Ever had a neighbor who yells clearly as if she's beside you?

The next door neighbor, who still lives next to my Mum, used to be terrible when her sons were younger- although they were little terrors.. However, it wasnt just the yelling and shouting- the kids would bang/slam doors, throw objects and even take it out on the street- with their mother tailing behind them! Her sons are teenagers now..and I dont think there are so many bust ups anymore- I might just ask my Mum Lol I think in your case, the mother was just having a bad case of 'anger diarrhea'- the daughter sounds like she was doing the right thing throughout.! And I dont believe it to be justified to yell at your child like this..I hope someone says something to her..must have been embarrassing for the poor child.. if she was doing something wrong, the mother should have calmly explained the error.. so she could learn, not fear or feel humiliated! I hope your situation improves, must be distressing for you (",)

actually my neighbour now is just like that. Not only when she mad but even when she do a usual talk to people her tone is always high. First time i move to this neighbourhood i thought that she was mad at something because her voice was so loud. After i listen to what she said i realize that she's just talk to her friend but her tone is the same as regular person when they're mad. After i ask around i just found out that she was born in a mountain where distance between houses and neighbours are really far so she's grown up with that kind of tone, but still become annoying because we're in the city where distance between neighbours were only few meters only. everyday i can hear what she said to everyone including when she make a phone call.

Go ask her to fly kite. Having such a loud neighbor who doesn't respect the peacefulness in the neighborhood should be told right on her face to tone down her volume and not to be a public nuisance. She is definitely not going to be my neighbor as having her around would only raise my bp.

Yes. all my neighbors do this. It doesnt matter the time either. It could be 3pm or 3am they dont care.

whoa! i think she needs an anger managment course. some people are just so mean to their kids. its not fair cause it will just make her daughter miserable and accomplish nothing. sounds like my mom used to be at me.

Your home sounds like mine. When our neighbours are yelling at eachother we can hear every word. Our neighbours are a couple and they have two children, the mother and the daughter are often yelling at eachother. I don't want to be a part of their arguments, but I can hear everything whether I want to or not. I often turn on the stereo if I am tired of listening to their arguments. We can also hear when they set the table or when they cough. It is an old house, and it is very, very easy to hear the sounds from other end of the house. I really like the house, but I wish we had more privacy...

I hate it when parents yell continuously at their kids (or wives at their husbands). I don't like to go to my brother's house any more because when his wife is there she is constantly yelling at my brother or at one of her kids. The lady is crazy! As far as your neighbor goes, how old is the daughter? Why does the mother want to be there when she is doing the project? Is the daughter too young to go to the place on her own or is it just that the mother is a control freak? Perhaps the "mistake" was to tell her mother that she didn't want her to go with her. When you try to control something that a control freak thinks she controls, they go wild. I hope the situation has calmed down.

I am bad..very baaad. At times I do frustrate. But more than shouting I think I grumble...and nag may be.

Sometimes parents are being childish, over protective and thinking of knowing all before hands, while children are being adamant of becoming an adult thus knowing their own way to live... Arghhhh

Yes I have known people like this and it is really irritating. Not sure if they understand that yelling at their child will get them no where. See I am the type that if I hear someone yelling I phase them out and same with the kids. They don't learn anything this way as it angers them and causes them to shut down and not pay attention. It is due to stress and personalities too that some tend to yell non-stop, gosh how I miss my kids when they were small as in my home you never heard racket. from me and or them.

Good thing that we don't have a neighbor similar to your bel. Back in the day though, every time we visit our grandparents in the province, people seem to be talking aloud. It's as if everyone's deaf and everyone all needed to shout towards each other. Perhaps these neighbor of yours also came from the province...hihihi! What do you think?

