A Big Wedding vs a Good Marriage?

I think now days a good marriage should win hands down. Women used to plan for their marriage for years. They had hope chests and all of that. It was a big deal. I just don't feel that that is as important now days as it used to be. People just don't have alot of money to spend on one day of bliss.

As a guy, and a cheapskate, I'd rather have a simple wedding. A courthouse date would even do! But what do I know, I'm just a guy. I know that a lot of women friends I know wanted, or went through big weddings. And what is one day, as compared to the rest of a couple's lives?

I don't think it really matters what the wedding is like. The wedding is not the marriage. Yes, there are many women who do not care for a big wedding. The way I see it, the less money spent on the wedding, the more money that can be spent for the honeymoon and even go towards a house and other necessities. A big wedding is not really necessary and it seems like noone but the bride and groom really likes going to them anyway.

You made me laugh with your last statement "ps. I only want the honeymoon!" (^_^) Well,if you asks me, i will also say same thing, honeymoon,or spent the money for a grand honeymoon than a grand wedding. I will choose the good marriage...and spare the big wedding expenses for our honeymoon.

I would pick a good marriage. A big wedding, well, that went out of style in the 80's. However, I have had a big wedding and what seemed to be a good marriage. I have been there and done that. Now don't get me wrong, the perfect woman deserves both. The woman I am with now should have been the one that I married many moons ago. She deserved to have a perfect wedding and a perfect marriage. She had neither. I would marry her now, but I can no longer afford a big wedding. I can however, just get married. Well, after my divorce is final. But I would pick a perfect marriage any day.

I don't see the point in spending so much money on one day. i love my partner to bits and when we decide to tie the knot I don't care how we do it. All that will matter is that we will have declared our love and promises to each other.

I would prefer a good marriage. I had a Huge wedding...not because we wanted it but because the family insisted. In our culture, the bride's parents pay for the wedding...and though my dad and I insisted on a small wedding with just family and friends (or even a courthouse wedding), the extended family and my mom insisted on a huge wedding to keep up with the family tradition. So, we gave in to that. AND....we didn't have a honeymoon!!! I think my husband's planning one this year (12 years after we got married!)

A big wedding is only the frosting on the cake, and what good is frosting without a cake? Hubby and I got married at a court house in Arizona, and then we came to Canada, and had another wedding at a Danish club we belong to. The reason for this second wedding was to celebrate our cultures with family. We had some Russian in there too, for him. We wanted to get MARRIED first, and then have a wedding later. We were actually married for a whole year, before we had the wedding, believe it or not. If people want big fancy weddings that's just fine, but they'd better have a marriage to support themselves, first.

If I have to choose one of them, needless to say that I prefer to have a good marriage. A big wedding means nothing to me if I am not happy with my marriage. As I get married to have a better life with my love, rather than having the wedding show to others. My colleague had cost a lot for her wedding and she prepared quite a lot before it. Can you imagine that she even bought two wedding gowns before the wedding? So I teased that she couldn't divorce easily since she had cost so much in the wedding. It was not only about the money, but also the time, energy and so on. It must be impressing for her and her spouse:) I love China

Definately a good marriage....It has always amazed me that people take a year to plan and accumulate all the things needed for a big wedding then the ceremoy is over in 15 minutes and two to four hours later the whole shebang is all done with...with a big price tag attached to it....

Could a person have her cake and eat it to? That is what I would want! I huge wedding and a good marriage! It can happen! I am sure it has happen! That is the way I would want it if it would ever happen!

wedding is for the society to know that two persons are in love with each other and they want that love to be binding so they ask the blessing of the people..there are weddings which are simple or extravagant,civil or church type of..depending on the budget..thats the first base..marriage is for the two wed couple only..either it is a good marriage or a bad marriage..this is a second base... and so for me...i dont have to pick one..ill have to pick both(ooppss,sorry)because i want a fairytale like kind of relationship,something like 'and they live happilly ever after'...:)

A big wedding will not guarantee you a good marriage. a small intimate wedding can give you just as good a chance at a good marriage and a happy life. it isn't about how big the ceremony or the reception is. it's about what you get from the relationship that makes the marriage good.

Of course a good marriage is more important than a big wedding. Unless you're a wedding-addict. Haha! Big weddings are just short-term happiness, while good marriage on the other hand would give you a lifetime happiness. So it's a matter of, "how long would you like to stay happy?" :)

Can I have both? A big wedding and a good marriage. But if only one, I think it is better to have a a good marriage than a big wedding. Wedding are just ceremonies, though it is important. It happens only once(if you marry once). Having a good marriage is your day to day. If you have good marriage, your life is happy, happy for a long time. That kind of happiness can't be replaced with any money, things or any valuable materials on earth. Having a good marriage means your family is happy and your children will grow in a complete family.

If I could only choose one, I definitely opt for a good marriage. I would love to have a dream wedding where it is a huge thing. My dream wedding would be really dreamy and there are many people. I would also want to have a long red carpet for me to walk. Plus, I wanna change lots of gowns that night and be the prettiest prettiest lady there. However, in real life, all these cost money and unless we are able to afford such lavish amounts, many of us just settle for much less. However, if i have to choose, I would rather want a good marriage. what's the point of having a grad wedding but in the end I don't have a good husband?

My wedding was very but very small by judge in my grandmother's house. But for me it was very special because I was marry the man I love. And for me that is all that matter. A big wedding not for you, is for the people you invited and no matter how beautiful everything is, there will be always someone criticizing. I believe is truly love exist between a couple, no matter if the wedding is big or small. What matters is the good marriage they are going to have together. I'm happy to say that perhaps my wedding was really small but my marriage is really really big in love. That's makes me the luckiest girl in the world.

Well, I have had both; the big wedding and the courthouse. I would much rather have the courthouse wedding because I am much happier with my 2nd husband.

Big wedding is far off better than good marriage, if you'll only look for temporary happiness. But, if you're looking for permanent and solid satisfaction, good marriage is a better pick. What's the use of grand wedding, if in the end it's not a happy ending? I don't hate celebrations for it show the outward excitement of the parties involved but exaggerating it, is not useful. You can save money for future use. What's the use of spending a lot when in fact you know you will use much money for starting up a family? For my personal opinion, love weighs heavier than money. Money can't buy all the happiness around so as real love. Rich people tend to love divorces for they have plenty of bucks while financial unfortunate ones hold on to fill each other with love even though there is lesser money.

If you know the marriage isn't going to last I guess a big wedding helps make the big lie seem more believable to others. It is less for the people involved and more for those who witness it.