have commented me in front of the class and distorted the truth. He is annoying!

Extremely and not mention exasperating!!! How they consider themselves the authority figures on living "Great Lives" and instructing their not so well versed compatriots!! I read a piece by Paulo where he talks about such individual with a very beautiful analogy to that very annoying neighbor who is always looking over the wall at your garden and dispensing their two-pence worth advice!!! I used to be very tolerant but now i just don't have the patience to mouth mundane platitudes so i just cut them off!! Keep them on the defensive!!! Sounds incredibly bad-mannered but i see no point in wasting my energy and time on advice which even they won't follow!! I was instructed to group people according to how much i care and then put them there and deal with them accordingly but how do you do that when the said person does not know the boundaries without sounding offensive????

Hi Kiran! There is an old Hindi song - "Kuchch to log kahengey, logo ka kaam hai kahna "(People will say something or the other, it is their pass time).. Some people love to talk about others because they want to show that they are better than them and wiser then them. It is not easy to stop them because they may do it at our back. Let them talk anything about us, what they want to, we know what we actually are.

What I hate is when people try to tell me what I need to do and act in such a way that if I don't do it they will be very angry with me. I hate when it's family that does this as I feel like hey I am not a child anymore, I am 24 years old and can do what I please as long as it doesn't hurt anyone, so leave me alone and stop trying to be authoriative with me!

Hi kiran, now you have earn the capability to ignore. There are some people who get pleasure to criticize others. We should not loose temper of hearing loose talks. Once I was very sensitive. I have overcome this. Now I don't give my ears to silly talks. To ignore is the best way to teach the criticizers.

kiranji You know i have taught in colleges for 45 years, many times the corrupt officers, politicians talked to me, as if they are my authority, to admit some candidate with very low marks, or give good marks in papers in which i am chief examiner, i never obliged them, once one bugger could get me transferred from the college you are a teacher and you know things well. thanks for sharing god bless you.

hi firan as a senior citizen I hate it when because of my age and my grey and white hair I am talked down to like I am an imbecile just because I am elderly. I am not senile nor do I have Alzheimer disease so please just talk to me and treat me like an intelligent older women.Some professional people even do this and I hate it. I try to hold my temper but once I told this new doctor'" I am elderly but not senile. So talk to me like you feel I have common sense" and then he settled down to explain what was wrong with me. My primary care doctor treats me like I was younger and I appreciate this so much. Nobody should judge us nor should we judge anybody either.

No one has done that to me but we do exchange ideas which sometimes may go against my own. It is left to me to accept or reject them. That is how I have managed to live myself so far! What you have said can only happen if you make them feel that you are vulnerable.

One of the most irritating moments of my life is when people would just come out of nowhere and intentionally downgrade my self worth by commenting annoying remarks (without being asked) about my personal affairs in life. The worst thing is when they are already judgmental and then try to impose their wrong judgment on us as if they have authority on us. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them. If ever we find ourselves trapped for a while with this kind of people, we'll just pretend to listen and then if we find a way to escape from them, leave them immediately without being harsh. We should never lose our temper. If ever there is good in what they're saying, pick it up and leave the rest to oblivion. You're right,often the best reaction we can give to their annoying remarks is just to laugh it off and ignore them. In our struggle to move on in life with positive outlook, we must get rid of this kind of distressing factor.

It happened to me a few times. When it has been done in public with strangers, I will just have to give it the best face, laugh about the whole thing, put in a joke or two that gives some idea to the contrary or that makes light of the whole thing. Afterward, in private with the person, I will warn him/her about it. Then, next time, I will always give him/her detailed and precise instructions that will even consider unforeseen circumstances, what should be done about it, and when and who to consult. Most likely though, if the person has previously been my confidant, I will stop confiding in him/her and will most likely lose my confidence and friendship.