Waaaa!!! You beat me friend! You were able to make 2 discussions yesterday and me..oh well,just one,waaaa!!! REally can't do it! Until now,I'm not yet finished replying with my previous posts and I even can't attend then to my friend's discussions,oh my! Will just go back to my old way,lol! Regarding your discussion,honestly,I already experienced yelling at my son but not to the extent that even my neighbors will hear it(well,not sure if they heard it,waaaa!!)My temper was so high my friend that I really had to yell(my instinct,when I'm mad). My son played basketball with his friend in my room and I said don't play with the ball 'cause you might hit the light and it was around 11pm that time(they are still hyper!)And what I've been thinking of,happened! Our flourescent lamp was hit and alas,I have no light in my room that night,haay!

Yelling? Needed anywhere? A solution to something? Just never! Here, i am going to talk about a lady who had this shrilling voice (Is it the right word for a sound like a screech of the truck tires?) She lived at the downstairs of our rented flat then. Her eldest daughter was married to a house just two block away. Sometimes, she would come to the balcony, and talk (or screech or yell) on the mobile phone to the daughter. One day, when the daughter was there in her mother's house, I went downstairs and asked her very politely -' Why do you spend so much money on mobile phone conversation when you can hear your mother's yells from your husbands house?' It was a gesture of my extreme frustration. The daughter understood and apologized on behalf of her mother. But, who can change his/her basic nature. Next morning I heard the mother's screeches again!!!

My neighbors don't understand the concept of being quiet or respecting others' sleep schedules! It got really bad a few months ago. They have two dogs, one is bigger and mellow, the other is small and yappy! They are both tied up outside. Every morning around 6am the little dog would start yapping, and then the bigger one would bark back. As if this wasn't bad enogh, the older woman of the household would come outside and yell at the dogs! You could hear her clear as day, "SHUT UP, PRESCIOUS!" over and over. :( It woke me up every day!

Hi! We've got a lot of neighbors like that. Scandalous neighbors. Not just when they are angry, sometimes, being loud is their normal voice. ^^ These people are what you call "palengkera", talking as if they are in the market selling something. But I'm used to people like that. Or at least I think I'm used to it. lol It's scary sometimes though, when I hear people fighting outside, not in their homes, but outside their houses. Fighting with one another, raising their voices as if they own the world. I just do my best to not listen to them and mind my own business. I don't like hearing their stories anyway.

we have a neighbor too who yells at her children when she gets upset with them. but i think she uses the yelling as her outlet to release all her frustrations in her life. she's very problematic with her married life and career as well. too bad that her children gets the burnt of her angst in life. anyway, to your question, no yelling is not going to help when children make mistakes. on the contrary they tend to not focus on the message but on the yelling and will turn our children against us in the long run. they will develop defense mechanisms such as ignoring, rebelling, answering back, etc. so if we can help it, sit with our children when they make mistakes and discuss the consequences of their actions in a civilized manner. i try not to shout at my kids generally. :)

The neighbors next door to my grandparents yell so loud that you can hear them clear as day. They live in a cul de sac, or basically a cirlce. In any case, you can be in the middle of the circle and hear them yelling as clear as day. It's terrible when they go at it! It's like can you please be quiet already?

For me before I have that kind of attitude I think she depressed in everything in her life that's why they always noisy.

Hi adnileb: Sometimes it's important to make them notice that you feel angry for their behaviour so the first question would be a yes to me. Second, no I don't think that's ok, specially because that's disrespectful to my neighbours and to my own house. I don't think people outside should know tehse problems. I have a neighbour that is exactly like the one you have described and this is situation is so disgusting. She really yells for no reason . ALVARO

I can relate to this post. We have a neighbor who always argue with her husband. It's really annoying cause she yells a lot and at times I hear plates or other utensils hitting the floor. And the way she shouts, I pity her cause one time she almost lost her voice for doing so. The other neighbor of ours, watches television everyday. How do I know? Cause the volume of the television set is so loud that I can guess what show or movie are they watching. We live in a exclusive subdivision so I think people who live there should have some decency and be considerate of others.