How does one get over the past?

Hi katie: That's an interesting question in my opinion. And it's actually hard to really get over the past but you can do it. In my opinion you can do this just by admitting that this memory is actually hurting you and that there's nothing you can do to fix teh past but you can change the future. If you realize that I think you'll feel more the need of getting over this bad situation and you'll be free. ALVARO

First of all, you have to accept the fact that the incident happened. It starts fro acceptance and the rest will follow. I say you should focus on your present life and plan for your future. Focus and acceptance are the keys.

Hi katie! I think we can't just shut up out mind and forget about our past. It's there in the memory. In our modern world what I mean electronically we can delete the things that we don't like but not the human memory, i mean for a normal and healthy brain. I think what is best to do with it is just acceptance to what happen, and understanding the nature of the trauma. With your constant exposure to that event, you will get used to and then alter on, your mind will gradually cope up. It doesn't work immediately but it's all in your mind dear, help yourself. If it happen in your childhood that keeps on coming back, well maybe u can a close friend who can talk to you about it, just have someone to listen you.

I think, the best way to forget the past is to relocate. To leave things behind and start a new life. All new. Meet some new acquaintances and everything. Soon, everything will be fine and you'll soon get to accept what had happened in the past and when you accepted it, it will be easier for you to start a new one. :)

Hello, Katie! Yeah, you're right. Everyone has a memory that causes pain and negative feelings. One must just be able to know how to overcome and forget about it. Personally, I have things that I wanted to forget because it caused me so much pain and depression. What I would usually do is go with my friends and have fun with them. By this way, I tend to forget those things. I don't stay all alone because if I'm alone, I tend to think of those things over and it just make me sad and blue. So, what I would do is stay with my friends in order for me to have someone to talk to happy moments and not those negative ones. Later on, I forget those things that hurt me and just turn it as a positive one like, telling myself that I'm not a loser because I gained learning from the experience. I thank God instead for the hurt and misfortune because it made me as stronger as I am now. :)