Learning to say NO. Can you say NO without feeling guilty?

It is really okay to say no especially if there are conflicting obligations that you have to fulfill prior to helping others. Most especially if you have your own family to take care of and a loving husband you feels bad about what others make you look like to him. They need to understand whenever you say no knowing that you have your own family to take care of. I'm sure they know that you are a good person in some other ways, but it is also more important that you are the best mother for your children and the best wife for your husband by putting them first if they need you more when you are somewhere else fulfilling others' responsibilities. So, don't harbor any guilt because it will only stress you out. I could see that you are a really nice person even if I don't personally know you. So, I believe that your family being so close to you knows you better how good you are more than I do.

That is really true. Because the point is that if we feel guilty at something is that it can result to stress because we tend to think about how they feel by declining them. Saying yes would be okay, but only if we don't have other more important things to do. Good day!

That is good. Because we all have the right to refuse a request without harboring feelings of guilt. That we also have to remember that other people's problems are no more or less important than our own, and that we are not required to solve all the world's problems. If we have personal obligations which conflict with requests by others, we can just diplomatically refuse to offer help at that time. And we do not want to let other people's comments generate feelings of guilt.

You are right. Explaining why we can't do something for someone is the best thing to do so they can fully understand why wee cannot be there.

Yes, that is true. What gives the guilt feeling is when we totally refuse to help even if we don't have anything important to do or if we can truly help but just doesn't want to. But I guess that anyone who declines even though they can help doesn't feel guilty at all. Maybe that is just their nature. It gives a good feeling to help whenever we can. Whatever that we don't have to feel guilty of is just healthy. Whether we say yes or no, as long as there is no guilt, then we wouldn't be stressed out. Thank you.

People who truly care can also truly understand. I guess they can also see our apparent situation so they won't have to feel bad being refused to.

That's right! We can't harm someone by being true to our self in the first place. Just always mean what you say, if it's a yes then it must be a yes and no if it's no.

Telling the truth is always the best thing. And the people who knows you well being truthful to them will surely think that your refusal is also as honest as you are.

That's right miessy. That is what I do too. If I don't have other things to do, I would be glad to say yes especially if it is for the people we most care about.

I think that it is okay. That it is okay that you don't need to overcome it and worry if you refuse because you can explain to them well why you can't say yes sometimes. If you want to say no sometimes then you can just explain why you can't do it. and I am sure that they will understand. Then you'll have peace of mind and not worry about it afterwards.