Too much jealousy

jealous is normal in relationship, especially when your relationship is still brand new, but in your case, it's over jealous or possesive.you're afraid if he contact to other person and start having negative thinking to him.it can be serious problem for you and him if you can't handle it.try to trust him, try to get close to his friend and knowing his society.if you know his friend well and even his friend become your best friend too, it can help you to trust him and know him better

i feel for you ayis.. i also experience that.. and my boyfriend and i had really a great fight about it.. because he thinks my jealousy thinks that i don't trust him.. you could overcome it.. just always be positive.. it is fine to be jealous but don't let it conquer you because it is bad..

It's normal for a girlfriend to feel that way towards the person she loves. However, there are times when we just need to learn that though we're jealous we shouldn't say it out loud because it would just aggravate the circumstance. Don't get me wrong, I am not a perfect girlfriend. I too have my crazy paranoiah and it had gotten us in a lot of fight and trouble several months ago. I guess it wasn't until I decided not to be very open to him about my thoughts that things were better. You see, you may feel that you and your partner should be open about everything because afterall you are 'partners', however, there are things that need not be said, most especially if those are things that neither one of you have solutions or ways to solve in the first place. Like example, you are jealous about his past loves. I too felt that way. However, I stopped telling him about how I feel about his past loves. Why? He can't do anything about it anymore because that is his past. He cannot go back and redo the things that he had done. Therefore, fighting or talking about it too much isn't going to be healthy in the relationship because you're just hurting yourself and wasting both of your time instead of appreciating the "us" in the relationship. Anyhow, you mentioned that this was 'when you still had a boyfriend' which gives me the thought that you and him separated. It's sad, but I do hope that you'd learn from the mistakes that you did. I hope someday, the next partner would show you that being jealous may be natural, but it could be controlled. And to learn to appreciate the now rather than the before. Have a great MyLot experience today!

its more of a possessive type than jealousy.there are people who are possessive.the partners should differentiate between jealousy and possesssiveness so that the relationship will not be sacrificed.both guy and girl have this trait.

A moderate amount of jealousy is nice. It makes our partner feel important and very much loved. But too much of it can suffocate the relationship, specially the men. Learn to tame your jealousy if you want the relationship to last longer.

its good to be jealous sometimes, it shows yourself and that person that they care. if you are talking about his friends, and you don't want to share him with them even though they came before you, then thats wrong. they were there before you and have probably moulded his life. however, if your talking about not wanting to share him with an ex, then thats perfectly understandable!! tell the ex to get to stepping. people cannot generally be friends with their ex's .. i don't mean he'll cheat or there are feelings there, god no. thats not why i don't think people can be friends with ex's. it's because of the resentment. the time wasted. if you were like friends when you were together and thats why you eventually broke up, because there wasnt much passion, then yeah you can be friends. but if you were a proper couple then no. so if hes friends with his ex's i'd be cautious. but who is it you don't wanna share him with?

jealous is normal...but too much jealous is not good... when you make a relationship, it`s good for us to maintain the relationship... and one of the attempt is avoiding jealous too much

Afterall we all are human being.the emotions always spark off our feelings and specially whenever we see our close friends giving a little attention to us.your feeling towards him is not jealousy.i would like to call it as possessiveness.this thing automatically generates from the heart and you will find that you are unable to control.many of the pairs has gone through several relational problems due to this.but this is axiomatic.So we require to admit it and carry on relationships.

hi ayis, It's a natural feelings if we really love that person It's not stupidity you just love him and he is lucky that you feel the way happy mylotting

Possessiveness and jealousy can make people feel suffocated. This attitude simply do not remove loved you and you do feel trapped in a vice. In addition, too much jealousy affects you and you. It's hard not to be jealous when you love someone and want to belong to you ... but, excessive jealousy,means possession. Control yourself and give permission to breathe, so that always kept in tension, always looking out of range of explanations for your suspicions, tired, and finally, run away.

Being jealous is just normal in a relationship! But, too much is not healthy in a relationship! It will just cause fights and arguments in both of you.. Well, honestly I am jealous kind of person. I get jealous in a reasonable way.. Especially when my guy talks to a girl who's really flirt! arghhh... Being jealous only shows that you care and love him.. and also afraid to lose him! :)

It's not bad to feel jealous especially when it comes to your special someone. When trust is destroyed it can't never be right back that easily, worse not the same trust anymore. Too bad you have to eat your jealousy up just to save your relationship. Cheer up! Someone better will come on your way and try not to feel jealousy at all times. Think that your boy chose you because he loves you and you are far better than those other women.

hi ayis12, jealousy is not bad as long as you have good reason to be get jealous. But too much jealous is bad in a relationship. Mostly, it will become a reason of breaking up, arguments and fighting. Be reasonable sometimes because guys is always a guy. You cannot control them, just give trust. When I was 20 years old and i had bf, I am the same like you. I get jealous all the time even in a simplest reason. I always get doubt on my boyfriend,even I trusted him. Until we reach the 2 years of our relationship then I found out that he has new girlfriend. And he's blaming me for this. He says that because I always get jealous without any reason. Now, he gave me a real reason to get jealous. And it was really hurt. He was my first bf and I am his first gf. It sad to know right? But this is the consequences of my being too much jealous!:(

control your self before it is too late.lots of lovers or couple end thier relations broke up because of jealousy.sad but true.